infatuation?

LegacyUser

just wondering on peoples thoughts on 'love'/infatuation at first sight? possible or not?
i used to think it was complete bulls*** but lately im not so sure,
theres a guy i see almost everyday hanging out with his friends and the like , i dont know him and have never spoken to him or anything but i've run into him on numerous occasions in the most coincidencial situations, i know this will sound ridiculous, and im not saying im in 'love' with him or anything even close, but at the same time i do have feelings for him ,i get the impresson its mutual,they must be superficial because i dont know him but at the same time im attracted to how he acts around people, feelings are mostly purely physical i suppose but at the same time its something more, im doin a bad job at explaining this but i dunno is it possible to feel like you know someone or have some sort of connection with someone without actually 'knowing them'?

epsnich

I dunno. I always thought love-at-first-sight was bull**** but then I had the same thing as what you have with someone else. When I got to know him we fell for eachother straight away. I never had that with anyone else before. The thing is, my situation is different and difficult because I'm living with my boyfriend.

pepper

i believe in lust at first sight but not love

pyramuid man

Agreed pepper. There is always a feeling of almost loveiness proportions when you see someone you fancy the pants off. But that is just lust. It gets to a stage that you imagine a way in which they act and are before speaking to them at all. Its like dejavu but it is just your imagination working overtime in most cases.

Faith

It's perfectly normal to have feelings, even strong feelings, for someone you've never met.

I'd very easily say that I've fallen in love at first sight, but having never actually definately BEEN in love, I'm probably just getting it confused with lust. But I'd still say it's possible but unlikely.

jcoote

when u don't know someone u can forumlate a personality in your head and fantasize about the person doing things 'your way' which instantly makes them more appealing...its a notion of the perfect man/woman that people get infatuated with not the person

Mr.E old

What about infatuation with a person you know? I need to find someway to stop it, it's driving me mad.

tman

pepper wrote:

i believe in lust at first sight but not love

aye, exactly what i was planning on posting.
i spent the latter part of my teenage years believing that i was in love with someone. when i actually stopped to analyse it, it was pure lust.

would still love to give her a root though:p

jcoote

bein infatuated with someone u know is the same thing

again if u know someone they are fine with you because they don't have to be 100% open with you

also don't forget wanting to shag someone is not infatuation its just wanting to shag someone

jcoote

jcoote wrote:

When u don't know someone u can forumlate a personality in your head and fantasize about the person doing things 'your way' which instantly makes them more appealing...its a notion of the perfect man/woman that people get infatuated with not the person

nail on head there jcoote.
Theres a girl i fancy that i dont know on a personal level. She could be a proper bint, a psycho, crap in bed, you name it but cos she's the only woman your interested in added to the fact you dont know anything about her you can only assume shes the perfect woman. i suppose we watch too much films. oh well, i feel better for reading this anyway. Im not the only one. Having said that i wont be turning down said person if theres a chance.

metrovelvet

infatuation - giving something you havent got to someone who doesnt exist.

What your experiencing is chemistry.

TomBeckett

How about infatuation with somebody that you do know. and she is totally perfect stunning looking,great personality,amazing eyes ect ect ect and i could chat away all night see her at work same thing. but just cant get the nerve to pull the trigger just in case that i F**k up everything:o :eek:

Miguel_Sanchez

There's definitely lust at first sight but every so often there's a lot more.

Four and a half years ago I went to a gig where I met a friend of a friend. As soon as she walked in the door I knew in my head that I had to know everything about her. Luckily for me she had the same first impression and we went out for four years.

So I would go with yes, it happens very rarely, but it does happen.