relationship advice

LegacyUser

can anyone give me tips on how to keep a potential boyfriend interested? im trying to play it cool and casual, not texting/calling as much, just maybe one per day. is it true that absence makes the heart grow fonder, or is it more 'out of sight, out of mind'?

Beruthiel

Why not stop playing games and just be yourself?

LadyJ

littlemiss:) wrote:

can anyone give me tips on how to keep a potential boyfriend interested? im trying to play it cool and casual, not texting/calling as much, just maybe one per day. is it true that absence makes the heart grow fonder, or is it more 'out of sight, out of mind'?

Believe me,none of that crap works.

I've tried it in the past and realised this: if a guy is interested in me then nothing I do can stop that. If he stops liking me then no amount of game playing will change his mind.

Just be yourself. Afterall,he's going to see your true colours some day.

Isn't it better for someone to love you for who you are,instead of because you've tricked them into it?

Miss Fluff

littlemiss:) wrote:

can anyone give me tips on how to keep a potential boyfriend interested? im trying to play it cool and casual, not texting/calling as much, just maybe one per day.

Fact of the matter is he either likes you or he doesn't. Stalking him/camping outside house/ten texts a day won't HELP obviously but just be yourself and do what comes naturally. He should want to be with YOU for YOU and not some facade you have created around yourself. No point in putting on an act - the mask will slip at some stage. Good luck

GAA widow

Beruthiel wrote:

Why not stop playing games and just be yourself?

I agree with Beruthiel - that's what attracted your boyfriend in the first place.

Keeping him interested? Guys love a challenge - better to let them do the chasing for a while , let him contact you (that means he's thinking about you when he does), don't instantly be available to do whatever he wants to do at the drop of a hat and don't drop your female friends either, do remember to go out with your own friends too on nights out without the boyf - he'll be wondering if anyone else is noticing his lovely girlfriend!

oulu

No games grow up, If it is meant to be then it will be, Thinking out loud I was always more interested in someone who was up for it anytime to be honest,

LikeOhMyGawd!

LadyJ wrote:

Believe me,none of that crap works.

I've tried it in the past and realised this: if a guy is interested in me then nothing I do can stop that

A restraining order, perhaps?;)

The number and frequency of texts isn't going to be the deal breaker with a potential boyfriend. Be yourself and if he's the man then that will be enough. If however you feel his interest wane, wear some loose fitting tops, face him and lean over a lot. High heels and short skirts should work too, but only if you can walk properly in the shoes. Plenty of teasing or anything that hints towards 'the prize' that you might soon granted him should be sufficient to reel him in. Guy's are complete suckers for the promise of action but don't do it if you have no intention of backing it up.

LegacyUser

LikeOhMyGawd! wrote:

If however you feel his interest wane, wear some loose fitting tops, face him and lean over a lot. High heels and short skirts should work too, but only if you can walk properly in the shoes. Plenty of teasing or anything that hints towards 'the prize' that you might soon granted him should be sufficient to reel him in. Guy's are complete suckers for the promise of action but don't do it if you have no intention of backing it up.

Yes do this - if you want to whore yourself..?

If a guy only shows interest in you when you slut yourself about, then hes only after 1 thing.

Zulu

First off, how old are you?

I can think of some posters who'll disagree, but I'd strongly advise you NOT to play games. If you care for someone, you shouldn't toy with them. While we all like to put on our best front when starting a relationship, enivitably we get caught out for who we really are. Which, I hasten to add is a good thing. The more you try to appease him (or at least your perception of what he wants) the more unnatural your relationship will become.

Be yourself - you never know, he might just love you exactly the way you are

Good luck.

padi89

after1thing? wrote:

Yes do this - if you want to whore yourself..?

If a guy only shows interest in you when you slut yourself about, then hes only after 1 thing.

Exactly,dont play the whore.Be yourself.

Santa Claus

Zulu wrote:

First off, how old are you?

I can think of some posters who'll disagree, but I'd strongly advise you NOT to play games. If you care for someone, you shouldn't toy with them. While we all like to put on our best front when starting a relationship, enivitably we get caught out for who we really are. Which, I hasten to add is a good thing. The more you try to appease him (or at least your perception of what he wants) the more unnatural your relationship will become.

Be yourself - you never know, he might just love you exactly the way you are

Good luck.

Totally agree with Zulu, why do women insist on playing games ?
Guys may be many things, but most of us are fairly direct...If we like a girl she'll know about it (either through body language/actions or being told)!