Bob, Betty & Anne

LegacyUser

hi all,

righteo well i have a friend, lets call him bob. now, bob was going out with anne, but she broke up with him about 6 months ago. bob is still in love with anne, who quite frankly, does not want to know.

bob gets quite depressed about his breakup, and obsesses about anne. to cheer bob up, i set him up with my friend who bob also likes, lets call her betty. bob and betty get on well and like each other a lot.

BUT, now bob is reconsidering whats happening with betty. bob is afraid to move on, just in case of the slightest chance that anne will change her mind (about as likely as pigs flying.)

anyhoo what my dilemma is, is how do i, in the nicest way possible, give bob a kick up the backside and make him realise what he is throwing away? bob has already told me he wants to get over anne, yet bob wont bloody well try to move on.

betty is now picking up on these vibes that bob is losing interest so time is ticking before bob messes things up with betty.

now, i know its not easy getting over someone, been there many a time, but how do i make bob see what he's throwing away? and how do i make bob see there is absolutely NO CHANCE with anne?

betty is bob's chance at happiness and basically i dont want to see bob or betty getting hurt. any suggestions? thanks

Nevyn

Don't meddle in peoples lives.

ratboy

give him advise and if he doesn't take it, let him stew.

nobodythere

Hey Thaed he's only looking out for his friend really. That being said he has to let these things heal naturally. Try to get him to delete her number from his phone book, she's not coming back and not being able to let go will cause everyone serious pain

g'em

leave him to it. If he makes a mistake he'll realise it soon enough. And that's wehre you, as 'bobs' friend come in, to pick up the pieces, not judge and help him on his way.

Don't put yourself in a position where he could blame you for what's happened. Let him make his own mistakes.

bp

he will only listen when he is ready to....you can tell your mate till you are blue in the face that he wont get her back but he isnt going to listen, he has to get there on his own. I know you set him up with a mate of yours but he will only take interest in her when he is ready

athena 2000

Introduce Betty to another potential boyfriend ASAP.

xzanti

Are you by any chance Betty??

chuci

leave him too it because well if things get messed up then betty and bob can turn on you and you would be stuck in the middle.

dundalk cailin

yea u did your bit by introducin him to betty, its his decision now!

shakaman

I'm with Thaed.....let them sort it out themselves, who are you to say that Bob is made for Betty?

Victor

You can bring a horse to water, but you can't make him drink.

You have told Bob, its best to move on. It is for him to do that.