Should I Say Sorry???

dceire

Basically here's my situation, I really like a girl I work with and have done for a good while now. We've been getn along great txtn & talkn all the time but it hasn't gone any further.

I was out with her and all the gang from work last night who were convinced that we would get togeather but it didnt happen. Anyway in my drunkn state I sent her a txt from my taxi, telling her how i feel. She replied saying that she went out with a good freind in the past & didnt want to ruin it!(likely to be a load of bull)

I was it work with her today and everything seemed normal the txt wasnt even mentioned. I was thinking of txting her tonight to say sorry for my drunkn text. Should I, or should I just leave it be?

PowerHouseDan

I'd leave it. As you said things were normal between ye.

aidan_walsh

Leave it.

OLDYELLAR

Leave it.
She said no so its best forgotten , You`ll be opening a can of worms bringing it up to be honest.

Töpher

Karoma wrote:

Leave it.

^^

Nickibaby*

Echoing what everyone else said, leave it

galwaydude18

leave well enough alone. DONT DIG ANY HOLES FOR YOURSELF!

Eminem

Leave it be say nothing its best off somethings are best off un said

dceire

Alright I'll take your expert advice and let it be, but I'm going to find it very hard to remain just good freinds with her because I really feel strongly for her. I fear the only way I can get over her is to try and black her out but it wouldnt be fair on her because she has done nothing wrong.

WhiteWashMan

if you need to say something, say something, but dont think that your relationship will ever ben anything like it was from now on.

personally, i think youre better off saying something. if shes not interested really, then shes not interested, but fortune favours the brave...

dceire

WhiteWashMan wrote:

personally, i think youre better off saying something. if shes not interested really, then shes not interested, but fortune favours the brave...

Stupid question I know but saying what exactly? I told her how I felt in the text last night, although it was a drink fueled one I think we were both sober enough to say what we ment.

Ickle Magoo

I think by virtue of the fact you told her how you feel, you have changed the dimensions of your relationship beyond friendship - on your part anyway - regardless of how you both "acted" today at work.....I don't think you have anything to lose by appologising and clearing the air between you...at the very least the girl will know you are genuine, you weren't just being a drunken letch and you are mature enough to deal with the issues caused so you don't lose her friendship and also to save either of you feeling awkward.....the auld "ostrich technique" is very popular on these occassions but I have always found it much better to tackle issues head on and save myself the stress and worry of wondering....best of luck

optiplexgx270

Drop it for SURE and forget about it whether or not its true just forget it and move on.

ferdi

next time you feel like sending a drunken text, dont. i've yet to hear of a time where that worked out well.

rsta

hey dceire
well id say leave it too, sure uv told her how u feel, so see how it goes over the next while...
i was in a similar situ b4 with a lad and told him the same story as that chick told u but we hooked up in the end (after a few weeks of getting to know him a bit better)

aidan_walsh

ferdi wrote:

next time you feel like sending a drunken text, dont. i've yet to hear of a time where that worked out well.

"Happy New Year"?

py2006

I know a girl who would totally ignore any guy who texted her to ask her out or texted her his feelings and totally hates anyone who ends relationships over texts!

Maybe she would have reacted better if you told her to her face! But then again, from experience, if you do that and she is not interested it can virtually end the friendship.

WhiteWashMan

dceire wrote:

Stupid question I know but saying what exactly? I told her how I felt in the text last night, although it was a drink fueled one I think we were both sober enough to say what we ment.

sorry, i didnt realise you managed to get the whole complexity of your feeling sacross in one small text.
i do wish i was more concise in explaining my emotions. it would save me a great deal of discomfort.

in that case, if you told her and explained everything, you have nothing more to say to her. she hasnt come back to you, so maybe you should just accept that she doesnt want you.

or...

are you curious as to what she has to say? and therefore, talking to her, explaining your position again (because i really dont believe you got everything off your chest in a simple text) and ask directly for an answer.

if she tells you she isnt interested, then at least you know. youre not hanging around in limbo like some love sick puppy.
if she says yes, then well done.

either way, you get the girl or you get to move on.

right now, you havent a clue and youre asking advice of teenagers on a bullitan bord

LegacyUser

A closed mout catches no flies !

Victor

Don't apologise, what if she was just testing you?

dceire

WhiteWashMan wrote:

(because i really dont believe you got everything off your chest in a simple text) and ask directly for an answer.

True, and I Aknow your right about talking to her person to person but I don't think I have the balls to do so.

WhiteWashMan wrote:

I know a girl who would totally ignore any guy who texted her to ask her out or texted her his feelings and totally hates anyone who ends relationships over texts!.

She's right too, its something that I've never done before and never plan on doing again, the moment sent came up on the screen I realised what an idiot I was.

WhiteWashMan wrote:

well id say leave it too, sure uv told her how u feel, so see how it goes over the next while...
i was in a similar situ b4 with a lad and told him the same story as that chick told u but we hooked up in the end (after a few weeks of getting to know him a bit better)

I know the guy she was talking about, she used to go out with him but there still good freinds now. And as for her getting to know me better, we,ve known each other for about 8 months and have been good freinds for about 6 of them so I dont think there's alot more to know about each other.


She sent me a 'How are you' kind of text late last night and was asking me if I had a good night on Sat, the text never came up, so I think i'll leave it at that, its a bit late now anyway

[Jackass]

Leave it!

You've planted the seed in her mind anyway Keep playing it cool and getting on with her like before...she'll have that in the back of her mind and may grow to like you if she dosen't already.

Appoligising makes a big deal out of it and could make things weird/worse.

Anyway, what do you plan to achieve by saying sorry? She dosen't seemed p!ssed off or stand offish...

Play cool man could be a good thing, got the ball rolling, and trying to nudge yourself out of the friend zone...like i said, just forget about it and doing what you're doing...who knows, maybe next time you're out boozin she might feel more comfortable to make a confession to you now