How do you know a girl is interested?

rosso1977

Hi there. How do you know if a girl is interested in you or not ? There's this girl I like at work. Whenever we're working together she would be really chatty, talking about music, her family etc etc. But she's the friendly type anyway so I dont think that makes me special in anyway. I really like her but I'm just afraid to ask her out until I know how she feels. Is there anything I can do to gauge her interest ?

tman

it's a **** situation to be in dude, the last thing you want to do is risk looking like a perv in front of your workmates.
a similar thing happened with me recently, but i found out that she's practically married when i was all set to ask her out:o

if you're anything like me (and the majority of blokes on the planet) you'll be utterly crap at reading signals, and may be reading into this too far...
i guess just give it a while and see if she makes any clearer signals.
or wait until the next work drinks:p

rosso1977

tman wrote:

it's a **** situation to be in dude, the last thing you want to do is risk looking like a perv in front of your workmates.
a similar thing happened with me recently, but i found out that she's practically married when i was all set to ask her out:o

if you're anything like me (and the majority of blokes on the planet) you'll be utterly crap at reading signals, and may be reading into this too far...
i guess just give it a while and see if she makes any clearer signals.
or wait until the next work drinks:p

Yeah, tell me about it. I'm absolutely hopeless at reading signals. I misread them more often than not. The last time this happened to me (with another girl) I totally got it wrong. I thought she liked me and I was giving out pretty strong signals that I like her....I was wrong...she already had a very steady bf and was totally freaked out by me.

is_that_so

You could ask other people she hangs out with.
You could also try and let the friendship grow. Find out more about her in casual conversation. Usually that will bring out the B/F, hubby etc. If there doesn't appear to be a partner etc. then take a chance. Consider something like say an evening out with a large mixed group or even something like a BBQ.

I am much in favour of the direct approach to bring it out but it ain't to everyone's liking. But better to know the truth than make up a fantasy.

rosso1977

is_that_so wrote:

You could ask other people she hangs out with.
You could also try and let the friendship grow. Find out more about her in casual conversation. Usually that will bring out the B/F, hubby etc. If there doesn't appear to be a partner etc. then take a chance. Consider something like say an evening out with a large mixed group or even something like a BBQ.

I am much in favour of the direct approach to bring it out but it ain't to everyone's liking. But better to know the truth than make up a fantasy.

Well I know she's single. As for a night out/bbq i guess I will have to wait as there isn't one planned for ages.

Hugh Hefner

Why do you/people care so much? It shouldn't matter is she likes you or not. You're the one who's planning to ask her out, it should only matter if you like her. I mean, as long as she's not obviously in hatred of you just go for it.

I guess you're just afraid of getting turned down. Well you know what, getting turned down isn't a big deal. People are cooler than you might think. It's not gonna be awkward for ever and ever and ever, in fact it probably won't be awkward for more than 10 seconds if at all.

Heyes

You think girls are bad ???!? well trying reading a guys mind :rolleyes:

Hugh Hefner

No, don't try! That's exactly my point. Don't try to read guys, or girls, just go with the flow. Make your actions your own and don't motivate them so much with what other people think. Have the balls to make yourself happy (that goes for the girls too ).

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

Heyes wrote:

You think girls are bad ???!? well trying reading a guys mind :rolleyes:

guys mind = i like my cock. I like playing with my cock. I should try get that girl to play with my cock.

Heyes

Hugh Hefner wrote:

No, don't try! That's exactly my point. Don't try to read guys, or girls, just go with the flow. Make your actions your own and don't motivate them so much with what other people think. Have the balls to make yourself happy (that goes for the girls too ).

Wise opinions

Heyes

Mordeth wrote:

guys mind = i like my cock. I like playing with my cock. I should try get that girl to play with my cock.

LOL.... oh such a classic picture of a fellas mind :rolleyes:

Diamondmaker

She may like you but its not worth it, getting involved with work mates is always a bad idea! I know a few in our office over the years and they never worked out and after wards obviously more awkard than a "NORMAL" break up.

rosso1977

Diamondmaker wrote:

She may like you but its not worth it, getting involved with work mates is always a bad idea! I know a few in our office over the years and they never worked out and after wards obviously more awkard than a "NORMAL" break up.

I share your same views. Going out with a colleague is a big no no..but I am leaving this job for another one in 2 weeks time so that won't be a problem.

Diamondmaker

DDUUUHHH 1!!!!! its so easy then.. at you r leaving drinks , ask to see her again after you leave or on your last day just ask her out, if your leaving you are sorted- if it works it works, if it dont you dont have to see her again or be in the office environment where they all "know" ( Loser:D )

Tar.Aldarion

It sucks doesn't it OP, you'll get used to the frustration. Like most guys, we are like, signals, what, what's going on?

If somebody has a good way to gauge that interest, you let me know.
Anybody could like me, I never have a clue. Girls should make the first move more often, say more than the twice ever.

athena 2000

Hugh Hefner wrote:

No, don't try! That's exactly my point. Don't try to read guys, or girls, just go with the flow. Make your actions your own and don't motivate them so much with what other people think. Have the balls to make yourself happy (that goes for the girls too ).

Every situation can have its own unique circumstances. You can make yourself happy and ask her out. Don't wait around wishing something would happen, or for the "perfect" signal that might mean you won't be turned down. First time I ever asked a fella out on a date, he said yes and I nearly fainted, but yay! It was worth it. I never make fun of a guy that asks me out because I know how it feels to do the asking.

As for dating someone from the work place... No. Not unless they work in a different department and you don't run into them too often.

If she makes prolonged eye contact with you, or laughs at things you say even when they're not that funny, then she probably has some interest in you.

Stark

athena_2000 wrote:

As for dating someone from the work place... No. Not unless they work in a different department and you don't run into them too often.

I wouldn't agree with outright "No" for this. Sure it's risky in that things can get awkward if there's a bad breakup but I've met quite a few people who've found their husband/wife in the same office as them.

If you're just looking to try your luck and have yourself a bit of fun, you should probably stay clear of people in close proxmity to where you work. If there's someone in the office who makes you lovesick on the other hand, then I would say go for it.

Dermington

I was in the exact same situation 1 week ago yesterday except I didnt work with the girl and only knew her from going into this shop she works in.

I asked her out and she said yes.

The only way to know is to take a chance and thats that.

Go do it. Its not that hard once you realise its what you want.

Chakar

Yeah, it can be very embarassing though...guess it goes with the territory.

The_Minister

Heyes wrote:

You think girls are bad ???!? well trying reading a guys mind :rolleyes:

Look around the zip area..............




One way to tell if a girl likes you is if she leans in when you talk (doesn't work in loud place)

Chakar

Firespinner wrote:

One way to tell if a girl likes you is if she leans in when you talk (doesn't work in loud place)

And looks at your eyes, not at the damn floor.

DonkeyStyle \o/

athena 2000 wrote:

or laughs at things you say even when they're not that funny, then she probably has some interest in you.

Hah, God yeah... it's really unfortunate that I didn't figure this one out sooner than I did... some girls I've known have been unfairly dismissed as insane giggling weirdos... really, it's creepy when you don't know why they're laughing.
Half the time I wonder are they laughing with me or at me.
"oh roflcopters! I can't believe this guy actually thinks I like him... tee hee hee"

Chakar

Damn it there's so many condnundrums about the whole thing.

rosso1977

Chakar wrote:

And looks at your eyes, not at the damn floor.

well going by that then there's loads of girls out there who likes me !

to be honest, the more i think about it the more i'm convinced that she isn't interested. take today for instance, at the cafeteria during breakfast. as my mates and I entered the place she had a glimpse of who's coming in ( which is pretty normal..everyone does that when someone comes through the door ) but then never looked at my direction again when i was queing up for food.
Conversation with her during lunch were brief at well...it was more like ' how are u and how was the weekend etc etc' and ' oh i did this and that bla bla bla' and oh ' thats good etc etc ( granted I cannot hold a conversation to save my life and there are other ppl around to talk too ). Just cannot seem to 'connect' if u know what i mean

Sarn

rosso1977 wrote:

to be honest, the more i think about it the more i'm convinced that she isn't interested. take today for instance, at the cafeteria during breakfast. as my mates and I entered the place she had a glimpse of who's coming in ( which is pretty normal..everyone does that when someone comes through the door ) but then never looked at my direction again when i was queing up for food.

Maybe she had Monday morning blues. I sometimes switch off completely when I've a heavy workload/stressed. It's the sum of all the bits that matter. You're better off taking a chance, if she's all right then it won't be a problem whatever her response.

Húrin

rosso1977 wrote:

well going by that then there's loads of girls out there who likes me !

to be honest, the more i think about it the more i'm convinced that she isn't interested. take today for instance, at the cafeteria during breakfast. as my mates and I entered the place she had a glimpse of who's coming in ( which is pretty normal..everyone does that when someone comes through the door ) but then never looked at my direction again when i was queing up for food.
Conversation with her during lunch were brief at well...it was more like ' how are u and how was the weekend etc etc' and ' oh i did this and that bla bla bla' and oh ' thats good etc etc ( granted I cannot hold a conversation to save my life and there are other ppl around to talk too ). Just cannot seem to 'connect' if u know what i mean

Just do it!!! It's better to regret something you did than something you didn't do!

DonkeyStyle \o/ wrote:

Half the time I wonder are they laughing with me or at me.
"oh roflcopters! I can't believe this guy actually thinks I like him... tee hee hee"

adding copters makes it so much funnier, I don't know why!

rosso1977

H&#250 wrote: »

Just do it!!! It's better to regret something you did than something you didn't do!

dont have the b@lls too...lol..if i know she's interested...or at least hint that she is, i would, but right now my gut feeling says she isn't..

david

rosso1977 wrote:

H&#250 wrote: »

Just do it!!! It's better to regret something you did than something you didn't do!

dont have the b@lls too...lol..if i know she's interested...or at least hint that she is, i would, but right now my gut feeling says she isn't..

Pics tbh.

unreg54756987

With great difficulty

rosso1977

freakonaleashx wrote:

rosso1977 wrote:

Pics tbh.

i dont get it