trying to get pregnant

kknapp21

i know this seems like an odd question but my husband and i are trying to get pregnant and it seems that after sex some of his sperm falls out of me when i stand up, is that normal or something to worry about?

Budo.Judo.Kev

Not unusual in my experience.

aidan_walsh

Not unusual at all. Gravity only works in one way.

takola

Sounds perfectly normal to me too. Don't worry too much!

Good luck

Ruu_Old

Its normal, best of luck OP.

athena 2000

Remain in a horizontal position for a while if you wish to optimize your chances. Gravity is not your friend.
Do I sense a troll? :cool:

BC

Its completely normal, where else would the semen go??!

When you orgasm your vagina contract's to act like a vacuum for the sperm
it's nature's way of making your chances easier to concieve!
So have plenty of fun trying!


also remain lying down with your leg's against the wall or something

twanda

100% normal - don't worry about it - it only takes 1 anyway

kknapp21

thanks everyone, i felt somewhat dumb for asking, but my husband and i were just wondering. also, are there any positions that make getting pregnant easier? we just do it missionary normaly.

twanda

babycenter.com has some info:

http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/preconception/gettingpregnant/1812.html

Good luck

Trinity

Place a pillow under your bottom when making love, give the sperm a headstart

when he cums stay lying for a while with the pillow still under so the your hips are tilted - more sperm will get up that way.

MrsA

You would find loads of help on www.magicmum.com
There is a section there for women who are TTC. They are a great very helpful bunch.
I should know I am one of them!!
MrsA

DaDa

coolsmileygirl wrote:

When you orgasm your vagina contract's to act like a vacuum for the sperm
it's nature's way of making your chances easier to concieve!
So have plenty of fun trying!


also remain lying down with your leg's against the wall or something

Couldn't agree more

shoegirl

Erm . . . I suppose you could stand on your head for a while or something?

Would seem logical that gravity would take over once you return to vertical.

Beruthiel

kknapp21 wrote:

is that normal or something to worry about?

Of course it's normal.

Go watch The Big Lebowski, not only will you have a good laugh, but Jeff's 'lady friend' (who's not his girlfriend) does all the right things in order to conceive

kknapp21

thanks everybody. we have been having sex every day, sometimes twice, more so when i'm ovulating, but the thing is, i've done the legs up and pillow under me, but i got my period, and i'm not too worried about that, but i got it a week early. my period is like a schedualed train, never late, never early, should i be worried?

Nevyn

Give it 6 months, do some research into healthy eating which can improve your health and hances and don't for get your folic acid.
If after that time nothing happens have a chat with your dr.

seamus

Anecdotal evidence suggests that getting pregnant the first time takes the most effort, though I'm not sure if that scientifically backed up. As Thaed says, give it six months, and if you're still having no joy, a trip to the doctor may help.

6th

Dont forget he can be doing stuff too. Its not alll down to the woman.

He should be taking zinc and making sure he's not over heating down there - nice loose underwear and none at all in bed. Take a break from the sex for a bit and just cuddle, stress doesnt help.

Best of luck with it, i'd be hoping myself to have another one on the way before christmas.

6th

seamus wrote:

Anecdotal evidence suggests that getting pregnant the first time takes the most effort, though I'm not sure if that scientifically backed up. As Thaed says, give it six months, and if you're still having no joy, a trip to the doctor may help.

Fisrt one was easy enough for us but at the moment we're not doing anything to not have a baby and no sign yet.

Its different for everyone.

littlebug

It happened pretty much straight away with our first but our second took a year. The fact that you are having regular periods is a good sign that everything is in working order. They can sometimes go a bit out of whack (week early, week late) for no real reason but that can make getting pregnant a bit more difficult!

If you're under 35 then your GP probably not even consider referring you on for investigation unless you've been trying for a year. If you're over 35 then I think 6 months is sufficient to warrant investigation. When I mentioned it to my GP he just said "ah don't worry, relax it'll happen". Great eh? What I did do though was make an appointment with my local family planning clinic and just got them to check me over, do a smear etc. While I was there the nurse said "you know that you are ovulating? I think you should go and ring your husband!". My little lad is nearly 2 now!

How long have you been trying? It does take a few months for most people. As already said watch the diet, no smoking, take folic acid.. and try to keep it fun!

LegacyUser

Keep going at it, hammer and thongs and I'm sure you'll get a BFP in
jig time !

the Guru

kknapp21 wrote:

i know this seems like an odd question but my husband and i are trying to get pregnant and it seems that after sex some of his sperm falls out of me when i stand up, is that normal or something to worry about?

thats perfectly normal, don't worry about it, maybe you should raise your legs up after sex or put a cushion under your bottom to help it on its way.

RainyDay

kknapp21 wrote:

thanks everybody. we have been having sex every day, sometimes twice, more so when i'm ovulating,

This could be part of your problem. If I recall the advice we got when we were 'trying', it was not to have intercourse frequently, but to abstain from intercourse for 2-3 days before ovulation and give it one 'best shot' during ovulation.

the Guru

Maybe looking into getting a ovulation kit this will give you a better time line also sometimes you may ovulate early, and loose the egg and you'll have nothing to fertilise, abstaining for 2-3 days before hand allows your husbands sperm to build up, but yes this is correct, have you got your husband to check his sperm in a fertility clinic (sorry if this has been mentioned before)

kknapp21

no i haven't gotten him to check out his sperm. we have really only been trying for two months. what else is folic acid in though? i know it is in some cereals, but i can't seem to find it in anything else.

Nevyn

Got to a chemist and you can buy a packet of folics acid tablets.
There are even multivitamen products targeted at women who are considering getting pregnant which include folic acid.The importance of folics acid.

Look at your diet and your wieght, and consider cutting out drink, lowing caffine consumption and eating more organic foods, the healthier you are the better the chances you have of getting pregnant, the healthier your baby will be and the easier the pregancy will be on your body.

Talliesin

The standing on your head malarky probably has no effect. On the other hand it probably doesn't hurt.

Similarly, it's unlikely that trying a position other than missionary is going to help you conceive, though it could make trying more fun, which in turn is psychologically beneficial.

As RainyDay says, repeated intercourse seems to be less successful than concentrating on the time around ovulation. Don't get fanatical about it, and make it into a chore.

Marksie

Talliesin wrote:

which in turn is psychologically beneficial.

One of my relatives tried for YEARS to get pregnant... they decided to adopt and within six months she was pregnant...
Similarly an ex work colleague fell into tha same category

Sometimes one can try too hard!

Khannie

I'd echo what Thaed said. Folic acid supplements are a very very good idea. Boots also do a "mum to be" range, which also includes omega 3 DHA (helps to build brain mass in early childhood). There are other similar supplements available.

Also, you might want to try out the ovulation "pee on a stick" kits in your local chemist. They're around €35.

Beruthiel wrote:

Go watch The Big Lebowski, not only will you have a good laugh, but Jeff's 'lady friend' (who's not his girlfriend) does all the right things in order to conceive

Didn't really like this film, but nearly wet myself laughing at the scene in question.

Good luck! Have fun!

LegacyUser

You say your last period arrived a week early.
If it was significantly lighter than your normal period, it could be implantation bleeding not a period.

ie you may already be pregnant.

kknapp21

implantation? wrote:

You say your last period arrived a week early.
If it was significantly lighter than your normal period, it could be implantation bleeding not a period.

ie you may already be pregnant.

see, that's what i was thinking, it was somewhat earlier, and my period usually comes on the 22nd of every month, but last month is was on the 19, and this month, i just got it today on the 16, i'm not sure though...maybe i'll take a pregnancy test to see.