Guys with girlfriends- does it seem easy to get girl attention now you're not single?

ChilliNuts

Hi,

I just struck me tonight (in Lillies of all places!) that since getting a girlfriend, it seems way easier to attract attention of girls in clubs, etc, than it did when I was single. I know I'd never do anything about it, so maybe it's just the allure of the unavailable / faraway hills syndrome.

That make sense to anyone else?

Sony

yep-sure does!

Dirk Gently

Anyone who ever had a G/F will probably tell the same story. They're like buses, never there when you want one and then 5 come along at once. If you want a girl to chat you up just ask one of your girl mates to stand beside you and pretend she’s your g/f. As soon as she goes off to the toilet or to get a drink it’s more than likely that some other girlie will make a move on you.
She'll prolly tell you to **** off though once she finds out your single. :eek:

Pink Bunny

Do you think maybe it's because some single men give off a desperate vibe whereas once a man is "taken" he comes across as more confident because he's not out on the pull? I don't know, it's just an idea.

Black Swan

I think what Pink Bunny says may have merit. "Deperate vibe" absent from guys with g/f. And as a part of that, no constant assault by desperate single guys with silly one-liners. And although all single guys don't act desperate, it takes only a few to make you want to keep your guard up and avoid them.:rolleyes:

And what clown bag is suggesting sometimes works. Knew a guy who would tag along with girls that were just friends to meet unsuspecting others.:p

DonkeyStyle \o/

Women want what other women have... if you're single then there must be a reason, if you're not good enough for the 50 other women you chatted up this weekend, then you're not good enough for me... if you're with that other bítch, then you must have something she wants.
tbh I think it's similar to the whole "easier to get a job when you already have one" scenario.

Dirk Gently

Blue_Lagoon wrote:

And what clown bag is suggesting sometimes works. Knew a guy who would tag along with girls that were just friends to meet unsuspecting others.:p

Another good tactic is if you know 2 girls don’t like each other and there’s tension between them and you happen to fancy one of them, your best bet is to give the other one loads of attention. It wont be long before the girlie you fancy comes onto you to try and get one up on her enemy.

takola

clown bag wrote:

Another good tactic is if you know 2 girls don’t like each other and there’s tension between them and you happen to fancy one of them, your best bet is to give the other one loads of attention. It wont be long before the girlie you fancy comes onto you to try and get one up on her enemy.

Clownbag, You have far too much time to yourself!!!

spacecoyote

clown bag wrote:

Another good tactic is if you know 2 girls don’t like each other and there’s tension between them and you happen to fancy one of them, your best bet is to give the other one loads of attention. It wont be long before the girlie you fancy comes onto you to try and get one up on her enemy.

Clownbag you're a man after my own heart...thats hilarious, even more so because it's true!

Girls are kinda funny that way, a single bloke in a club can't believe his luck if a girl comes onto him, but i guess girls just have to put up with "desperate" single blokes slobbering over them on a much more regular basis.

I don't know that its just confidence that blokes who are attached have. I think its that air of a challenge too. Even if i'm not out with my girlfriend i'm not chasing down girls, and its just something most girls can't comprehend (a bloke is out, not with a girl, and they don't seem interested, now that just can't be right!!!!). I think some girls just take on the whole "I can get him" kinda attitude in some cases

Dragan

Pink Bunny wrote:

Do you think maybe it's because some single men give off a desperate vibe whereas once a man is "taken" he comes across as more confident because he's not out on the pull? I don't know, it's just an idea.

Bingo. Most of the times i have been in clubs, either working or social, i could point out within five mins who was single and who was not.

Single Guy : standing there, pint in hand, eye bulging at every bit of ass that walks past, making desperate attempts to instigate conversation with any girl who looks like she won't walk away.

Taken Guy : standing there, pint in hand, chatting to his mates and having a laugh.

Now then, looking at both people who do you think a lady will find more attractive? Desperate Looking Dan , or Socially Confident Simon?

I wonder!

I have found that whenever i conciously "go out on the pull" i totally sabotage myself. I find the attitude of "what happens happens" nearly always has girls walking up to me instead of me walking up to them.:)

Vegeta

Dragan wrote:

Now then, looking at both people who do you think a lady will find more attractive? Desperate Looking Dan , or Socially Confident Simon?

preach, preach

Pighead

Nope its the exact same now as it was when Pighead was single. They all wanted me then and they all want me now. One thing that has changed though is that they all can't have me anymore. Monogamy Rocks.

Dragan

Pighead wrote:

One thing that has changed though is that they all can't have me anymore. Monogamy Rocks.

Dude, and i kept wondering why i keep passing women crying in the street!

Now it all makes sense!:D

easyontheeye

for Women it must be like forbidden fruit!

Dragan

easyontheeye wrote:

for Women it must be like forbidden fruit!

Yeah, but according to the bible, which we all know is the source of all truth, Eve ate that damn fruit!!!

T'wasnt a serpent in the Garden of Eden, t'was Pighead!!!!

Eve : "I don't know...God said to we could eat anything BUT the Forbidden Fruit"
Pighead : "Pighead says it's okay baby. Go on, do it for Pighead. Whats the worst that could happen?"

Reku

Well now if a single guy is more appealing just because he has female friends to drink with I don't think you can continue to tout the desperate vibe arguement, as lets face it, even guys who have a girlfriend still tend to eye up every semi-attractive girl who passes by..., rather just accept that females tend to be like this, with backbiting and saying your friend looks great in an outfit which doesn't currently suit them because you don't want them to look better than you or such. In this particular case it's wanting to take what the other girl has rather than just get one of your own, it's not as enjoyable since it only puts you even and she got there first and since your guy was still available afterwards he's clearly not as good, whereas if you can take her man you're clearly the better specimen yourself.
Have this with the girls in work, often once one of the group leaves the room you'll have the others complaining about them.
Guys when they have a problem with someone will seldom hide it, girls seem to prefer to covertly undermine the person rather than do anything to risk open confrontation.

Guys its totally the same for girls too

Guys want what they cant have too , I done the whole (I have a new boyfriend thing) with a couple of ex's (and once with an unattainable guy) and then the drunken texts start and then before ya know he's all like, Do you want to go for a drink 'for old times sake'
Its great for the ego!:):):):):):):):)

6th

Pink Bunny wrote:

Do you think maybe it's because some single men give off a desperate vibe whereas once a man is "taken" he comes across as more confident because he's not out on the pull? I don't know, it's just an idea.

Bang on 100%.

Dragan

Dragan wrote:

Dude, and i kept wondering why i keep passing women crying in the street!

Now it all makes sense!:D

I just cant go on with life *sobs*:(

Reku

coolsmileygirl wrote:

Guys its totally the same for girls too

Guys want what they cant have too , I done the whole (I have a new boyfriend thing) with a couple of ex's (and once with an unattainable guy) and then the drunken texts start and then before ya know he's all like, Do you want to go for a drink 'for old times sake'
Its great for the ego!:):):):):):):):)

Yup, both genders do this, half think it's a large part of the problems that can ensue between ex's after the break-up, particularly if one starts dating again before the other does. Wanting what we can't have seems to be part of the human condition....

cance

coolsmileygirl wrote:

Guys its totally the same for girls too

Guys want what they cant have too , I done the whole (I have a new boyfriend thing) with a couple of ex's (and once with an unattainable guy) and then the drunken texts start and then before ya know he's all like, Do you want to go for a drink 'for old times sake'
Its great for the ego!:):):):):):):):)

:eek:

get... self... esteem...

it does help tbh

Oriel

Pink Bunny wrote:

Do you think maybe it's because some single men give off a desperate vibe whereas once a man is "taken" he comes across as more confident because he's not out on the pull?

Bingo.
The woman sees the man in his "natural enviroment" so to speak. The man, since he knows hse can't pull, relaxes a lot more as there is no performance pressure.

S.

mickd

farohar wrote:

Yup, both genders do this, half think it's a large part of the problems that can ensue between ex's after the break-up, particularly if one starts dating again before the other does. Wanting what we can't have seems to be part of the human condition....

True and if you ever attain this object of your attention is it worth the hassle? Rarely if ever