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Trying so hard

  • 28-06-2006 9:48am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Im not really sure what Im looking for posting this. A bit of advice I guess.

    We are both in our late 20’s.

    We have both said that we love each other, and I do love him dearly.

    Im just not sure about him anymore. Im to the point where I think that, already, we should take a break.

    The last few weeks, there has been a bit of sniping and winding each other up.

    I just want both of us to be happy. Last night, there was more sniping. I tried to laugh it off. We went to bed to go to sleep and he totally ignored me. I said to him “would be nice to have a kiss and a cuddle before we go to sleep”. He turned around and said that he always gives me kisses and cuddles (he doesn’t). That this was the 21st century and that women also had to make moves on men (all that for a kiss and cuddle). Anyways, in the mornings, we normally tell each other that we love each other and to have a good day, but this time we both said nothing, and just looked at each other. I left.

    Am trying so hard, that I am starting to burn out. I don’t know if I have any options left but to ask for a break. Im sure he wouldn’t even care (he is sooooo laid back – something that bugs me a bit). I just want to two of us to be happy.


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  • #2
    BoozyBabe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,724 ✭✭✭BoozyBabe


    How long are the 2 of you going out?

    You should be sure of him, if he's meant to be the one for you.
    It doesn't sound like he is, so my advice:- life's too short, move on, find someone you are sure about & be happy.


  • #3
    Marksie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,395 ✭✭✭Marksie


    Have you tried sitting down and talking to him rather than sniping?

    One tip is to write down what you have to say in point form and not get sidetracked.
    Ask your partner to do the same.
    It may clear the air, or help you to decide where you are going


  • #4
    quad_red
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,564 ✭✭✭quad_red


    Burnt out wrote:
    Am trying so hard, that I am starting to burn out. I don’t know if I have any options left but to ask for a break. Im sure he wouldn’t even care (he is sooooo laid back – something that bugs me a bit). I just want to two of us to be happy.

    I'm sure that's not the case.

    But it does sound like ye need to honestly talk about the situation. Be frank, be honest. Don't knit pick or score points. It shouldn't be this much of a struggle. Something is fundamentally wrong.

    You can't go on like this. So you have to be honest and open and tell him of your concerns.

    Ask him what he needs out of the relationship? Ask him where it doesn't seem to be working for him.

    Then tell him what you need out of it and where it isn't working for you.


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