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why am i attracted to sexy women ??

  • 29-07-2006 3:35pm
    #1
    americanbeauty
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭


    i love my boyfriend, im inlove with him. Also only want him. for some reason the last few years i have been turned on by women, like on tv, sex scenes or P channel. i have had 3 experiences 1 at 18 witha friend who was straight. then kissed a girl when i was drunk in a nite club to show my b/f i could! then recently went further with a women older than me. i felt like so horrible. cant shake this feeling like i did somthing wrong. dont want to be bi, please tell me if this is normal????


Comments

  • #2
    spurious
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Education Moderators Posts: 27,316 CMod ✭✭✭✭spurious


    If it 'felt horrible' when you kissed a woman, I think we can safely say you're not bi. 'Wanting' or not 'wanting' to be bi makes no difference, that's not how it works.

    Being straight/gay does not make you blind, so of course you can find men/women attractive. It doesn't mean you want to have a sexual encounter with them.

    It's all 'normal'.


  • #3
    abetarrush
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,221 ✭✭✭abetarrush


    Did u not like gettin it on with a women

    or did you feel horrible because u did like it?

    Ah well

    No worries, im sure your boyfriend would be thrilled :D


  • #4
    PhantomBeaker
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 304 ✭✭PhantomBeaker


    If you felt horrible because you did something that wasn't with your boyfriend, that could be the issue (unless he knows and is cool)?

    Otherwise I'd go with the advice of the other two above.


  • #5
    Rev Hellfire
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,346 ✭✭✭Rev Hellfire


    Attractions to other people while in a relationship is perfectly natural. The strength of your relationship will determine if you act on these impulses or not. This is true of straight people and I see no reason to believe it would not be true of gay/bi's.

    A one off attraction or even encounter with another person does make you one thing or another. But from what you're saying ie. Constant attraction and willing to take it 'further', then it would seem in my book you're most likely bi.

    I suspect the reason you feel 'horrible' has less to do with an attraction to women but more to doing the dirt of your partner. Naturally this doesn’t bode well for your relationship, assuming you can say someone who cheats has one.


  • #6
    Rock Climber
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,034 ✭✭✭Rock Climber


    What Rev Hellfire said and more.

    If you are only going out with someone and someone else attracts you more and you enjou being with them more, then I feel its important to explore that.
    Obviously thats natures way of telling you something and you should act on it.

    In the op's case its simple because well she's with someone and fancying/admiring someone else hasnt got to the stage of exploring a tandem relationship with them.Ergo I'd say recognise it as a gift(that you know who's sexy) and dont worry about it after that.
    You already know its your partner that you want to be with right? so theres no issue.

    If you werent married and you were falling mutually for someone else, then thats a different story.


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