Attracted to gf's mom

Anon2006

Hi. I'm feeling very confused at the moment and wonder if people might have some advice.

I'm a 24 yr old guy and I have been with my 19 year old gf for the past 8 months. Our relationship is going well but I have been put in an awkward position lately, I have begun to become attracted to her Mom whom I have always gotten on well with since I knew her.

I was at her house several times over x-mas, and one night her whole family had a party. As the night wore on more and more alcohol was consumed. I ended up in the kitchen getting some more bottles out of the fridge, when her Mom came in as well. We started flirting outragously with each other and to cut a long story short, we ended up having a short kiss.

Nothing was said between each other about this incident for a few days until she phoned me, saying that even though she was a bit drunk that night, her feelings was genuine for me. I must say that lately I have begun to feel attracted to her as well.

Now she wants to call to my place some evening this week so we can have a talk about it. I honestly have no idea what I should do! My gf is wonderful but there is something special about her Mom, that she doesn't have.

What should I do?

Iago

she's married, you're going out with her daughter, seems simple to me.

Don't meet her under any circumstances, break up with the daughter because she's obviously not what you're looking for.

If you do go ahead and meet the mother it's only going to lead to problems for everybody involved. If you stay with the daughter then you aren't being honest with yourself or with her, and that's going to cause problems for everyone involved as well.

Blub2k4

If I were you I'd be very careful, you are potentially doing a lot of damage if you act out what is being put on a plate for you.
If you are interested in the mother, and she is no longer with her husband then you should deal with her as a freeagent, if she is still in a marriage then reassess....dump the girlfriend anyway man as you are not being honest to a few people at this stage.

TouchingVirus

Iago wrote:

she's married, you're going out with her daughter, seems simple to me.

Don't meet her under any circumstances, break up with the daughter because she's obviously not what you're looking for.

If you do go ahead and meet the mother it's only going to lead to problems for everybody involved. If you stay with the daughter then you aren't being honest with yourself or with her, and that's going to cause problems for everyone involved as well.

Best advice anybody can give you...

Unless you're the pure evil sort who would meet the mother knowing you'll probably have sex and ruin the mother-daughter relationship

The Bollox

troll TBH

Nevyn

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Troll TBH

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hullaballoo

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Marts if the mods of this form saw the post as a troll and of no merit it would not have been approved as all unreggi posts have to be approved by a PI mod.
All posts are to be taken as serious.
Stating is both off topic and unhelpful postings and will get you banned from this forum.
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Do read the charter,
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It's a registered user though.

Nevyn

No more off topic postings.
The post has been reviewed and stands.

Loomis

If you've any morals you'll break up with the girl and cut contact with her and the mother.You've cheated on your girlfriend so you don't deserve her.She doesn't deserve that from her boyfriend.And she certainly doesn't deserve that form her mother!
If the mother is married or not doens't come into it for me.You've crossed a serious line.If you meet the mother "to talk" that's getting into very bad territory.What you've already done coudl break up a family.If you continue it becomes more and more likely.If you cut if off now and the mother keeps quiet then hopefully the poor girl's life won't get turned upside down.

Sifo

I can't believe her mother would do something like that to her own daughter... She's scum and in fairness you should walk away from this while you still can (walk that is).

Savman

Anon2006 wrote:

Hi. I'm feeling very confused at the moment and wonder if people might have some advice.

I'm a 24 yr old guy and I have been with my 19 year old gf for the past 8 months. Our relationship is going well but I have been put in an awkward position lately, I have begun to become attracted to her Mom whom I have always gotten on well with since I knew her.

I was at her house several times over x-mas, and one night her whole family had a party. As the night wore on more and more alcohol was consumed. I ended up in the kitchen getting some more bottles out of the fridge, when her Mom came in as well. We started flirting outragously with each other and to cut a long story short, we ended up having a short kiss.

Nothing was said between each other about this incident for a few days until she phoned me, saying that even though she was a bit drunk that night, her feelings was genuine for me. I must say that lately I have begun to feel attracted to her as well.

Now she wants to call to my place some evening this week so we can have a talk about it. I honestly have no idea what I should do! My gf is wonderful but there is something special about her Mom, that she doesn't have.

What should I do?

Get out and/or run a mile. The whole situation is trouble with a capital T.

AdviseMan

The old get out do not pass go thing comes to mind. So many issues you'd have to deal with here, no worth it. Break up with the girl, give her any reason but the truth.

ARGINITE

Originally Posted by Iago
she's married, you're going out with her daughter, seems simple to me.

Don't meet her under any circumstances, break up with the daughter because she's obviously not what you're looking for.

If you do go ahead and meet the mother it's only going to lead to problems for everybody involved. If you stay with the daughter then you aren't being honest with yourself or with her, and that's going to cause problems for everyone involved as well.

This says it all.

Binomate

The word threesome springs to mind. No harm in trying to get them both in the sack at the same time.

Anon2006

She phoned me earlier and we agreed to meet up tonight so we can sit down and try and sort things out. Thanks for the comments so far but walking away from everything is easier said than done.

Maybe tonight will help clear things up in my mind. i'll let ye know how things go.

Miss Fluff

Anon2006 wrote:

She phoned me earlier and we agreed to meet up tonight so we can sit down and try and sort things out. Thanks for the comments so far but walking away from everything is easier said than done.

Maybe tonight will help clear things up in my mind. i'll let ye know how things go.

WHAT!!???? She's doing a Mrs.Robinson and coming round to your place? :eek: You do know where this is going to end right? A snog is one thing......If you are serious about sorting this I'd recommend meeting her somewhere neutral.

That's if you're not a troll of course...

Savman

Binomate wrote:

The word threesome springs to mind. No harm in trying to get them both in the sack at the same time.

and ignore posts like this :rolleyes:

Nimrod's Son

It might sound harsh but I think you need to sever all contacts. It'll end in tears otherwise, there's no other outcome.

Binomate

I was being serious.

Savman

Binomate wrote:

I was being serious.

So you really think in this predicament this fella should just go ahead and invite his gf and her Ma into the same bed? Somehow I reckon his gf would be a bit suspect, perhaps even a little disgusted.

Grow up.

Binomate

Savman wrote:

So you really think in this predicament this fella should just go ahead and invite his gf and her Ma into the same bed? Somehow I reckon his gf would be a bit suspect, perhaps even a little disgusted.

Grow up.

It's worth a try. It could be interesting.

Savman

Binomate wrote:

It's worth a try. It could be interesting.

How would you fancy a 3some with your Mother?

ARGINITE

Maybe tonight will help clear things up in my mind. i'll let ye know how things go.

I dont know you. But if it was me I would be unable to resist and espically since you said you had feeling for her to.
Your place + GF's mother = TROUBLE.
It's a really bad idea. enough said.

Binomate

The way I see it is that the op is attracted to both of them and the mother and daughter love each other. If they like the op they will do it, if not then he should cut all ties.

Savman

ARGINITE wrote:

Your place + GF's mother = TROUBLE.
It's a really bad idea. enough said.

I agree, best of luck.

Savman

Binomate wrote:

The way I see it is that the op is attracted to both of them and the mother and daughter love each other. If they like the op they will do it, if not then he should cut all ties.

I think I've officially heard enough.

:rolleyes:

ARGINITE

Binomate wrote:

The way I see it is that the op is attracted to both of them and the mother and daughter love each other. If they like the op they will do it, if not then he should cut all ties.

Binomate lives in american pie land.
Its the only place that could ever happen!

MojoMaker

Anon2006 wrote:

She phoned me earlier and we agreed to meet up tonight so we can sit down and try and sort things out. Thanks for the comments so far but walking away from everything is easier said than done.

Maybe tonight will help clear things up in my mind. i'll let ye know how things go.

Sorry, but how is meeting up going to 'sort it out'?:D

It's a veiled excuse to get into the same location as each other so that one or both can take things further. If that wasn't on the agenda there wouldn't be any "meetup" ffs. It would be done over the phone or next time you were around your gf's place.

Best of luck with it though. Milf love is hard to ignore for any young fellow, particularly if she's in any way hot/fit, regardless of any feelings for her daughter. You're 24 and still firmly in the zone where actions are ruled by teh little head. Personally I would weigh up what I felt for the girl and if it's only so-so then by all means press ahead with tonight's shag.

Anon2006

The Mom called over alright yesterday evening after I finished work. I really wanted a discussion but she came over dressed to kill. Things started off okay and we both said that feelings existed between the two of us for one another but that the circumstances were more than a little awkward.

However then she started to made it pretty clear that she wanted nothing else but to end up in bed with me that night. I can't say I wouldn't have minded either but I ended up telling her that I needed more time to figure things out, and neither of us should rush into things.

Later last night I met up with my gf but all the time I was with her I couldn't stop thinking of her mother.

hoody

Anon2006 wrote:

The Mom called over alright yesterday evening after I finished work. I really wanted a discussion but she came over dressed to kill. Things started off okay and we both said that feelings existed between the two of us for one another but that the circumstances were more than a little awkward.

However then she started to made it pretty clear that she wanted nothing else but to end up in bed with me that night. I can't say I wouldn't have minded either but I ended up telling her that I needed more time to figure things out, and neither of us should rush into things.

Later last night I met up with my gf but all the time I was with her I couldn't stop thinking of her mother.

*grabs reality stick and starts beating sense into Anon2006

Loomis

Binomate wrote:

It's worth a try. It could be interesting.

If you can call matricide interesting

Loomis

Binomate wrote:

The way I see it is that the op is attracted to both of them and the mother and daughter love each other. If they like the op they will do it, if not then he should cut all ties.

You watch too much Springer...

Nevyn

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Canis Lupus

Personally my good side says don't be bold but my more persuasive bad side says to score the mom. I'm discovering lately that life is sometimes to short to always do the nice thing.

Loomis

Canis Lupus wrote:

Personally my good side says don't be bold but my more persuasive bad side says to score the mom. I'm discovering lately that life is sometimes to short to always do the nice thing.

So he should score the mam just cause?
Nothing will come of it.It'll destroy the girl if she finds out.She'll hate her mother.Is a 'score' really worth potentially ruining a family?

jimmycrackcorm

Anon2006 wrote:

Later last night I met up with my gf but all the time I was with her I couldn't stop thinking of her mother.

Maybe you should get with her and see if satisfying your curiousity is enough.

BigArnie

Canis Lupus wrote:

I'm discovering lately that life is sometimes to short to always do the nice thing.

I totally agree with that statement. Life's too short to be nice to everyone when there are so many malicious cvnts out there. But with regards to this thread, I think the OP would be well advised to end the relationship with his gf and then wait at least a few months before doing anything with her mother. Either the lust will die out by then or it won't. If it doesn't, the gf will have had more than enough time to get used to the idea of not being with the OP and he has the green light to bone her mom (Jesus... it all just sounds so surreal... never been into MILFs myself thank God... ROFL)

Just my 2c

PS - The fantasy is ALWAYS better than the reality.

Lemming

I would say "walk away" if the OP is having doubts about anything regarding this whole situation (assuming of course this isnt' a wind-up). This isn't some "I'll cheat with her best friend" situation (which is still sh*t in itself). What he's playing with is the destruction of a family relationship so that he can get his jollies. That's just beyond inexcusable.

joejoem

Holy crap. Staceys mom is stuck in my head now.

Seems simple, tell her your not interested, this is the real world, not eastenders.

On the flip side, its a great story to tell in a few years

dundalk cailin

Break up with the girlfriend now, before she gets hurt

Canis Lupus

He has to be caught to destroy anything.

Lemming

Canis Lupus wrote:

He has to be caught to destroy anything.

Oh, it'll come out in the wash at some point. Whether he's still around or not is debatable, but it will destroy a family relationship so that he could get his jollies.

Loomis

Lemming wrote:

Oh, it'll come out in the wash at some point. Whether he's still around or not is debatable, but it will destroy a family relationship so that he could get his jollies.

Exactly.
I mean realistically,can he stay with the girlfriend?Not if he's bet into the mam!
Can he be with the mam?Sure if you can handle awkward dinner's sitting round the family table.Assuming the daughter hasn't disowned her mother.
It's bad bad bad bad sad.

Miss Fluff

Anon2006 wrote:

The Mom called over alright yesterday evening after I finished work. I really wanted a discussion but she came over dressed to kill. ...........However then she started to made it pretty clear that she wanted nothing else but to end up in bed with me that night.

Mommy dearest sounds like a predatory old tart....what kind of woman would do that to their own daughter?

If you want to score an old bird, wait outside a bingo hall after a few old birds have had a few to drink or a gym after a Fit N' Fifty class. Leave your girlfriend and HER MOTHER out of the equation. As someone pointed out, is a score really worth hurting someone that much? Grow up....

*Oul_Doll_Cork*

Miss Fluff wrote:

Mommy dearest sounds like a predatory old tart....what kind of woman would do that to their own daughter?

.

Oh you took the words right out of my mouth! I feel sorry for the OP's girlfriend because she has such a terrible mother and a worse boyfriend for even considering it!!!!
Just dump the girlfriend because you obviously don't love her... this thing with the mother just sounds like lust and if it is it's not worth ruining the family for the sake of a shag! sorry..

mountainyman

Iago wrote:

Don't meet her under any circumstances, break up with the daughter because she's obviously not what you're looking for...

**** that get a nice hotel room take her out for a meal and **** her. It is well worth staying with the daughter as long as possible if you can get her and the mother into bed at the same time.

The mother is a grown woman and frankly if she is willing to **** her daughter's boyfriend that's their problem not yours.

Lemming

To quote Brandon Lee's character in "The Crow" (quoting the novel "Vanity Fair")

"Mother is the name for God in the lips and hearts of little children".

Do you understand what you are proposing? The damage that would occur from the OP going through with this mountainyman? This isn't some male fantasy. This isn't Jerry Springer. You are talking about tearing apart one of the strongest family bonds that exist. That of mother and child. And for what?

A shag?

It says more about you than the mother that you would seriously contemplate this. it is just... wrong. On every level.

shakaman

joejoem wrote:

Holy crap. Staceys mom is stuck in my head now.

Seems simple, tell her your not interested, this is the real world, not eastenders.

On the flip side, its a great story to tell in a few years

Hahahaha same problem here!

My advice.....looks like you won't be happy until you sh@g the Mom. So dump the daughter and have some wild MILF s'x with the mother, obviously keeping the daughter in the dark.

Then walk away when you're both satisfied. You're not serious about the daughter if you're thinking about her Mom so let her get on with her life.

um7y1h83ge06nx

You have to try and give it a go with the mother! It's so outrageous it just has to be done. If you're thinking of going behind your girlfriend's back, then you obviously don't love her, so you may as well have a bit of craic.

Might as well go all out with both of them (not at the same time obviously!) and have a great story that you'll still be telling 50 years from now.

McGinty

There are some areas of lust that are out of bounds, and this is one of them. I am disgusted at the mother for even entertaining this notion, she is obviously jealous of her daughter and utterly selfish.

As for you, I know your dick is talking to you at the moment, as with some of the really innane, stupid replies here, but just stop and think, really think, how would you feel if your father cracked onto your girlfriend and they ended up in bed together. How would you feel towards your father, and how would you feel towards your girlfriend? Your being incredibly selfish, sure we can be attracted to someone who belongs to another (be it married, parent, friend's boyfriend/girlfriend, etc) but you should not cross that line because you'll hurt those around you and you'll end up hurt in some form or another yourself (karma).

Mr.Nice Guy

Meet with her. If you're attracted to her then go for it.