Fancying your tenant

LegacyUser

Hi everyone, I recently let an apartment to 3 girls, one of which I really fancy. I'm around the same age as them, late twenties. Is this crush madness? The landlord tenant relationship should be kept strictly business...! I'm not mad into her as I obviously dont know her that well but she would get it big time!

Ruu_Old

Theres not a whole lot you can do in this situation, OP. It could get difficult should a relationship ever occur between you two.

Black Swan

Sounds like the ole in close proximity thing? At work, in class, in the same flat complex? A lot of people meet this way. Now if it works out and you two were to develop a serious and long lasting relationship, OK. But the risk is that you might have a one-night-stand or something similar, or start a relationship then break up. What happens then? Can be a source of trouble for the business relationship. They have a saying in business I once overheard from a friend of my Da, "Never dip your pen in company ink."

Beetlebum

Mixing business with pleasure can become tricky. The delivery guy who comes into our office asked me out for a drink one day. I thought he was attractive and seemed like a nice enough guy so we met up for a pint. As it turned out we had f*ck all in common and as the night wore on it just felt awkward. We kissed on the way home but I was glad when the night ended.
Having to see him every week in work was terrible. Everytime the doorbell went I'd run upstairs so I wouldn't have to see him but he'd always hang around unloading stuff for ages...*shivers at memories of kissing him*....
It's probably not such a good idea. Also, she might think it's a bit inappropriate for her landlord to ask her out. You could potentially end up losing these girls as tenants.

Then again if she's hot.....wear an armani suit when you go to collect the rent, that way she'll do the dirty work for ya;)

Ickle Magoo

I have to admit, back in my student days if a landlord came onto me or one of my girlie flatmates, I'd think he was a bit of a sleaze trying to use the fact he owned the house I wanted to live in to get a bit of romance...obviously you don't mean it like that....but it may not seem that way to your tenants...so be careful how you aproach it...or even better...look for love from someone who doesn't pay you rent?!

Dragan

hugme4000 wrote:

Hi everyone, I recently let an apartment to 3 girls, one of which I really fancy. I'm around the same age as them, late twenties. Is this crush madness? The landlord tenant relationship should be kept strictly business...! I'm not mad into her as I obviously dont know her that well but she would get it big time!

Can i just point out that

a) you are in a certain position of trust.
b) I work with, workout with, and have lived with a lot of hot girls that i found very attractive.....it doesn't mean something has to happen.
c) IF you guys did hook up you are then instantly living together.

5starpool

I don't see anything wrong with it as long as you aren't soft enough to let this affect rent payments.

Miguel_Sanchez

I don't think the OP lives in the flat with the girls.

Still though, a situation fraught with peril. Enter at your own risk. Depends how much contact with them you have really. If you call over every week to collect rent then if you ask her out and she says no then the weekly rent collection could become a lesson in social awkwardness.

But if they pay into your bank account and you see them infrequently then it mightn't be so bad.

Chucky the tree

if yous did start going out she would have to move out. Going out with someone and having to ask them for rent money would be very werid/awkward.

Sony

Total over reaction in my opinion - once you're subtle with how you let her know you like her I dont see what the problem is...at the end of the day YOU LIKE HER and this must be the smallest of obstacles to overcome if youre to do anything about it....you're both adults and this situation should be no problem for you both to deal with!

m_stan

totally agree with Sony. I say go for it !

Victor

Do you live with them? If yes, it makes things a lot more complicated.

How about inviting them all out for a meal? Claim it as a "get to know you, whats working, whats not working" type deal.

LegacyUser

i know of a friend of mine who ended up marrying her landlord. he was just a few years older. i don't know exactly how they got together, but i think it was a gradual thing. he didn't live their either, but they just got to be really friendly i guess.. if you actually really like her, then go for it, but if u just fancy her - like u'd just like to shag her - then don't bother. unless u want to get into a "ooh.. i'm a little short on money this week mr. landlord, maybe i can, ooh... make it up to you another way?". that could be fun too, as long as your rich!

AngryBadger

hugme4000 wrote:

.....I obviously dont know her that well but she would get it big time!

what? Like....rent discount?....is that what we're talking about here?

[Jackass]

Picture the scenario.
You hook up, X amount of time passes, it all goes pear shaped and ends on bad terms (it's hard enough living with a g/f you know and love...or so I'm led to believe), you're hardly going to move out, you can't kick her out and she mighn't want to leave if she's living with her friends and/or close to work or whatever...she could be there for AGES after and you'd have to see her every day.

Is this a chance you're willing to take?

On a side note, you might even try it on, make a tool of yourself and you're still stuck living with her and having to see her all the time.

LegacyUser

decided to ease off...dont wanna come accross as psycho, and also the position of trust thing is poignant in that the girls probably wouldnt show any interest if it was any other situation. Besides, its more just i'd love to shag her senseless and take it from there..oh well till next time!