Woman who cant orgasm

LegacyUser

Hi,

Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a year now and we've been regulary having sex. I love him and fancy him and everything but Ive never come from having sex with him. I don't know what the problem is, Im not nervous or anything and our sex can last long enough for it to be possible but it still never happens. I've orgasmed plenty of times from foreplay with him but when it comes to sex it just doesnt get to that point. What's wrong with me?

Victor

I understand this is common, more so with women than men.

Are you enjoying things otherwise?

Worriedwoman

Worriedwoman wrote:

Hi,

Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a year now and we've been regulary having sex. I love him and fancy him and everything but Ive never come from having sex with him. I don't know what the problem is, Im not nervous or anything and our sex can last long enough for it to be possible but it still never happens. I've orgasmed plenty of times from foreplay with him but when it comes to sex it just doesnt get to that point. What's wrong with me?

Happens to a great many women. At least you can orgasm from foreplay.
There's nothing wrong, I guess.

Though maybe someone knows some way of getting around it.

Nevyn

First off why not go to your dr and have things checked out and if s/he can't hel p get a referal to a Gynie.
This does happen to some women for varying reasons how far you want to go to try sort it out is up to you.
But at least you are able to achieve an orgasm by other methods,
sometimes if a woman can't achieve an orgasm by vaginal peneatrative sex she maybe able to via anal.
Still I do suggest you speak to you dr, you have the right to a happy and healthy sex life.

WhiteWashMan

Worriedwoman wrote:

Hi,

Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a year now and we've been regulary having sex. I love him and fancy him and everything but Ive never come from having sex with him. I don't know what the problem is, Im not nervous or anything and our sex can last long enough for it to be possible but it still never happens. I've orgasmed plenty of times from foreplay with him but when it comes to sex it just doesnt get to that point. What's wrong with me?

apparently only 30% of women orgasm through penetration alone.
youre in the other 70%.

use your imagination and have fun figuring out how he is going to make you orgasm next...

AngryBadger

Worriedwoman wrote:

Hi,

Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a year now and we've been regulary having sex. I love him and fancy him and everything but Ive never come from having sex with him. I don't know what the problem is, Im not nervous or anything and our sex can last long enough for it to be possible but it still never happens. I've orgasmed plenty of times from foreplay with him but when it comes to sex it just doesnt get to that point. What's wrong with me?

What does he do when you're having foreplay that makes you orgasm? And can you reporduce this during intercourse? Any other sensations, is it even pleasant? is it uncomfortable?

Tiriel

Maybe try different positions, and relax.. this is so important.. if you are concentrating on it.. it won't happen! Like watching a kettle boil..

lazydaisy

OP-

Dont be worried. Most women don't through intercourse. Theres nothing wrong with you. Oral or manual is necessary for most women.

Ickle Magoo

OP, the majority of women don't or can't orgasm through penetrative sex alone.....most require oral or manual stimulation prior to sex to achieve orgasm that way....some positions naturally led themselves to being easier for a woman to achieve orgasm such as you on top but you may find another position works much better for you....experiment, try different positions, maybe get your b/f to bring you right to the brink of orgasm before entering you, you can also get a huge variation of clitoral stimulators that can be used during sex to help things along.....best thing you can do is relax, have fun, experiment and see what works best for you....best of luck

WhiteWashMan

Cork_girl wrote:

Maybe try different positions, and relax.. this is so important.. if you are concentrating on it.. it won't happen! Like watching a kettle boil..

contrary to popular belief, a watched kettle does actually boil.

Beruthiel

Worriedwoman wrote:

What's wrong with me?

absolutely nothing,
you are in the majority of woman who don’t come through penetrative sex. oral sex is your friend and can be just as satisfying – it’s all about the main goal, not how you get there!
stop worrying

Nickibaby*

There is nothing wrong with you, echoing what everyone else said don't worry about it. Experiment.

Miss Fluff

Ickle Magoo wrote:

you can also get a huge variation of clitoral stimulators that can be used during sex to help things along.....best thing you can do is relax, have fun, experiment and see what works best for you....

Get yourself to Ann Summers girl

FlutterinBantam

WhiteWashMan wrote:

contrary to popular belief, a watched kettle does actually boil.

Not strictly true.... I conducted an experiment on my Morphy Richards Jug and watched it for two and a half hours...... bitch wouldnt boil...


Then I plugged it in and it boiled no problem... can you credit that????

Airblazer

get your b/f to try and do more shallow thrusts...the majority of the vagina's nerves are at the entrance so the less penetrative the thrust the more you'll feel...also look up some sex positions on the web..you'd be surprised how many of them actually only cause the man to orgasm and not the woman...
I'm sure after trying out both of the above you should have no prob..it's just a matter of knowledge and as they said knowledge is power or in this case orgasms

LegacyUser

Thanks everyone. Besides me not coming during intercourse our sex life is great and any clitoral stimulation at all will make me come. I just kinda thought that most girls came from penetration and I was alone here. I feel really bad because I fake orgasm all the time when we have sex cause I know he gets turned on when I come. At this stage Im feeling really guilty and I think he'll start to notice if i start asking for more stimulation when we have sex.

Seraphina

you just gotta be honest, say you enjoy sex, but you much prefer clitoral stimulation. maybe he could it try during intercourse?

Tiriel

WhiteWashMan wrote:

contrary to popular belief, a watched kettle does actually boil.

I think you know what I meant:rolleyes:

the Guru

are you taking any antidepressants ??, sometimes these can cause you not to orgasm

daiixi

Worriedwoman wrote:

At this stage Im feeling really guilty and I think he'll start to notice if i start asking for more stimulation when we have sex.

You're best off fessing up, explaining why you were faking and asking for his help and patience as you try lots of different ways to see if you can orgasm through intercourse.
He may be a little put out that you've been faking it for so long, but he should be more than happy to experiment. Good luck!

WhiteWashMan

Cork_girl wrote:

I think you know what I meant:rolleyes:

no, becuase it may be that no matter how much her chap pounds away, she may never experience through orgasm.
rolleyes away if you want, youre just wrong.

Airblazer

Seraphina wrote:

you just gotta be honest, say you enjoy sex, but you much prefer clitoral stimulation. maybe he could it try during intercourse?

try the spoons position..this will allow him to provide stimulation as well..you can always guide his hands