pubic hair

LegacyUser

hey, recently got a new bf who cant stand the natural look as its not nice for going down on someone. i dont really mind getting rid of it and it doesnt bother me either way but i might as well do this small thing for him.
but waxing seems painful as hell so he suggested shaving. now from experience could any of you tell me how to go about this and does it grow back funny, like extra hair growth and does it move onto the thighs and up towards the stomach?

oulu

I like the landing strip on a woman's pussy,

Santa Claus

As a guy I can't comment on regrowth etc, but my ex used to prefer waxing as it lasted longer (she had always shaved but was suprised at how much less waxing hurt than she expected).

But be sure to leave some hair....nothing as unattractive in my opinion as a girl who is comepletely bald down there (kinda looks pre-pubescent).

LegacyUser

I'd recommend waxing although it's harsh on the skin, if you choose to shave use a good quality razor, moisturise to within and inch of your life and use a good after-shaving balm, this will minimise the risk of horrid ingrown hairs. I also wouldn't recommend going for the bald look, tidy it up and keep it nicely trimmed, think a neat little triangle or a wide-ish landing strip is a lot hornier then a scalped pussy.

BC

Don't shave the whole lot! Your skin will be in bits if you do and that won't be pleasant for anyone. If you really want to get rid of it all then waxing is the only way.

Would you not think about just tidying it up a bit rather than going the whole hog just cos your boyfriend likes it like that? Keep the bikini line trimmed (immac if you don't like waxing) and trim the rest of the hair short regularly.

if you shave lightly with the grain (so not smooth) the ingrown hairs problem should be minimised
and i'd stay well away from moisturiser

[Jackass]

Landing strip ftw!! Defenatly sort out that bush anyway

Wurly

Guys, can you please stop using the word 'pussy'!! Its vulgar and offensive.

metrovelvet

If your going to go the whole way be careful. I know girls who have vomited from the pain of a brazillian.

Also - if your going to do it, ask him to reciprocate. Its only fair.

ircoha

metrovelvet wrote:

If your going to go the whole way be careful. I know girls who have vomited from the pain of a brazillian.

Also - if your going to do it, ask him to reciprocate. Its only fair.

Why?

Terry

don't shave it.
there's nothing worse than stubble on a woman.

spurious

It's your business what you do with it. It's your body. He can like it or not, it's what YOU choose to do with it will happen.

Don't change yourself for him. Who told you it's not nice to go down on someone who is natural - him?

ircoha

fuzzyhoney wrote:

hey, recently got a new bf who cant stand the natural look as its not nice for going down on someone. i dont really mind getting rid of it and it doesnt bother me either way but i might as well do this small thing for him.
but waxing seems painful as hell so he suggested shaving. now from experience could any of you tell me how to go about this and does it grow back funny, like extra hair growth and does it move onto the thighs and up towards the stomach?

Start by trimming with some like a beard trimmer: http://www.wahlclipper.com/ for example and use the fitting that keeps the blades away from the skin.[ same as the different number blades for haircuts but smaller]

You can get a very light fairway as opposed to the existing deep rough, with out the stubble effect.

The trimmer will thin it out as well as shorten.

Shaving with a razor can be tricky and the cuts can be quite painful and make the pitch unplayable for several days.

I cant recommend shaving.

Re the extra hair growth u can ask in the different places that do it around town for some input.

The theory with waxing is that after a certain number of times the hair becomes less strong.

I lived in Spain for a while and was a regular waxing customer, the growth got stronger and longer:)

metrovelvet

ircoha wrote:

Why?

Because its expenisve and painful maintenance. If you are going to ask someone to do that then you should do it too.

LegacyUser

Jesus, can we lay off the self-righteous nonsense?

My gf uses veet or immac, works a treat

kittex

fuzzyhoney wrote:

hey, recently got a new bf who cant stand the natural look as its not nice for going down on someone. i dont really mind getting rid of it and it doesnt bother me either way but i might as well do this small thing for him.

But what do you want to look like and feel like? It's your body and he can asks all he likes but it's not his right to persuade you into anything.

You sound very young and maybe you haven't tried these things - by all means do try but remember that your body is yours and changing anything on a man's whim can be a bad idea.

Guys go down on girls with hair all the time. Most men see it as attractive, as a sign if maturity and sexuality. I myself can't stand a bare chest on a man as it's too childish looking.
As other posters have said, try a compromise. Trim it back, wax or Immac the bikini line and that should be plenty. Once you start shaving down there it's a hell of alot of maintenance - apart from the worry of shaving rash and ingrown hairs.
Do you do cycle or anything that causes friction around the top of your legs? If so no way should you shave as the blunt re-growth will feel horrible.

Waxing is softer re-growth but as said, can be rather painful. Depends on yourself.

Oh and neither of these things used on the pubic area, will cause hair to magically start growing on your tummy...

LegacyUser

i have to say i used to shave all the time and what most posters have said is true, it grows back so strong and stubbly it's horrible, and it can feel really uncomfortable. once i started waxing i couldnt go back to shaving, and honestly it's really not that painful, only if you're stressed about it.
you could start just getting a "small" wax like leaving the hair in the more painful areas. only, i used to go all the time in France but it's just so expensive over here!
whatever you do, don't try waxing diy for your first few times get it done!
good luck with the defuzzing but seriously you should also tell your bf to deal with it and get him to do something in return, coz if you are and were comfortable with your hair then he should accept it. (my opinion)

LegacyUser

Look if he likes hair free, he likes hair free, it's his kink and if they break up it's easy to grow it back.

I've never tried waxing, but from what I've heard, the key is to make sure it's nice and long before you get it waxed, that way the wax has something to grip.
(Also less of the wax is trying to pull off your skin)

Immac is good, you're not meant to use it on the really delicate bits though. Probably best to use the stuff for sensitive skin and make sure to do a patch test on a small area first.
Again I find personally it works better after at least a week of regrowth.

In terms of shaving, it's not that difficult, but it's SCARY the first time you do it coz you'll be terrified of cutting yourself.
Use a brand new razor
Trim the hair first
Use lots of lubrication - soap or shaving foam
Use a mirror - stand over it
Best thing is for each side, use one hand to cover the delicate bits and one side while you work on the other side
It gets much easier with practice.
An electric razor is actually a much better option than wet shaving, but it's more difficult to get it smooth. There isn't the worry of nicks and cuts with it which helps alot.

Usually I use a combination - wet shave most of it and then get the last stray hairs and really awkward bits with the electric razor. I use a bit of E45 afterwards to soothe the skin down. (You can always get him to do this bit)

Maintenance is a bad alright, I've never really had any discomfort with it growing back.

doctor evil

I used to shave and found that more hair grew back, very annoying and high maintenance. Its different for everyone.

johnnyrotten

Don't forget to post some pics when you've the job done!

Zulu

metrovelvet wrote:

Because its expenisve and painful maintenance.

Which she's prepared to do for her boyfriend.

If you are going to ask someone to do that then you should do it too.

How utterly childish.
Perhaps she doesn't like that look :rolleyes: Do everything boil down to this with you Metrovelvet? Wouldn't you ever do something for someone with out turning it into some issue?

metrovelvet

Zulu wrote:

Which she's prepared to do for her boyfriend.
How utterly childish.
Perhaps she doesn't like that look :rolleyes: Do everything boil down to this with you Metrovelvet? Wouldn't you ever do something for someone with out turning it into some issue?

Im starting to feel like my pigtails are being pulled in the sandbox by you and that you are borderline obsessed with everything I say.

Get a grip.

Strokesfan

I think Metrovelvet's kinda right and you should let her have her opinion. Guys just seem to be horrifed if asked to step-up their personal grooming routines...

dudara

Zulu and metrovelvet - lay off it. Take it to PM if you wish to continue.

All other posters, please avoid use of vulgar words for the pudenda. Some people do not like it.

Male posters - Do not post solely to state your preference, or sexual turn-ons. Only post if you actually have something to contribute.

dudara

LegacyUser

thanks for all your replies.
tbh i dont like being too hairy down there, nothings wrong with a bit of hair so it was unlikely i''d wax /shave the whole thing completely, but i like this landing strip idea.
at the same time its not really a big issue if i do or not get rid of it so as much as i thank everyone for their comments about whats right for me and not changing for a guy this really isnt a deal breaker or a issue for either me or my bf, its just something nice i thought i'd do for his sake and im sure i'l enjoy the rewards as he'll spend more time then he already does down there.
and im 19 btw i noticed some ppl were looking for my age, and no, no photos will be displayed tut tut.
its moreso he hates gagging on hair so its not a matter of him not finding my hair attractive its just he doesnt want it to interfer with what he's doing

i would use immac or veet but all those types sting me including those for sensititive skin

i think i'l even try laser since i used to use immac as a early teen for swimming but i guess my skins changed since then. plus i like the neater look and it would make me feel better too.

Blazer

metrovelvet wrote:

Because its expenisve and painful maintenance. If you are going to ask someone to do that then you should do it too.

yep but you try walking with your dangly bits scraping against stuffle..:eek:

Zulu

Strokesfan wrote:

I think Metrovelvet's kinda right and you should let her have her opinion. Guys just seem to be horrifed if asked to step-up their personal grooming routines...

Yes, well this isn't about guys personal grooming routines. This is about the OP looking for advice on how best to groom herself, and what she should look out for.

Deadevil129

Veet for sensitive skin all the way. Bearing in mind you can get a couple of types, there's the one that washes off with a sponge and from personal experiance I think it's way too harsh for the skin down there, I was left with a lovely and painfull rash for days after trying it.

The type of Veet that you kinda scrape off with this funny shaped green thingy works for for me (sorry I have no idea what it's called!) The normal one didn't do anything bad to me but I just felt that the one for sensitive skin felt a little less harsh or something... I suppose it is a sensitive area. There's a warning on that saying not to let it near genital areas but tbh it never did me any harm.

[Jackass]

Sorry not being crude and I don't mean to go off topic, but would this stuff work on your balls? Or is that a really bad idea?

Is the green thing sharp?

cupsoftea

Waxing is extremely painful, nearly always. It is also very expensive. It will cost a few hundred euro a year to maintain in Dublin- which is a lot of money to me and i'm 10 years older than the OP. And that is for the basic bikini wax. I've never got the whole lot off, my beautician has told me the stories of tears and screams and that people rarely come back for it a second time. It cost 60 euro a go in my beautican's as well so the plain old bikini wax is the way to go.
But be prepared for ingrown hairs, infected follicles etc. so you'll need to moisturise and exfolliate.
Shaving is definately not a good idea. I hate getting stubble rash from kissing so wouldn't want to inflit that on my bf.
I too prefer to be tidy down there be make sure you are doing it for yourself.

I don't think anyone should ask you to be less hairy, more skinny, blonder, bigger breasted or to wear red nail varnish or whatever to cater to their little fantasies about what women should be like. As all the male posters like to say here that they all like to look at women in porn but want to be with real women in real life. Real women are hairy, so be careful how far you go to please your boyfriend.

chump

Nothing comes close to getting the hits a thread in PI about pubic hair maintenance gets.

GO 4 IT GRL

Deadevil129

Nick wrote:

Sorry not being crude and I don't mean to go off topic, but would this stuff work on your balls? Or is that a really bad idea?

Is the green thing sharp?

Hehehe, no it's not sharp in the slightest so don't panic about that, it's designed for scraping off the hair and cream but don't worry, that might sounds bad but it's a walk in the park in comparison to shaving.

As for whether it'd work on your balls or not... well... I've been using it for years on myself but I'm not a guy so all I can do is offer you advice based on my experiance. Use the one for sensitive skin (If you're looking in boots this type of Veet is the one that comes in cardboard packaging, juts make sure it says "For sensitive skin" on the side or you'll be paying the price later). Test it out beforehand, just try out a tiny patch somewhere on your balls, leave it for a certain amount of time then scrape it off and give it a day or two to see how the skin reacts, if all seems well than have a go on getting rid of as much hair as you want. It's a good idea to trim the hair beforehand I think, not too much, but just to get rid of excess hair. If there's too much hair then ou just might miss bits of it with the cream and it wont work as well. Also, make sure you leave it on for long enough this is where it's kinda tough to strick a balance. The packaging says five minutes but I've found with pubic hair that's not long enough, I figured it's because it's more coarse than most body hair, however leave it on too long and you'll damage the skin. 8 minutes usually does it fine for me but I don't count; I just put it on and do something else, then when I go back to it all the hair comes away really easily. Don't leave it on for long enough and the hair wont come off... basic common sense really.

Wash that area with water when your done and just as a precaution I used to put a thin layer of sudo cream on myself... It probably wasn't necisary put I was paranoid from reacting badly to these things before.

ircoha

chump wrote:

Nothing comes close to getting the hits a thread in PI about pubic hair maintenance gets.

GO 4 IT GRL

Exactly: as of now 630+ views and 30 replies in 10 hours, most of which are off topic

I posted http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2054979083

on 19th in Parenting and have 58 views and 2 replies:(

chump

ircoha wrote:

Exactly: as of now 630+ views and 30 replies in 10 hours, most of which are off topic

I posted http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2054979083

on 19th in Parenting and have 58 views and 2 replies:(

Agreed. I personally think this thread (and similar) are more suited the Fashion/Appearance forum, or perhaps the Vanity forum. Whatyathinkaboutthatoneeh?

AngryBadger

kittex wrote:

Guys go down on girls with hair all the time. Most men see it as attractive, as a sign if maturity and sexuality.

Did I miss that memo? Never ever thought about female pubic hair as a sign of maturity and sexuality...stupid statement tbh.

OP (just so I don't get banned) just be sure you're comfortable with whatever you're getting done, maybe talking to a close friend would be a better idea than posting here, especially since you've never trimmed/waxed your pubic region before.

dudara

Chump and ircoha - Stay on topic.

Final warning - the next smart ass comment gets banned.

AngryBadger

ircoha wrote:

Exactly: as of now 630+ views and 30 replies in 10 hours, most of which are off topic

I posted http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2054979083

on 19th in Parenting and have 58 views and 2 replies:(

Isn't there a forum devoted to parenting? So shouldn't you be posting in THAT forum about parenting and parenting issues?

StormWarrior

don't shave, the regrowth is itchy and painful and its horrid to get stubble rash down there. don't use hair removing cream, i did that once, accidentally got some inside and was terribly burnt.

Go to a good salon and get a proffessional wax (make your boyfriend pay for it!) I get brazilian waxes freqently. The pain is NOT that bad, and it is over quite quickly. It is SO worth it. It feels amazing and lasts for up to 6 weeks. Also it soon grows back less and less. I get barely any regrowth now as i've been waxing there for 4 years.

dudara

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dudara

Bob the Builder

dudara wrote:

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dudara

I suppose he deserved that one!

dudara

Nevf - you just about qualify as well for commenting on it.

Will people please stay on topic?

Nickibaby*

OP i get waxed down there every 6 weeks or so it is quite painful but in between waxes i usually shave it. I've never gotten an ingrown hair or anything and i've been doing it for ages. So i wouldn't worry about that like alot of other posters have said. Not everyone gets ingrown hairs.

I find it good for hygine reasons and my boyfriend doesn't complain either

Edited to say you asked about regrowth and personally i think it grows back fine i let it once. When it first starts to grow back it can be a bit stubbly and i'd say unplesent if anyone was to dare go down on you when it's like that but it should be fine after a few weeks if you choose to let it grow again

Seraphina

i would say go for a trim, and perhaps just an ordinary bikini wax to tidy things up. that way you can gauge whether or not waxing will be too painful for you. i wont lie, its painful, but not nearly as painful as people make it out to be. it just depends on your skin type really. i definitely think its worth it. the re-growth is alot softer i find, much slower, and the whole hair-free thing makes it much more sensitive... in a good way if you're going to go the whole hog, go for a place that specialises in brazilians and those kinds of waxing, they have much more experience. i found brazilia (in dublin city centre) very professional and would definitely recommend them.
it can be expensive tho, perhaps considering asking your bf to split the cost with you or something like that.

Lurk

3479823 wrote:

Jesus, can we lay off the self-righteous nonsense?

My gf uses veet or immac, works a treat

Veet is Immac...name changed a few years ago.
Shaving or waxing are definitely more trouble than they're worth - you're bound to get rashes/ingrowns/stubble every now and again. Just trim the entire area back with a small scissors. Most men I know couldn't care less about a woman's style 'down there'....they're just happy to be granted access

Rogueish

Try to trim it back a little first. There are bikini trimmers out there (Remington have a good one it has different length settings). Trim to mid length see how it feels. Then you can go shorter if you want - if you don't it just means that it is easier to get it waxed. The long length of the hair means that the wax gets more of a painful pull - short length and it is too short for the wax to grip - mid length is good for waxing.

I've been waxing my bikini line for years and keeping the rest of it trimmed but if you want to try a brazillian good luck you are braver than I

Before I waxed I used to shave and it just didn't suit me. I got terrible shaving rash and the stubble was torture as it grew back (and if I shaved the stubble when before it became torturous then the rash would be worse - I just couldn't win).

The best of luck to you.

metrovelvet

yep but you try walking with your dangly bits scraping against stuffle..

There's no stubble when you wax.

Dont shave. If the pain is too much some people take painkillers before they go in. Its most practical if the practitioner pulls hard enough that s/he pulls the roots out - grows back much slower that way.

LegacyUser

Just like to say to the people being all self righteous about "its your body" and "you don't need no man" and all this **** to listen to what you're saying.
I've been with my g/f for the last 2 years and over the last year or so we've become more comfortable with each other in all ways including sexually. We both agreed that we don't like too much pubic hair, as it's offputting for us during oral sex. (I voiced that opinion moreso) So she started shaving and had no problem with it. I can't understand how a man would like the "natural" look as some people put it. It's like watching a 70's porno, eh no thanks! Nobody wants it to be bald, just well trimmed and I don't see any issue with that.

LegacyUser

just wanted to say thanks for the advice. i ended up trimming it close then shaving at the top. i also put moisturier down there. haha maybe i'l get creative and make designs next time

LegacyUser

waxing would be the best but too much effort!
if you can't use veet what i do is use lots of baby oil and a sharp razor then wash the oil off and finish with talc ... works for me

doctor evil

If you do wax get your bf to split the cost, it doesn`t come cheap.

daiixi

I know the OP has already replied with their solution and OP, great for finding something which works for you.

Although if you are going to go the Brazilian route make sure you go somewhere which uses hot wax and not strip wax. It doesn't hurt anywhere near as much although it is a little bit more expensive. Also make sure you invest in a product which reduces ingrown hairs because they're ugly and painful!

After a few years of waxing hair growth does slow down and in some cases stop altogether. I've never (well twice I think) shaved my legs, instead have always waxed, and there are huge patches on my legs where I get no hair growth.