16 and still never been kissed

LegacyUser

its obvious why im going unreg on this but i am 16 and have never been kissed, girls just dont notice me. ive tried with girls, but im just not good looking and thats all they care about, ive asked out about 50 girls and none of them have said yes,what can i do

LadyJ

I've known guys who hadn't kissed a girl until their twenties. It's not a huge deal.

At 16,people are immature and the majority of them are quite shallow also. I think what you need to do is stop worrying about it so much.

Build a foundation with someone,get to know her and maybe it will eventually lead to something more.

It will happen for you but try not to obsess about it. You don't want to kiss a person who's only into you for your looks anyway. Why wait this long and waste your first kiss?

kdouglas

relax a bit, try not to get too stressed over it.

rather than just asking girls for a kiss, why not get to know them first?

i had a similar problem when i was younger, i was never into the whole teenage disco thing, if there's someone you like, get to know them a bit first, then maybe ask them to go to the cinema with you or something and see how it goes from there, if you wanna kiss her, dont ask first, just go for it, if she says no then just say fair enough and put it behind you.

it may seem like a big deal, but afterwards you'll wonder what you were getting so worked up about

spurious

It's not a race to get kissed. Stop worrying about it. Goodlooking is not all girls care about - especially not the ones worth bothering with.

If you worry about getting kissed or getting a girlfriend all the time, you will come across to girls as desperate and desperate is never attractive.

Try not to 'try' so much. Make girls laugh, listen to what they say, talk to them, tell them about yourself and listen to their replies. RELAX!!!

Don't keep a count of how many you've asked out. Don't ask someone out if you hardly know them - again, that's desperation.

It will happen when you least expect it and it will happen more quickly if you do not worry about it so much.

Most of what your mates tell you they are doing and have done is lies - you know that, don't you?

Good luck...you'll be fine.

pillsaregooood

Not to worry ,I was the same as you my man , 16 and never been kissed then I grew a beard and I had to fight them off in college I owe a lot to grunge.

dr.bollocko

Dude. Worry no more, for college is right round the corner.

cheeky_guy

Or else go to a prostitute and explain your dilema!!

theTinker

i was 15 on mine, seemed like EVERYONE else was doing it besides me, after a couple of times i realised how ****ing stupid kissing is done at my age, the "will you meet her?" then go off running behind a van or sumthing. BAH.

It will happen when it happens(i know it sucks to hear). i suggest you focus less on the kissing and more on getting a gf/bf, then you wll obviously get ur kisses but they will actually mean sumthing and not be just embarassing memories. this will all be so clear ina few years.lol.best of luck.

Im assuming your a bloke here btw. you said you are not attraictive, fair enough but ive found girls at that age to be easily deterred by peer pressure so ur in for a bumpy ride but it will get easier, on the plus side i can tell from experience that girls are far more likely to go out with a guy thats not good looking than vice versa. it comes down alot to confidence, they are very attracted towards this, ugly people generally lack it and find themselves getting no attention from this point. I dont even consider how "out of my league" a girl is anymore(looks wise) because ive found it an extreme waste of time and rarely true. I suggest u drop the worries about kissing, ask any of ur friends and im sure most of them are emabrrassed or regret how thier first kisses went. worrying urself and thinking ur not nice looking(its all perspective) is just gonna kill ur confidence and make u less desirable

short version : chill out and believe ur worth sumthing and others most likely will to.

Miss Fluff

16Unreg wrote:

its obvious why im going unreg on this but i am 16 and have never been kissed, girls just dont notice me. ive tried with girls, but im just not good looking and thats all they care about, ive asked out about 50 girls and none of them have said yes,what can i do

You're only a bairn, I really wouldn't worry about. ASKING 50 girls to kiss you may come accross as a little desperate however so try and relax about it and you'll be fighting them off in no time. I'm sending you a cyber snog (and I'm very hot) to keep you going for now xx

Beruthiel

cheeky_guy wrote:

Or else go to a prostitute and explain your dilema!!

I suggest you go to this forums charter and read it before you get banned.
Consider this your warning.
B

GretchenWieners

Maybe instead you should focus on yourself rather than getting a kiss off some random girl? I know a lot of good looking people who have held out until they were almost 15/16/17 and not because they weren't good looking, they just had high standards! But if you have any hobbies or into sports etc focus on thatm build up some confidence and you'll have girls chasing after you! You're 16 so I'm assuming you're around 4th/5th year in school?? People start to mature around then. I'm 18 and never been in a relationship basically not because I have been turned down, I just don't want to! So don't take it too personally. It happens.

Black Swan

Like others have suggested, focus more on getting to know a girl or two whom you might fancy, and not worry about the first kiss. No offense, but you are only 16. You have years of kissing to go.:)

Ruu_Old

Relax your head OP and don't be worrying about something like this. Don't go looking for someone to kiss just for the hell of it, let it happen and make your first kiss special. Best of luck.

GrumPy

Ruu wrote:

Relax your head OP and don't be worrying about something like this. Don't go looking for someone to kiss just for the hell of it, let it happen and make your first kiss special. Best of luck.

This is sound advice, make it special, cause my first kiss was ****e!!!

5 Times

This is extremely normal. You are still a kid!!! Enjoy yourself and don't upset yourself with this nonsense.

You have to like yourself before other people will like you. If you are worried and insecure about yourself you are your own worst enemy.

Keep a positive mental attitude

miss_gonzo

16Unreg wrote:

its obvious why im going unreg on this but i am 16 and have never been kissed, girls just dont notice me. ive tried with girls, but im just not good looking and thats all they care about, ive asked out about 50 girls and none of them have said yes,what can i do

hey, thats alright darling.

My first kiss was at 16...and, I wish I had waited for it to be with someone special, rather than some drunk **** I didnt even know.


I dont even consider it my first kiss really because it didnt mean anything to me.


After that fella, I hadnt kissed anyone until my current boyfriend, who I just started dating. So, its not a big deal at all, dont be embarassed about it or hard on yourself. Wait until you find a girl you're really into, dont rush into kissing someone just for the sake of finally being able to say youve kissed a girl.

16Unreg

16Unreg wrote:

its obvious why im going unreg on this but i am 16 and have never been kissed, girls just dont notice me. ive tried with girls, but im just not good looking and thats all they care about, ive asked out about 50 girls and none of them have said yes,what can i do

I didn't have my first kiss until I was 19. I was thinking along the same lines as you and went out of my way to make it happen, which wasn't really the best decision since I never saw the girl again.

cheeky_guy

I suggest you go to this forums charter and read it before you get banned.
Consider this your warning.
B

I was merely pointing out, beggars can't be choosers Beruthiel.

Nevyn

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Thaedydal

ari

like everyone's said...don't stress too much. i'm in my twenties now and i've dated a lot of good looking boys, a lot of whom didnt turn out to be the nicest guys. i'm definetly more about the personality these days. i know its a cliche but looks do fade, after a couple of months, its the smart, sweet funny nature of your partner that you appreciate..
get to know a girl you like, find some common ground, she'll appreciate what a great guy you are, and for all we know you could be a total hottie who's just growing into his looks!

abetarrush

Ur 16! jus get one o ur mates t ask some youngone "will ye meet him!?"


use it while ye can!

elexes

at 16 i was a blob ( not that im mr perfect now ) but i made a decision that id have to look good in order to get a gf etc..

i stoped eating choc's / chips / burgers and all that type stuff

16 is nothing to worry about chill . the world is yet to be explored

Nightwish

A (very attractive) male friend of mine never kissed anyone until he was 18, and proceeded to become the college male slut when he left home. He slept with a different girl every week. Anyway dont worry OP, 16 is NOT too old...you still have years left before you should start worrying

abetarrush

Anyone see 80's Teen Sex movies on mtv L/night? twas all abt the randy kids in films like Pretty in Pink n such..........

makes ye wana get some


to the OP, good luck, ye'll be grand as long as ye dont pay your cousin to kiss ye

Tar.Aldarion

Ask, you ask?
Anyway, just kiss a girl, don't ask.

Also, 16 is quite young, you have years before you even need to start to worry.
At 16, girls are very hmm, shallow, a\s they get older, less so.
The good one's are all about your personality.
That's the only way I can think that I ever get anyone, anywoot,
maybe you should try abetarrush's method while you still can.
I remember the first girl I kissed, got her friend to come over and tell me she liked me. Things were so much easier!

Don't worry, you'll even have standards in a few years, hard to believe when young, eh?

LegacyUser

I know at 16 it seems like a big deal, but seriously dont just kiss ANYONE just 'cause your friends are kissing people.

I was always shy & never liked the idea of kissing people i didn't know. so i was 19 when i first kissed someone, & by then it was just cause i wanted to get it out of the way, & i was drunk. & to be honest i wish i'd waited & kissed someone i liked! even at 19 i should've waited!

There really is no hurry although i know it probably feels like it but wait & kiss someone that you want to kiss cause of the person, not for the kiss. (if that sentence makes sense, my phrasing seems messed up..)

The_Conductor

I know you're saying that you've asked loads of girls out etc- but as another individual on Boards has enacted in front of hundreds of us on numerous occassions- he asks every single girl he meets out- on the premise that if only 1 in a hundred say yes, that he has to ask 100 every evening and at the end of the evening he has a date with a different girl....... Myself I'd die rather than do something similar to that, but you got to hand it to him, it works.

You're only young- as pointed out, take your time, good things come to all those who wait.