Girlfriends in trinity

NADA

Hey. I'm coming to trinity this year to study CSLL. I've a girlfriend still in school. I'm just wondering is this common and will I still have time for her when I get to trinity. I'm also wondering do many students in trinity have girlfriends outside trinity. I know this seems like a really stupid post but but I've no idea what college will be like and love her to bits and don't want to lose her.

Time Magazine

My girlfriend did Transition Year as I went into Fifth Year and thus was a year behind me entering College. She's in Maynooth now. It's fine. Yeah you sort of have to give up a little bit of the College experience to make the effort, but for me that was undoubtedly worth it - I know I enjoy spending time with her more than anyone else, thus her lofty girlfriend status.

Oh expect her Leaving Cert to be an absolute bitch though, that seems to be the international consensus on the matter .

ApeXaviour

NADA wrote:

Hey. I'm coming to trinity this year to study CSLL. I've a girlfriend still in school. I'm just wondering is this common and will I still have time for her when I get to trinity. I'm also wondering do many students in trinity have girlfriends outside trinity. I know this seems like a really stupid post but but I've no idea what college will be like and love her to bits and don't want to lose her.

A friend of mine came into trinity with a girlfriend who also went to trinity. Him doing science, her doing bess. They lasted 3 years in college, 4 years altogether so that's pretty good in my books. Otherwise anyone I know who has had relationships in college has been with a partner outside of the college. Something I think weird considering you meet so many people within the university. An oddity that may well be contained within my group but it is nevertheless my observation.

Crash

I've never ended up with a girl in college for more than a week or two, but have gone out for a while with girls in other colleges etc. it can be difficult (especially if you're both going into college at once in seperate places) to not let the whole new experience thing make you lose track of spending time with her, and would imagine its equally as hard with her still in school. best idea is to just do your damn best to make sure you make that time....oh and try and slip her a disclaimer beforehand about "i may be busy with lots of start off work" just to cover your ass for when you mess up and end up drunk at 2pm instead of meeting her at <insert whatever here> (didnt actually happened to me, but a guy in my class got dumped over such an incident. think it was a last straw kinda deal :P)

NADA

Damn that was the response I was looking for even though I didn't think I'd get it. thanks guys. See you on boards and in October.

John

My girlfriend went to Maynooth when I went to TCD, she did a year of work during my final year and now I'm going to Maynooth and she's going to Queens in Belfast. We've lasted over five years going to separate schools/colleges so I think we'll be ok for another few years.

Crash

Ah see, we're all romantics at heart yeh see - even if some of us are bitter and twisted inside

masteroftherealm

I would say being in college with a GF in school does put a strain on the relationship in my experience.

Endymion

Remember that, you'll have a fair amounth of free time in first year, for parties and goign out, where as she won't be able to come. You mig ht find yourself on your own, allot.

europerson

As with Ibid., I too was a year ahead of my girlfriend in school (I was in Sixth Year, she in Fifth Year), and I don't think my going to College had any great impact on our relationship. I was staying in Halls, while she stayed at home in her County Louth town. I used to get off the bus there on a Friday evening, and I went in to see her, and that was always fun. During her Leaving Cert., I didn't notice any great difference in our relationship. Last year, we were both at college in Dublin and we were both staying in Dublin, so that was great. So, no, leaving her girlfriend behind to go to college ought not to be a problem.

Awayindahils

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Ah see, we're all romantics at heart yeh see - even if some of us are bitter and twisted inside

Emm Crash does that need to be reread?

And I'm bitter and twisted inside and out, damn people with stupid attachments.

As for the girlfriend thing, one of my friends came to college with a girlfriend ended up finding things a strain broke up and then were back together really quickly. if you really want it to work it will and do said work.

NADA

Now that somebody mentioned free time, how much will I have if I am studying CSLL. I'll be doing German by the way. Will I have to come to College everyday?

antoniak

NADA
Stop being silly - all will be fine if you two love each other!
Though there's lots of temptation in college so be careful. CSLL is crap because you do lots of linguistics and language exams on top of the computer stuff. For your finals there's like 9 exams and the other stuff i heard is that you'll have to write essays on the themes like the importants of the word "of" or "if".
and you'll have classes with CS nerds. I just finished CS btw.
CSLL girls are usually nice and you'll be prolly the only boy in the class, so you'll have lots of female friends. They're cute too.
Don't forget about third year - that's when you'll have to go to a foreign country. So that's when the worry will really set it for you and your sweetheart.

Good luck!:)

Crash

yeah, what is it with CSLL girls and being hot? only good thing to look at during my CS lectures (the shared ones).

Endymion

antoniak wrote:

NADA
Stop being silly - all will be fine if you two love each other!

There's romantic, and then there's naive. Love won't magically make it work. You'll need to put in the time and the effort, and you need to be aware that there will be sacrifices, and accept them.

Though there's lots of temptation in college so be careful. CSLL is crap because you do lots of linguistics and language exams on top of the computer stuff. For your finals there's like 9 exams

Oh Noes. Sounds like first year engineering to me. That was a bitch.

bombus

I was going out with someone that didn't go to college when I was in First and Second year and perhaps this made me less interested in going out on the piss with the rest of the lads and trying to score birds and get to know people and stuff. But none of that stuff matters because you need to put people in your life ahead of things in your life.

Well I'm presuming you're still going to be living at home in college. So as long as you make the effort not to forget about her or leave her behind and as long as she has the patience to keep going out with you it should be fine. The only issue will be the exams are at different times and stuff so if you're both ppl that tend to go a bit wonky at this time this could be an issue.

More importantly, if you think you really dig her college won't be an issue.

This doesn't apply to you right now but college is really a great chance to meet interesting, intelligent beautiful women so sometimes it's nice to be single for a while!