Were you a Mistake...?

Dub13

I was having a few beers with a mate yesterday and he was trying to get over the sad news he found out only a few hours before hand.He was talking to one of his parents and he found out that he was a mistake or as the older generation like to put it "not planned".

Now this news came as a bit of a shock to my mate,who is normally very easy going.His parents must have taught at 26 he was at an age were he could here/handle the truth.It got me thinking if I was planned or not and I intend to have this conversation with one of my parents soon,just out of curiosity of course as in the greater scheme of things I don't care I am here now and thats all I care about.

So were you a Mistake or "not planned"....?

Kinetic^

Atari Jaguar

Dub13 wrote:

So were you a Mistake or "not planned"....?

I don't know either way, and TBH, it wouldn't matter as the amount of unplanned pregnancies is a massive number. Actually if anybody has the ratio of planned to unplanned that would be great.

pclancy

I dont think I really care if I was planned or not, im here now and thats all that matters.

Why care?

frobisher

No

I reckon this is cryin out for a yes/no/don't know poll. C'mon mods!

I'm not sure where we can squeeze atari jaguar into this though!

Brian017

Yeah, Daddy ran off when he found out Mummy was knocked up.

arbeitsscheuer

Dunno, but it seems likely:
I'm the youngest of 7 children, and my parents were around 42 when I was born, so...

But as pclancy says:

I dont think I really care if I was planned or not, im here now and thats all that matters.

Why care?

takola

No

I dont think anyone in my family was planned tbh. My younger brother found out he was a rape baby when he was 10. Wasn't an easy thing for him to hear or accept. But these things really don't matter.

snickerpuss

Don't know

I was planned, whey! Not that it actually matters.

Ruu_Old

Atari Jaguar

Dont know whether I was or not, dont really care either way

Dub13

Don't know

Poll Added.

Huggles

My siblings are 1 year and 2 days apart, I came along 8 and a half years later so yes, I was a 'mistake', accident really is a better word, a mistake is something you regret?!?

Pherekydes

I was born in 1960; did they plan things then?

And how could your parents possibly plan you? 1 out of 300m sperm? Think of how different siblings can be...

steveland?

I don't think I'd like to find out I wasn't planned because that'd mean my parents had sex without the sole purpose being to make a baby...

They don't have sex for pleasure... they DON'T have sex for pleasure!

michaela

No

i wasnt planned atall n then as soon as my 'dad' found out i was ere he fuked off, not sayin am upset like cos hes a twat but yeh i wasnt planned. if i'd of only just found out that i wasnt planned i dont think ad b that bothered tbh
and i dont think of myself as a mistake i think of myself as a more a nice surprise

Dub13

Don't know

michaela wrote:

i dont think of myself as a mistake i think of myself as a more a nice surprise

Thats a good attitude to have.

Hail 2 Da Chimp

Don't know

I was planned but my bro and sister weren't... hahaha I win!!!

rainbow kirby

No

I definitely wasn't planned... no baby born to a 21 year old who still lived with her parents is ever planned!

chamlis

I was a miracle, goddamnit!

EDIT: Get off my lawn!

Dave!

michaela wrote:

and i dont think of myself as a mistake i think of myself as a more a nice surprise

lol

I don't know if I was planned tbh... The topic never came up

luckat

No

My mother told me I was a mistake - but very welcome, she hastily added.

Way I see it, I was unstoppable! I don't need no stinkin' plan, man.

jimmycrackcorm

Unlike the rest of you mistakes, my mother and father placed all the sperm out on the table and picked which one would be me.

HappyCrackHead

No

i was a product of middle-youth passion... which is kinda manky to be aware of but im a realist. not an accident, my parents call me a... "surprise".

elivsvonchiaing

Don't know

Parents revealing to their child that they were a "mistake" is probably acceptable from age 15 - 18 (the parent that is). After that it is obvious the parent(s) never grew-up.

My parents never said I was a mistake - just that they were disappointed with how I live my life; "given" my upbrining. They are trapped between 18 and 20 emmotionally methinks...

My theory on all of this; if your parent(s) are alive - you have to develop a skin around yourself and pretend that while you grew up thinking of them as adults - you have to keep up the pretence that they are to a degree.

I have the luxury of being a full adult - without kids - but seriously wonder if I ever had - would I ever stoop to childish lows like "you weren't planned you know" - I hope not - but I don't know for sure...

simu

Don't know

I probably wasn't - I was the first and they were married.

I'm pregnant atm but I'd refer to it as a surprise rather than a mistake because tbh, it was a good thing to happen even if unplanned!

nesf

Don't know

simu wrote:

I probably wasn't - I was the first and they were married.

I'm pregnant atm but I'd refer to it as a surprise rather than a mistake because tbh, it was a good thing to happen even if unplanned!

"You were a suprise hun. A wonderful suprise!"

Agent Smith

excuse me and the rest of boards while we throw up....

nesf

Don't know

agent smith wrote:

excuse me and the rest of boards while we throw up....

Was my sarcasm too subtle?

Dub13

Don't know

Looking at the stats,5 Mods have voted and not one was a mistake.

Does this say anything about Mods...?

And yes I am board.

simu

Don't know

Dub13 wrote:

Looking at the stats,5 Mods have voted and not one was a mistake.

Does this say anything about Mods...?

Yes. Yes, it does.

nesf

Don't know

Dub13 wrote:

Does this say anything about Mods...?

So. The inference would be that being more loved by your parents makes you more likely to be an internet nerd?

Binomate

No

Every time my parents threathen to kick me out of the house, I always hit them with the excuse "Well you brought me in to the world. I didn't ask you to so it's up to you to provide me with housing and stuff to live". Then once I got back from my old man, "Well we never asked you to come in to this world either so fuck off out of here". Lol, wasn't expecting that.

Dub13

Don't know

nesf wrote:

So. The inference would be that being more loved by your parents makes you more likely to be an internet nerd?

There could be something in that.The thing is I am planing on finding out if I was a mistake or not tomorrow and I don't want to be the first Mod to have to admit I was a mistake.It could wreck my reputation,and we all know reputation is everything around here you are nothing without it.

Burning Eclipse

Binomate wrote:

Every time my parents threathen to kick me out of the house, I always hit them with the excuse "Well you brought me in to the world. I didn't ask you to so it's up to you to provide me with housing and stuff to live". Then once I got back from my old man, "Well we never asked you to come in to this world either so fuck off out of here". Lol, wasn't expecting that.

Your old man sounds like a laugh

I voted Atari Jaguar.... I honestly don't know... But I know this, I was born 45 weeks after my parents tied the knot. Me=Honeymoon baby

Victor

Dub13 wrote:

Does this say anything about Mods...?

More about the muppet users.

Tar.Aldarion

Atari Jaguar

Don't know or care. Why would you care?
Looking at the age gaps, seems If anybody wasn't a mistake, it was me but really, meh!

Zillah

I was planned, but I really wouldn't give a crap either way. They kept you didn't they? I can't fathom people being upset at the news that they weren't planned. Wtf, who cares.

Beruthiel

steveland? wrote:

They don't have sex for pleasure... they DON'T have sex for pleasure!

oh yes they do.
They have sex for pleasure all the time, on the sofa, kitchen table, bathroom, stairs, floors... what do you think the get up to when you are out of the house?
careful where you sit now...


considering that probably 90% of the worlds population was unplanned, I can't for the life of me see why this should upset you. What difference does it make?

thelordofcheese

I think most people are unplanned, but that's because I can't wrap my head around the concept of a planned pregnancy, I keep getting mental images of a woman organising a pregnancy much like you'd book a restaurant

"Friday... no Fridays not good, I have to have lunch with my mother, how about next Monday... yeah that's good. HUSBAND! YOU'RE KNOCKING ME UP ON MONDAY, DON'T FORGET!"

CathyMoran

Don't know

Well, I was a whit weekend baby according to my daddy. They planned me very carefully, dad was even able to describe the carpet that he was, ahem, looking at...blue shag pile.

The Sweeper

I was a total surprise. (And no, I don't believe in using 'mistake'. )

I have two older brothers, who are nearly ten years older than me, and there's 11 months between them. My mother was 44 years old when she had me, and I think it's pretty obvious there was fcuk-all family planning in our house! Other than a decade of probable near-total abstinence as the ma recovered from the shock of having two babies in 20 months.

But seriously though, why would I care?

Dub13

Don't know

thelordofcheese wrote:

I can't wrap my head around the concept of a planned pregnancy,

I have 2 kids and one on the way,all were planned.It does happen.

Sam Vimes

No

i was adopted. you can't be more of a mistake than that

but my parents (my adopted ones) went through loads of tests before they were allowed have me. who else can say their parents are approved by the state?

robinph

No

I've not had this chat with them, but I'd definately say that I was a surprise as my second eldest brother was only finally adopted by them about 8 months before I was born and I've got the impression that they thought they could not have any more kids after the first one.

Stench Blossoms

All I know is that i was made in Corfu, whether i was a mistake or not is another question.

failsafe

Don't know

nesf wrote:

So. The inference would be that being more loved by your parents makes you more likely to be an internet nerd?

So if i have kids, i best not love them, to be on the safe side?

ST*

Atari Jaguar

Well.. they got married the December, I was born in July.
I was at the wedding! mmm cake

I asked my mother whether I was planned or not.. she just said that they had wedding plans set out, and I 'suprised' them shortly before..

slightlycrazy

Don't know

Defitenly wasn't planned me. My mom was just walking along one day and out I popped. I think I was emacuatly conceived!

Catney

No

I was a mistake. It was always something that my parents and I agreed on: We both regretted it.

takola

No

Can you be a "mistake" if your parents were married though?

evad_lhorg

Atari Jaguar

my parents say i was planned but what else are they gonna tell me. :rolleyes:

azezil

Atari Jaguar

I know my eldest sister wasn't, she was the reason my parents got married in a hurry

I always assumed, knowing how disorganised my parents are, that none of us were planned... I just find it amusing, feel like we came along to punish them for their lack of self control ;P