Experience my Dad had

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Hi, first post in this forum.

I'd like some opinions on an experience my Dad had last week. He was quite upset by it.

I better give some history first.

Two years ago he was on holidays in Spain with some family friends and one of the men who was with them died. He and my Dad were quite close, and he actually died in my Dad's arms, delerious with heatstroke. This affected my Dad quite badly, and a few months later he was diagnosed with depression (this death was not the only contributing factor). He had been seeing counsellors for a time, but he seems to be ok now.

Last February my Mam's mother died, quite suddenly after a routine operation, although she had been sick with cancer in the year or two previous to her death. It wasn't an entirely unexpected death, but sudden nonetheless. (This sounds like a PI thread, please bear with me)

So, one day last week my Dad was in a library in town on work business when a lady approached him, totally out of the blue. She asked my Dad could she talk to him. My Dad agreed, thinking it was something to do with his job. This lady then moved her hand about his body, but not touching him. From his elbow, up his arm, over his head and down the other side. She told him he had "a presence around him", and that she "had two messages". She explained that the messages meant nothing to her, but would probably mean something to my Dad.

The first message was to "Tell Bess* I'm OK" and the second message was "Tell Harold* her mother is ok".

Now, the man who died used to call his wife "Bess" - but he would have been the only one who did, everyone else knew her by her full name.

"Harold" is actually my Mother, the name stems from a joke she shared with her friend - the man's wife - in the 70s. When my Dad told the story even I had to ask who Harold was, being unaware of this "nickname" my Mother had in the 70s.

When my Dad came home that day he was visibly shaken and very upset. Is it "usual" or "normal" behaviour for a medium to go around upsetting people like this? He didn't ask to be approached, and when she performed the hand movements, she didn't ask my Dad if he wanted to hear the messages or not, she just told him.

*I have changed these names, but they are still similar to the names she actually used

LeinsterPar

I know one lady who gets messages like that and she finds it awkward herself. Sometimes she wont pass messages on, though sometimes when she does that the 'spirits' keep pestering her until she does. Normally she weighs up the pros and cons very seriously and normally doesnt pass on messages unless she's sure she wont upset anyone.

Tell your dad not to let it upset him. The shock is understandable, but its doubtful those passing on the messages wished to upset anyone

stormkeeper

LeinsterPar wrote:

I know one lady who gets messages like that and she finds it awkward herself. Sometimes she wont pass messages on, though sometimes when she does that the 'spirits' keep pestering her until she does. Normally she weighs up the pros and cons very seriously and normally doesnt pass on messages unless she's sure she wont upset anyone.

Tell your dad not to let it upset him. The shock is understandable, but its doubtful those passing on the messages wished to upset anyone

I agree. If anything, those messages were meant as something comforting, rather than upsetting.

GreenDoor

seansouth wrote:

When my Dad came home that day he was visibly shaken and very upset. Is it "usual" or "normal" behaviour for a medium to go around upsetting people like this? He didn't ask to be approached, and when she performed the hand movements, she didn't ask my Dad if he wanted to hear the messages or not, she just told him.

He should be delighted. I'd love if something like that happened to me. I can however see your fathers point of view. He probably don't believe in life after death (correct me if I'm wrong) and it must have been a shock to the system for somebody to give him concrete proof.

6th

In fairness the lady was pleasent and polite and he could have stopped her at anytime and i'm sure he would have aused no offence. I understand that his particular situation is difficult and i sympathise but there may very well come a time when he is glad to know that people continue on and are happy.

Clearly she provided information which was accurate and she did not ask for anything in return, so its not like she was trying to con or benefit from this encounter?

stormkeeper

6th wrote:

In fairness the lady was pleasent and polite and he could have stopped her at anytime and i'm sure he would have aused no offence. I understand that his particular situation is difficult and i sympathise but there may very well come a time when he is glad to know that people continue on and are happy.

Clearly she provided information which was accurate and she did not ask for anything in return, so its not like she was trying to con or benefit from this encounter?

again, I agree with this. I really have no real need to contribute anything to this thread, seeing as everyone is saying what I think.