Is girlfriend cheating?

LegacyUser

Hi There everyone. I will keep this short, I have a real probelm with trusting women after being hurt several times. I currently have a girlfriend with whomb I am having a great time, I care about her so much, but I can't get it out of my head that she might be cheating on me.

I dont have any proof about it but I just have a gut feeling from the way she acts sometimes after the nights I believe she may have been up to something. It always feels like guilty acting behaviour on her part trying to be overly nice and so on and I see the odd look between her and the guy which makes me more suspicious. I can't ask her straight because that could mess it all right up. I don't want her thinking I have no trust in her if it isn't true.

Any idea's on what I should do? Bear in mind this may all be a figment of my underworked overactive imagination.

ferdi

go to the guy you think she is cheating on you with and say:

"hey, (your girlfriends name) told me about you two. just to tell you, i'm ok with it"

to which he will reply:

a)"what the hell are you talking about?!"

b)"oh ok thank god, i thought things were gonna get messy"

If he replies with (a) you just say "only messing" and you know she is not cheating.

If he replies with (b)...

The Troll

ferdi wrote:

go to the guy you think she is cheating on you with and say:

"hey, (your girlfriends name) told me about you two. just to tell you, i'm ok with it"

to which he will reply:

a)"what the hell are you talking about?!"

b)"oh ok thank god, i thought things were gonna get messy"

If he replies with (a) you just say "only messing" and you know she is not cheating.

If he replies with (b)...

Possibly the worst advice i've ever heard.

If you really care about your g/f and she does likewise, then the only way to approach this is to be up front and honest with her about it. If she knows you well, she'll understand where you're coming from and that you get paranoid as a result of your insecurites.

audge

ferdi wrote:

go to the guy you think she is cheating on you with and say:

"hey, (your girlfriends name) told me about you two. just to tell you, i'm ok with it"

to which he will reply:

a)"what the hell are you talking about?!"

b)"oh ok thank god, i thought things were gonna get messy"

If he replies with (a) you just say "only messing" and you know she is not cheating.

If he replies with (b)...

Yeah, and he defo wont say anything to your missus like Eh your blokes a big nut job, he said he knew there was something going on between me and you"

Chinafoot

Talk to her.

If you let this fester things will get worse and worse and the relationship wont have a chance. Explain to her that you've been hurt in the past and tell her how you've been feeling lately.

The longer you leave it, the more it'll build up in your head. Afterall it could be nothing.

ferdi

look, if he dosnt like my advice, he wont take it.

i just thought it would be a nice change from the usual boring "more communication"/"talk to her" replies that 90% of the posts on this board recieve.

ferdi

peachypants wrote:

Talk to her.

ahahahahahahahahahahaha:D

magpie

Ask if you can watch

Chinafoot

ferdi wrote:

look, if he dosnt like my advice, he wont take it.

i just thought it would be a nice change from the usual boring "more communication"/"talk to her" replies that 90% of the posts on this board recieve.

i dont think the posters are looking for dynamic forms of advice....most likely they want the advice thats going to help solve the problem. the replies may seem boring but generally they're advising the best course of action to take.

i'd go for the "usual boring "more communication"/"talk to her" reply in this case.

audge

ferdi wrote:

look, if he dosnt like my advice, he wont take it.

i just thought it would be a nice change from the usual boring "more communication"/"talk to her" replies that 90% of the posts on this board recieve.

Yeah cos communicating and talking... oh thats over rated! Your dead right, what he should do is NOT talk to her, and ask all their mutual friends if they think she's cheating, and they will live happy ever after!

ferdi

ah get over it lads

CK1890

A few suggested solutions

A) get her up the duff so she can never escape

sleep with her sister/mother & keep it stum until she tells ye she bin carryin on

C) pretend ye only have 6 months 2 live, she'll be all over ye - especially if ye have a few quid

D) leggit to Vegas with a hooker & get married.

and whatever ye do do not post personal problems on the internet as there are loopers out there

audge

CK1890 wrote:

A few suggested solutions

A) get her up the duff so she can never escape

sleep with her sister/mother & keep it stum until she tells ye she bin carryin on

C) pretend ye only have 6 months 2 live, she'll be all over ye - especially if ye have a few quid

D) leggit to Vegas with a hooker & get married.

and whatever ye do do not post personal problems on the internet as there are loopers out there

Ha ha ha ha

EDIT: I take the laughter back, I don't want to be banned. I'll be good!

dahooligan

CK1890 wrote:

A) get her up the duff so she can never escape

One of my mates tried that... she escaped Oh well, get a tracker in her mobile phone, I've heard that may work.. maybe

EDIT: Sorry for quoting CK1890, but I still think a tracker is the way forward

dudara

CK1890 banned for one week.

loz

CanUtrust wrote:

Hi There everyone. I will keep this short, I have a real probelm with trusting women after being hurt several times. I currently have a girlfriend with whomb I am having a great time, I care about her so much, but I can't get it out of my head that she might be cheating on me.

I dont have any proof about it but I just have a gut feeling from the way she acts sometimes after the nights I believe she may have been up to something. It always feels like guilty acting behaviour on her part trying to be overly nice and so on and I see the odd look between her and the guy which makes me more suspicious. I can't ask her straight because that could mess it all right up. I don't want her thinking I have no trust in her if it isn't true.

Any idea's on what I should do? Bear in mind this may all be a figment of my underworked overactive imagination.

if your not married and between 17 and 30 - then so what ! - question is - why arnt you sowing your seed around the place ????????

audge

well thats hardly productive advice, telling the lad to get out there and cheat and enjoy it.

Look, if you have chosen to be in a relationship then you choose to be with just one person, if you cant handle that, then break up and play the field and no harm will be done.

You know you have trust issues, so maybe you need to just sit your missus down, confess you have a tendancy to get a bit paranoid as a result of a bad experience in an old relationship.
You should know your girlfriend well enough to know her character, has she cheated on people in the past? Can you really imagine it being in her nature?
You are the only one who can answer those questions.