Is it just me or does anyone find it very stressful when going out with someone

LegacyUser

Have been seeing this girl for about 2 weeks now and i like her and all its just i find it so stressfull when im goin out with someone, the thoughts of me having to introduce her to my friends,havin to turn down things with your friends to be with her, sleeping with her etc etc, is that normal, im 24 and have never had a relationship last more than 4 months but i really want this to work,how many times a week should i see her seen as though we are only just goin out 2 weeks

Slutmonkey57b

There aren't any rules about this. Are you having problems because you're not comfortable around her, or because you're worried about what people think of you? Your friends will always understand (or if they don't you'll know they're not your friends at all). See her as much as the two of you want to. Talk to her and take it as it comes.

observer

i'm in the same position as you and feel the exact same. being going out with a girl for a month. and although i really like her. i get very stress when talking about her and defo don't wanna go shouting it around to family etc. why is that??

el tel

Sounds like insecurity and a bit too much fretting about things that will take care of themselves.

Just be yourself, do what you think is best.

flikflak

If you have only been seeing her 2 weeks then there is no way you should be turning your friends down to be with her. You do have your own life. Blimey 2 weeks is nothing.

Things cannot be "worked out" like a sum - just go with the flow there are no rules as to how often you should see someone.

She will naturally be introduced to your friends over time.

Do your own thing and meet up as and when - no wonder your other relationships have not lasted too long. Its too much too soon!

Stompbox

You're not alone.Happens to me the whole time,even though I love the girl thing to bits and love being around her but I believe it stems from a feeling of inadequacy,that I'm not good enough for her.This might sound a bit strange coming from a 15-year old but thats what I honestly believe!

Marksie

OK..i am obviously much older at 42.
But when out with a date, i just go with it. It has to be an experience thing.

The more you are yourself and not pressurising your self to be able to perform, meet friends etc. etc.
The easier it gets.

If you feel uncomfortable then it is either A) self consciousness, or not being right for the person you are with. or c) being to macho to take the "girl" to the "lads" lol

Layla1981

you should not be in this relationship

Nevyn

Well sit and think about how often you would like to see her,
how often you need to see her
how often you can due to having a life.

Then talk to her about it, and find out what will work for the two of you
Relationships are about comprimise and talking about stuff like this is a good thing.

Yes when you start dating someone you have to make a space for them in your life, but how you go about that is up to you.

You can't go dropping your friends cos you are dating someone and if your not
ready to go public then why should you have to.



Tis early days I certainly would not make a fuss or be telling family or a lot of people at this stage.