Sex Advice

Speedway

my girlfriend and myself are together for well over a year now and for some reason during sex she can't seem to orgasm fully. There's no problem in any other form of foreplay or anything,she can orgasm no problem.Its just during sex she starts to approach orgasm and it seems like its going to be great but then she said it feels like the feeling gets too intense and then its like she orgasmed but didnt feel it.

its starting to become kinda frustrating for both of us and i was just wondering if anyone here had had a similiar problem or any advice for me on technique or anything?
thanks a lot

Altheus

External stimulation

Victor

It happens a lot of women.

Speedway

ya its external stimulation in conjunction with other things that brings her to the point of a nice orgasm its just seems to completely die then and its been happening all the time.

Altheus

Unlike men, women can lose their arousal during intercourse, and from even overstimulation.

Perhaps, you should slow down, and alternate between entirely penetrative, and oral. According to my g/f, she has entirely different internal and external orgasms, however, she cant orgasm from penetrative sex unless she's already orgasmed from oral... that or she's really greedy.

It's also possibly performance anxiety, it happens men too. You can pump for Ireland but never come. Generally it's about letting the arousal subside, no contact, and then start over.

AngryBadger

Do you change it up much during the sex? As in, are we talking 20 minutes of missionary and nought else?

While a lot of guys can be brought to orgasm by a woman just applying the same "technique" until they cum, women generally aren't the same. They can actually become, for want of a better word, "desensitised" when you apply the same kind of stimulation persistently. If you're not already doing this try changing position, and if external stimulation is something that works for her, try positions that free up one of your hands, then go to town on her labia.

Many women find a gradual build-up to the point of orgasm to be far more satisfying than just plunging in. Pacing is critical, so if you're not doing it already, train yourself to read her responses, and up the gears as she begins to hit the apex of a particular speed.....

this is starting to read like a manual, I'm swear I'm far more sensual in person

metrovelvet

How many times must this be said in PI- Thaedydal can you put a sticky up.

MOST WOMEN DONT ORGASM FROM INTERCOURSE!!!!

We need manual or oral stimulation.

AB Are you showing off? Also the the labia isnt the clit. You guys STILL dont know where it is? Shocking. You do need a manual.

Does she masterbate? If a woman can't make herself orgasm then chances are her guy wont either. Unless hes superskilled .

AngryBadger

metrovelvet wrote:

AB Are you showing off? Also the the labia isnt the clit. You guys STILL dont know where it is? Shocking. You do need a manual.

'course I'm showing off, and I intentionally advised paying attention to the labia, and not the clit, because, of the guys who can actually find it, many go straight for it, and that's as big a mistake as not being able to find it.