Women Taking Men Out For Dinner.

Baldie

Is it ok for women to take men out to dinner?

The reason im asking is, my girlfriend text me a while ago and said she wants to take me out to dinner and a few drinks, her treat.... It sounds nice, but it just feels weird. It's the men who are meant to take the women out.....

I took her out for dinner and drinks about two weeks ago on me, and I think she justs wants to pay back the favour....

I dunno, it just feels weird having my girlfriend taking me out for dinner..

Any thoughts?

WhiteWashMan

i dont see what the problem is.

if someone wants to take me out, and im happy to spend that time with them, then thats cool.

what is it that makes you feel uncomfortable with it?
do you feel that women shouldnt do it for some reason, or do you feel the onus is on men to do the providing?

does it matter that is your girlfriend, or would you feel even more weird if it was just a friend who is a woman?

perhpas you feel that the situation is not totally in your control if you are doing the paying and all that?

Gone West

What he said. ^
Pretty much exactly.
Before all the usual muppets come in saying how its better if the man takes her out. Its 2005 ffs.

Pigman II

It depends really. If you are both equally well off from an earnings pov then I reckon it's fine.
If you're earning 50times as much as her or woteva then no it's not alright.

Unpossible

I always feel odd when anybody buys me something (be it coffee, dinner or cinema tickets), but I get over it.

If something is free then take it

skywalker

Its definitely ok. Be glad you have such a considerate girlfriend (& maybe buy her a rose on the way home).

Ag marbh

Baldie wrote:

Is it ok for women to take men out to dinner?

The reason im asking is, my girlfriend text me a while ago and said she wants to take me out to dinner and a few drinks, her treat.... It sounds nice, but it just feels weird. It's the men who are meant to take the women out.....

I took her out for dinner and drinks about two weeks ago on me, and I think she justs wants to pay back the favour....

I dunno, it just feels weird having my girlfriend taking me out for dinner..

Any thoughts?

Thats a pretty old fashioned view.

It shouldn't be a problem if she wants to take you out. Me and the girlfriend pay for stuff equally.

bullrunner

enjoy her bring your out..enjoy the night..enjoy the meal...but dont ruin it by buying her a cheapo tacky rose on the way home! ...maybe bring her a bunch of flowers if you are thinking along that line.

no probs with my girlfriend bring me out for a meal..why not? if she wants to buy you an Xmas/bday present you would let her...so why not a meal?

Baldie

Cheers everyone.

Im suppose im just too old fashioned....

Tar.Aldarion

Ah I feel bad about it too(in fact with people giving me anything....give not recieve person...that can't have things be given to....), dunno why even.don't have a problem with it though.

koneko

Are you living in the 50s?

Seriously?

I don't see the problem. My boyfriend takes me out to dinner sometimes, sometimes I take him, sometimes we split the bill. *I* wouldn't feel comfortable with anything else.

audge

Baldie wrote:

Is it ok for women to take men out to dinner?

The reason im asking is, my girlfriend text me a while ago and said she wants to take me out to dinner and a few drinks, her treat.... It sounds nice, but it just feels weird. It's the men who are meant to take the women out.....

I took her out for dinner and drinks about two weeks ago on me, and I think she justs wants to pay back the favour....

I dunno, it just feels weird having my girlfriend taking me out for dinner..

Any thoughts?

When and where is she taking you? Is it really expensive or the kinda place you have taken her?
I don't see a problem with it, I have footed the bill for a couple of social events and my boyfriend returns the favour... No Biggy!

nesf

I'd have no issue with it. Tbh, with nearly every girlfriend I've had it's been 50/50 splits on dinners etc. You buy this one, I'll get the next one kind of thing. It's really not a big deal in my mind.

rubadub

Baldie wrote:

It's the men who are meant to take the women out.....

Did eircom set you up with an internet connection in that cave you are living in...

skywalker

koneko wrote:

Are you living in the 50s?

Seriously?

I don't see the problem. My boyfriend takes me out to dinner sometimes, sometimes I take him, sometimes we split the bill. *I* wouldn't feel comfortable with anything else.

Splitting the bill is something I dont think Ive ever really done with a girl. I dunno it conjures up an image of someone with a calculator working out exactly how much they owe based on what they ate based. Just doesnt sit well with me. Ive no problem with being treated occaissionally though.

Baldie

rubadub wrote:

Did eircom set you up with an internet connection in that cave you are living in...

Eircom??

Internet??

Cave??

Baldie

audge wrote:

When and where is she taking you? Is it really expensive or the kinda place you have taken her?
I don't see a problem with it, I have footed the bill for a couple of social events and my boyfriend returns the favour... No Biggy!

Probably just for a chinese and wine or something. Nothing big.

I don't feel so bad now, thanks all.

audge

Baldie wrote:

Probably just for a chinese and wine or something. Nothing big.

I don't feel so bad now, thanks all.

Are you a teacher?

Ag marbh

M I L K H E R !!!

Baldie

audge wrote:

Are you a teacher?

No why?

Baldie

Ag marbh wrote:

M I L K H E R !!!

Woo Hoo!!

audge

Some wierd coinsidences there. My friend is taking her boyfriend for a meal tomorrow night because he has been looking after her and she just came into a load of tax back money, AND she is taking him for a chinese!!!!!
Honestly!

Royale with Cheese

Order the biggest steak they have... actually order 2. Then get a huge bowl of ice-cream, take one mouthful and say you don't want it anymore. That'll learn her for taking you out for dinner.

Baldie

audge wrote:

Some wierd coinsidences there. My friend is taking her boyfriend for a meal tomorrow night because he has been looking after her and she just came into a load of tax back money, AND she is taking him for a chinese!!!!!
Honestly!

Where's hitchcock with that riddle? That's twice now!!

(Go to the tread about phones being on at night and it'll explain all)

audge

That is very freaky, I was convinced you where her boyfriend there! Wierd wierd wierd!

BoozyBabe

I always pay my way.
Just like someone else said:- you paid last time, I'll pay this time, but sometimes I just like to treat a person & bring them away on hols or something.
The time of a man paying for everything is long gone & women who expect it to be that way should be shot!!!:)

Borzoi

Baldie wrote:

Any thoughts?

She'll probably expect sex afterwards - better practice your headache speech.;)


I thought this would be about strange women asking you out to dinner, but your own GF, of course it's ok. Note: other women asking you out is also good.

D

Well I remember my ex (gf at the tim) took me out to dinner, to celebrate my birhtday. Was actually quite nice, she deliberatly got my tipsy and took advantage.

CombatCow

A truly heartwarming story there, D



CC

Mr.Nice Guy

Ah sure there's nothing wrong with a woman taking a guy out for dinner. It gives them a break from all the cooking and washing up they have to do.

*runs off and hides*

NoDayBut2Day

Nothing wrong with it at all. Perhaps women take men out just so that the men know that the women just dont' want his money and that they genuinely care. That's always my reason.

OLDYELLAR

Every now and again when Í have a spare bit of cash I take my bf out to dinner . Its nice to treat him at least once in a blue moon.

He doesnt like it so much ya know doesnt like me paying , but then aGAIN Im the same if he wants to pay , its nice to split it but every now and again everyone enjoys being treated.

monkeyfudge

I'm a teacher!

*me waits expectantly to be asked out for chinese dinner by a woman*

D

What a teacher, think of the children...