Can you love someone to much?

LegacyUser

Well is it possible?

Mines a weird situation, im a 23 year old guy that has been going out with my girl for 3 years. I just cant get enough of her, I want to be with her 24/7 and if im not with her im CONSTANTLY thinking about her and wanting to text/ring her (but i do refrain she mite start thinking im a weirdo!).

Were both totally in love with each other but is my situation healthy?

It was never really like this, we have always been in love but in the last 3/4 mths this is the way ive become, but theres been no major incidences that would make me be like this?

Anyone know what i can do to try stop this as i dont think its to healthy and its really annoying?

Beruthiel

You can never love someone too much.
However, spending all your time with/on them is very unhealthy and could eventually ruin your relationship. You will smother each other and the relationship could become clostraphobic.
Some time apart is always a good thing, this time should be spent with friends and on hobbies.
Never, ever loose sight of your friends, they are the ones who will pick you up and take care of you if you two should ever break up.

Marksie

I agree with beruthiel on this one. If nothing else time apart reinforces your feelings and is healthy for you.

However, i have been in the situation where a g/f crossed the line into obsession. as a quick example: If we were apart there would be texts at all hours and if i didnt reply within a set time, they would get more and more strident.

In the end it did cause us to break up.

cance

lol,

Love is annoying chap! but Be happy to be so happy. Been with my g/f for 6 years now, and seem to love her more every day... dont worry about it, just work to keep it that way!

I would lay off the consistent txt's/phone calls nobody likes feeling like they are in their partners pocket.

Black Swan

Isitpossible??? wrote:

Mines a weird situation, im a 23 year old guy that has been going out with my girl for 3 years. I just cant get enough of her, I want to be with her 24/7 and if im not with her im CONSTANTLY thinking about her and wanting to text/ring her (but i do refrain she mite start thinking im a weirdo!).

Were both totally in love with each other but is my situation healthy?

If she feels the same way about you... Well, just maybe you might want to talk with her about the possibility of tying the knot? Then you could be together more under the same roof? Then again, some like to play house first and live together before considering a life long commitment? It all depends upon the couple and how they feel. In any case, talk with her and share your feelings.

Sengoku79

Yes I agree completely with Beruthiel on this one.

It's very important to keep your friends around you and not completely obsess over your gf as this is unhealthy for both of you.

We understand your feelings for your partner as we have been there before or in my case are there, however you must balance this with your life before you met her i.e. keeping in touch with friends, not spending every waking hour/minute of the day with her.

I found myself that being able to do this means that when you do spend time together it brings with it a completely fantastic feeling of happiness and makes this time all the more important, rather than routine.

miss_gonzo

Isitpossible??? wrote:

Well is it possible?

Mines a weird situation, im a 23 year old guy that has been going out with my girl for 3 years. I just cant get enough of her, I want to be with her 24/7 and if im not with her im CONSTANTLY thinking about her and wanting to text/ring her (but i do refrain she mite start thinking im a weirdo!).

Were both totally in love with each other but is my situation healthy?

It was never really like this, we have always been in love but in the last 3/4 mths this is the way ive become, but theres been no major incidences that would make me be like this?

Anyone know what i can do to try stop this as i dont think its to healthy and its really annoying?

Has she said or acted in any way to indicate that its annoying her?

Just curious. Sometimes women like that amount of attention, but, for others, it can become a little overwhelming and might cause them to push away their guy.

Co-dependency is a dangerous territory in my opinion. It might lead to either partner becoming irritated with the amount of attatchment. Even while in love, you need some breathing space. Trust that you're both in love and want to be together so you don't have to be clinging onto one another.


I personally dont think its that healthy...although she might find it flattering that you always want to be with her, it might gradually have some opposing effects.


Talk to her how she feels about it candidly. Thats how you'll know whether or not youve got to change what youre doing.

RandomOne

I disagree with Beruthial only on one point. It is possible to love someone too much = when you stop pleasing yourself and compromise to your own detriment.

Having said that, it doesn't sound like that's the case here, so keep thinking about her if it puts a smile on your face whilst at work etc and let her know how happy you are to be with her when you're with her.

Zulu

There's a school of taught that would believe that this will inevitably lead to you to become very unhappy. The concept is that you are currently conditioning yourself mentally; that sub-consciously you are telling yourself that "I'm happy because I have this person" and that ultimately either she will die (assuming you stay together, or you will split up. In which case all that is left is "The person is gone so I can no longer be happy", and that this is a critical mistake/very unhealthy.

While this all sounds harsh, it's not to be confused with a bitter conception denying love - quite the opposite, in fact! Love is a wonderful thing, but it encourages you to "love" the right things. Love the person, but don't make them a necessity. ...I'm probably not being very clear - sorry about that, but the upshot of what I'm trying to say is:

It's great that you're in love, but you are an individual, and most probably you are loved because of what you are. You need to distinguish the individual from the relationship and ensure the individual doesn't become dependant on the relationship.


...I've probably made no sense. Nice one Zulu.