advice

LegacyUser

Please give me some advice. my bf and me decided to take some time apart at the weekend. however my bf was invited to a wedding next thursday
should i still go to the wedding or stick to the original plan and take this time apart we so badly need? we had planned to go to the wedding together before we decided to part

Beruthiel

What would you like to do?

Enright

go if you want to, especially if you would enjoy it.

Oriel

Go to the wedding. People will see him there without you and start to ask questions. This might put ideas into his head. Agree to go as a one off.

fuzzywiggle

Go to it and enjoy it! Hope it all works out well for you.

Miss Fluff

Is he alright with you coming to the wedding with him?
If so, go and enjoy it if it feels right.

LegacyUser

thanks for your advice guys, however we were at another wedding 4 weeks ago and my bf ignored me all day! didnt even have a drink or dance with him! and we were together that time so afraid he'l do it again!

Aidan78

bi wrote:

should i still go to the wedding or stick to the original plan and take this time apart we so badly need? we had planned to go to the wedding together before we decided to part

Would you be comfortable going to the wedding with your boyfriend? If so, then ask him if he still wants you to go.

However, given the fact that you say you badly need time apart, I wonder if it is a good idea to go to a wedding where you would both be spending so much time together?

LegacyUser

my bf owns a pub therefore i know he'l hate everyone coming up asking him where i am, he can be very private about his personal affairs. but is going to the wedding just putting on a show for everyone else and not being true to ourselves? i just dont want to be seen as the bad one in this situation either where people think god she could have at least accompanied him to the wedding

Black Swan

Talk to your b/f. Then decide.

Ruu_Old

If you are comfortable going there, then go ahead but if not then just leave it and take your mind off things elsewhere. I personally would go ahead and enjoy myself.

Fanny Cradock

it sounds like you two should break up permanently.

Aidan78

bi wrote:

however we were at another wedding 4 weeks ago and my bf ignored me all day! didnt even have a drink or dance with him! and we were together that time so afraid he'l do it again!

If that's the way he's going to treat you when you're not on a break, OP, then if you do go to the wedding, I think you can expect pretty much the same treatment.

I wouldn't be too concerned about his feelings or what other people think. At the end of the day, you should be looking after Number 1, especially since your boyfriend never did that when you were going out.

I take back what I said earlier. It doesn't sound like he deserves you. Ditto with what Fanny said. Dump his ass and find someone more worthy.

Adam

I second Fanny Craddock. It's clearly not working, move on.

I would also suggest you work on the ability to think for yourself, there was no advice needed here imho, you just couldn't make your own mind up.

Sir Fade the Often Overlooked Due to Transparency