xmas pressie for my ex...

RoyalMarine

need some advice on what to get my ex for xmas.
she is the mother of my son so i need to get her something..

i was thinking of something non personal from me, and something nice from our son...

but im stumped...
is this a right idea?

so far ive thought of like 1 thing... :-(
so i bought her burberry perfume from me.

would this be a mistake? or would her current boyfriend not approve? as i dont wanna start a row between them 2 over it...

thanks.

seamus

I would say perfume is fairly non-personal, provided that it doesn't have any particular meaning.

Jewellery, flowers, chocolates, sentimental memorabilia, are all no-no's.

TBH, if it worries you, and you're at the very least on speaking terms with her current boyfriend, then ask him first if he would be cool with you giving that to her as a christmas present. This shows him a) that you're not trying to muscle back in with a surprise "Oh wow, aren't you the best" gift to your ex, and b) what you're getting her, so he can go twenty times better (it just has to be done).

Savman

€50 Tesco Gift Voucher

p~b

if i was you, i would'nt give her anything

RoyalMarine

tesco's is a no no.. lol.
she hates tesco's...

i need to get her something at least... cant just not give her anything. she already got me something from both her and alex for xmas...

as for ur reply sheamus, personally i hate him. and he hates me cos im the father and he's not...
we dont ever speak at all.
he's already got her present for xmas so im not sure what to do...
guess ill just wing it with perfume and hope he doesnt get pissed off..

Angels

i'd suggest a voucher in general for a shop she likes & then she could buy herself & your son something nice out of it.

Don't give her perfume, thats the boyfs job.

Atrocity

if i was you, i would'nt give her anything

me too.

jonny68

p~b wrote:

if i was you, i would'nt give her anything

Exactly why bother she's your ex FFS :rolleyes:

Victor

I woulde head in the direction of purely neutral / practical and not personal. Books?

mad m

A Pedicure&manicure set? Corkscrew opener?(Got a nice corkscrew gift set in Aldi today for €10), Hat&Scarf&gloves set.

stag39

a years supply of dog-food? sorry just came to me...:D

mad m

jonny68 wrote:

Exactly why bother she's your ex FFS :rolleyes:

Well its different when kids are involved,children can pick up on stuff especially presents.The OP probably wants to keep the karma because of his son.....



Happy christmas to one and all

Danno

Get her a voucher for a kiddies clothes shop... that'd be my advice.

Nevyn

Hey back off with the smart and snotty comments.

RoyalMarineComm you are doing the right thing making sure that your son has
something to give his mother for christmas.
That your son feels that both of his parents who make up his family are included.
If you didnt get some small gift from you to the mother of your son I am sure
the child would be wondering why you didnt like his mother.
No matter how difficult the relationship can be between parents a child will
not ever while young understand why you don't like the parent they love.
Same reason why parents who don't live together should make sure the child
has a present for the other parent on birthdays and mother's/father's day.

Get her a present like you would your sister or aunt, nice pratical not personal.
A gift token that can be used to to the cinema ect

SexeeAussie

I think you are doing a great job

What about a photo of your son in a frame for her????

I think perfume may be a bit personal......

I commend you on doing the 'right' thing...never mind all those tossers that say 'why do it?'


Take Care and good luck

padser

I think perfume would be a tad bf like myself. Since the reason you are getting her a pressie is that she is the mother of your kid why dont you get her something she can enjoy with him. Eg Tickets to something (IF he is old enough) lkie cinema? Voucher for a kiddies shop was a good idea as well. If you tie the present into your kid in some way then it really cant be construed wrongly by anyone.

Genghis

I like the idea of the cinema voucher - or perhaps some other 'day out' that can be enjoyed by your ex and your son.

I would not leave her out, get her something small and impersonal, as the others have suggested. Is Alex too young to be involved in your decision - he might have a few ideas what she would like, and it would probably please her to see that whatever you get was chosen by both of you.

Khannie

SexeeAussie wrote:

What about a photo of your son in a frame for her????

Genius. Best idea yet. By far. Personal and with some creative effort but not overstepping the mark.

Santa Claus

How about a years membership of Dublin zoo so they/you can bring your son to the zoo anytime (That's assuming she's in Dublin).

The picture frame while a great idea might be too sentimental.

Miss Fluff

Danno wrote:

Get her a voucher for a kiddies clothes shop... that'd be my advice.

Brilliant idea

RoyalMarine

mad m wrote:

Well its different when kids are involved,children can pick up on stuff especially presents.The OP probably wants to keep the karma because of his son.....



Happy christmas to one and all

thanks very true! i want to get her something from us both as ill be doing it every year... come on when alex is 3 or 4 he's gonna want to get his mam something and he's gonna look to me to help him. so its right to say that now's the best time to start.

SexeeAussie wrote:

I think you are doing a great job

What about a photo of your son in a frame for her????

I think perfume may be a bit personal......

I commend you on doing the 'right' thing...never mind all those tossers that say 'why do it?'


Take Care and good luck

perfume is a bit personal i guess. and thanks aswell. it is the right thing to do.

Thaedydal wrote:

Hey back off with the smart and snotty comments.

RoyalMarineComm you are doing the right thing making sure that your son has
something to give his mother for christmas.
That your son feels that both of his parents who make up his family are included.
If you didnt get some small gift from you to the mother of your son I am sure
the child would be wondering why you didnt like his mother.
No matter how difficult the relationship can be between parents a child will
not ever while young understand why you don't like the parent they love.
Same reason why parents who don't live together should make sure the child
has a present for the other parent on birthdays and mother's/father's day.

Get her a present like you would your sister or aunt, nice pratical not personal.
A gift token that can be used to to the cinema ect

probably the best reply and this is what i needed to hear. ill get her a voucher for a shop in town and ill get her a book she would like.

thanks a mill!!

:-)

Lex Luthor

what are her interests? does she read? maybe a voucher for easons or one of the book shops?
I would also go and get her something from your son...

I think the present from you should just be an acknowledgement of her as the mother of your child....

xzanti

Maybe something that her and the current bf can benefit from if your looking for his approval??? Like a voucher for a restaurant or something for their house????

Victor

padser wrote:

Voucher for a kiddies shop was a good idea as well.

Unless she wears size 3 shoes, this can only be used as a gift for the child, not her. I think the OP is looking for a "whatever our differences, I respect your position as my child's mother" kind of present.