Why is it the good one's always get away?

le-dub

I met this girl in work after x-mas and i didn't really take much notice of her at the start, but durning the week i actually thought is was lovely with a good sense of humour. We were all out on a friday night and she was there and cam over talking to me and we ended been with each other. We arranged to meet over the weekend, but it didn't happen, my fault of course. I asked her out for a drink and had a great time and i really enjoyed myself as did she. The thing is she is leaving the country for good and i can't believe my luck. I'm a picky person when it comes to girls and i really like this girl and i know she likes me as well. We have e-mailed each other in work, sent txt's mgs and that. Im actually freaked about this as its nearly time for her to go and im just so annoyed that i find a girl i actually like, who has a great Personality and we make each other laugh. I went with my mates one weekend and we went to a club after, but i had no interest in talking to girls or and honestly did'nt want to be there and didn't enjoy myself one bit.

We tried to arrange another night out, but we both have things to do and it never reallly happened and its prob to late now.

Why is it the good one's always get away

Anyone have any advice on what to do. I don't feel like going with my mates now on the weekend. I know it sounds stupid, but honestly going to miss her loads.

Supercell

Harsh as it sounds, get over it.

You really barely know her, a few weeks romance is nowhere near "knowing someone", shes leaving the country, face up to reality, only in Hollywood will she ditch her plans to move to another country ..it sucks but thats life.

daiixi

Ahh tell me about it. I met the *perfect* guy 10 days before I left Australia. He waited for me for six months and then when I decided that I was moving to England (many reasons for the move - have now been away for four years) he said goodbye but we occasionally still keep in touch.

So advice? Keep in contact, stay her friend. You never know what will happen in the future - she may move back, you may move to wherever she has gone - who knows! But do keep in contact. At the very least you've made yourself a friend and you can never have too many of those.

As for not feeling like going out with your mates now on the weekend, you don't have to, but you should. Staying at home being sad isn't going to change things. Go out, socialise - your life will go on. (this does not mean you have to be interested in talking to other girls mind you!!!)

Oh, you're allowed to miss her now matter how stupid it sounds.

mickymg2003

Yeah life sucks. Things like this happen. You'll get over it but as daiixi said, Stay in contact with her and you'll never know what happens.

Fanny Cradock

just a question, but do you think you would really be feeling the same way if she wasn't moving away?? i say this because you admit yourself that you are picky!

anyway, just a thought that popped into my mind. as was said before, stay in touch with her and see what happens down the road!

le-dub

if she was staying then i think things would have got serious alright. I do intend to stay in touch and may even go visit and she may do the same. Ijust have to wait and see how things go.

AngryBadger

You got to know this girl. You feel attracted to her. She's moving away soon. You're panicking because in your head you've made her into the perfect woman.

I'd suggest what's really happening is that you might like a long term gig with one woman. You haven't found it yet. You had a great night with this one girl, and you're not even getting a chance to explore it any further. And that sucks donkey balls.

However i don't think you're actually in love with THIS girl. I think she's just made you realise that there's something out there you haven't really considered before, and you're afraid you may never find it again.

If it's at all possible meet her again, just to see if you can flesh the thing out in your head a little bit more. But honestly, if a relationship was on the cards this would be one of the highest points, because it's most new, right now. if you're really that into her there's always the long distance thing, but as I've said I don't think that's what's really happening.

Give yourself a couple of days, and then start thinking about meeting someone else, someone you might like, and put some effort into them.

MarinoMark

Always strike whilst the "Iron is hot"...Dont usually get a second strike..Try to learn from it..It will happen again.. then you will know....M

Laguna

These aren't your normal set of circumstances tbh, she is leaving the country and short of you emigrating with her (which might not be the best thing to do considering you only KNOW her three months let alone be in a relationship with her) there's nothing else you can do. It's harsh man, harsh like a harsh wind...

Civilian_Target

LOL - same happened to me - met a girl and we clicked in a way I've never seen before or since, less than a month than I was due to leave Dublin for good. We had a great time together, and learnt a huge amount about each other with a level of honesty and directness you don't get otherwise.

Anyway, go for it. Like you say, she's leaving, go for broke and ask her. Phone her and arrange a suitable evening, tonight is always good.

Ickle Magoo

Pretty much every guy I've ever dated was "perfect" in the first few weeks/months until I got to know them properly....I'd say give her a call, ask her out - go on a couple of dates & see if you are prepared to make a long distance relationship work.....I think these things have a funny way of working themselves out for the best, tho.....:)

le-dub

I'M BACK FOR MORE ADVICE:

She has left and gone back home now. ITs her birthday shortly and i was thinking of sending something over but not sure.

I would like advice from GIRLS mostly on this one, but not 2 bothered...........

deimos

le-dub wrote:

The thing is she is leaving the country for good and i can't believe my luck.

Seriously, that's bad luck. What a bloody buzzkill of a situation.

Santa Claus

le-dub wrote:

I'M BACK FOR MORE ADVICE:

She has left and gone back home now. ITs her birthday shortly and i was thinking of sending something over but not sure.

I would like advice from GIRLS mostly on this one, but not 2 bothered...........

Speaking as someone who had a bit of a thing with a girl who moved to Singapore, flowers are a good way of reminding her you're still thinking about her.
You could also get something more personal for her and post it over, but depending on how soon her birthday is it may not get there in time.
If you can, try and post a bithday card. Women tend to place much more importance on a handwritten card than an email or a text (plus it'll be something she can keep that will remind her of you) !

You never mentioned where she moved to...are we talking other side of the world or UK/Europe ?

le-dub

Ok i decided i would send her something like flowers etc:) I had to ask for her address so she prob knows something is up. She hasn't moved that far away. I could jump on a plane if i wanted and be there is 1hr.

I just hope she likes them and doesn't get scared, which i dont think she will anyway.

Beruthiel

flowers won't scare her, it's a nice thought

jonny68

How about a nice big box of Milk Tray,and the lady loves Milk Tray....

Third_Echelon

jonny68 wrote:

How about a nice big box of Milk Tray,and the lady loves Milk Tray....

... but dont deliver it through the bedroom window They dont like that...

Keep in touch, send the flowers. You never know what will happen in the future...

le-dub

Thanks for the advice everyone. I sent flowers and she was delighted, so all i can say is watch this space