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  • 16-08-2006 11:33am
    #1
    observer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 105 ✭✭


    hi

    at the weekend i was with a girl who i've being seeing for a while. we were having sex and although i made her cum, no matter how long we continue. there was nothing happening for me. which kinda upset her.

    basically i am pretty inexperienced at doing it (she doesn't know this) and only recently have become active. is it just a matter of time?. last night was the first nihgt it wasn't sore but still nothing!

    is it becuase i had had a **** earlier? would that influence it?

    is it becuase i'm not long at it?. i'm 20 so i would be fully grown etc. how can i sort this out


    any thoughts?


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  • #2
    Akrow
    Closed Accounts Posts: 38 ✭Akrow


    It's completely to do with nervousness... sometimes it'll make you come prematurely... sometimes it'll make no amount of pleasure get you anywhere.

    If you need some help relaxing, try spending some time naked together before the fun even starts, like taking a shower together, or just cuddling on your bed. It'll help you get over your jitters if you're comfortable being naked first.


  • #3
    melekalikimaka
    Moderators, Education Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 10,686 Mod ✭✭✭✭melekalikimaka


    good chance you'll be like that for life, you'll make many the girl happy


  • #4
    Ruu_Old
    Closed Accounts Posts: 36,634 ✭✭✭✭Ruu_Old


    Try to relax and let her control things for a while, try out some different positions perhaps.


  • #5
    Anti
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,401 ✭✭✭✭Anti


    ruu speaks the truth again !


  • #6
    Cabaal
    Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators, Regional South East Moderators Posts: 28,536 Mod ✭✭✭✭Cabaal


    observer wrote:
    is it becuase i had had a **** earlier? would that influence it?


    The fact you wanked earlier (depending on how long before) may affect you coming again....other then that its prop nerves


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Ease up on the ****! Try to go a few days before cracking one out, then maybe you'll be able to cum during intercourse.


  • #8
    Egotron3000
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18 ✭Egotron3000


    Egotron3000 notes that this human male problem sounds like it stems from nerves. Egotron3000 has a programmer who experienced the same problem sometimes when he became sexually active.

    Egotron3000 notes also that alcohol can contribute to this problem. Another of Egotron3000's male programmers has stated that excessive alcohol consumption can lead to climax not being achieved during human sexual intercourse.


  • #9
    Mimikyu
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,962 ✭✭✭✭Mimikyu


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  • #10
    BeardyGit
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,946 ✭✭✭BeardyGit


    There are lots of reasons for 'lasting' a good bit longer than many women will expect. I wouldn't worry though to be honest as if you can rub one out on your own, it's just down to circumstance and your mindset at the time.

    Relax, enjoy yourself and make sure she does the same....


  • #11
    ircoha
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,290 ✭✭✭ircoha


    observer wrote:
    hi

    at the weekend i was with a girl who i've being seeing for a while. we were having sex and although i made her cum, no matter how long we continue. there was nothing happening for me. which kinda upset her.

    basically i am pretty inexperienced at doing it (she doesn't know this) and only recently have become active. is it just a matter of time?. last night was the first nihgt it wasn't sore but still nothing!

    is it becuase i had had a **** earlier? would that influence it?

    is it becuase i'm not long at it?. i'm 20 so i would be fully grown etc. how can i sort this out


    any thoughts?

    At 20 I hope you are fully grown, it that folded in half?

    On a serious note, the hand shandy before did not help because it got into ur head that u needed to come again and once that happens then forget it for that night.

    The other issue here is that suppose, instead of a hand shandy, u had a bit on the side and then u get home and she wants the "bata more" and u cannot deliver:eek: :eek:

    However be proud that u made her come, that is indeed a triumph.


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  • #12
    Civilian_Target
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,618 ✭✭✭Civilian_Target


    Sounds like you're not relaxed enough when you have sex. If you relax more, you'll orgasm. Don't try to orgasm, just don't think about it.

    If you know you can squeez one off yourself, do so, with her (or on her if she's up for it!) Let her help you if you like! You'll probably find that breaks some mental barriers for both of you.


  • #13
    Froot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 546 ✭✭✭Froot


    The same thing happened me.

    The first time I had sex it took 7 hours to make me cum.

    Which was actually quite mpressive.


  • #14
    smash
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34,809 ✭✭✭✭smash


    Froot wrote:
    The same thing happened me.

    The first time I had sex it took 7 hours to make me cum.

    Which was actually quite mpressive.
    ok then, she must have had a bucket! OP it's probably just nerves, wouldn't worry about it.
    melekalikimaka wrote:
    good chance you'll be like that for life, you'll make many the girl happy
    How did you work that out?


  • #15
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Same thing happened to me when I started off in the glorious world of sex - it took a year for it to happen!

    Don't despair though - it could start working for you next week. I think it was a psychological thing for me but now everything works fine. Just try to have fun - try lube, lots of foreplay, kinky stuff, whatever. The girl might feel a bit upset/inadequate but tell her not to worry. The main thing is to relax and have loads of fun anyway.

    And another thing, don't **** off too much. And when you do, dont squeeze it to death. You'll desensitise it to the vagina, which has a much more delicate touch, if you do ;)


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