dont know what to do

LegacyUser

basically i was with this guy very briefly in march(he was part of a group of my friends and we got on grand).

basically he said i was " a mistake" and that he was drunk at the time and "blacked out twice".(though he actually just had a few).i liked him for a while before this and was on quite terms with him friendship-wise for the time i knew him (about 6months). i was quite upset as im quite a sensitive person and he ignored me for a week before he finnally i was "a mistake"(eg by not txting ect,) considering we were actually good friends before this.

anyhow, basically he just ignored me totally when we met up as a group a few months later(though i was over him at that stage) and was really cold with me.again i was upset as i would have been had this been any of my friends, and i tried to find out why he ignored me/and if he wanted2 try and resolve things and he just ignored me again so i said that he was "a coward" with "no morals", considering he thought was ok2treat a friend like that.

cut to the chase-its my friends 20th bday this friday and i know he's being asked, he also happens to be very good friends with my particular friend(who 's putting pressure on me to make things up w him at least 4the sake of appearences). i really want to go to the party as i like and i get on with most of the people but im dreading him just sitting therre glarring at me, making things awkward and making me feel like s**t.

any opinions would be welcomed as i dont have a cue to go2party/ or just continue avoiding social suituations w him(and yes iv tried discussing it w him)

Walls

It seems to me, from what is posted by you, that he acted quite badly towards you. He could have shown you more respect in telling you he wasn't interested, and sounds quite immature (convinced you'll follow him around, or some such stuff).

Now, this is very important, so listen carefully. You MUST go to that party. Are ya listening, Cinders? You go, you make sure you look fabulous. You chat politely and nicely to EVERYONE there, and you behave like a proper lady. If he glares, growls, or does anything else in an effort to scare the beast from the cave, ignore him. In fact, ignore him completely no matter what. You have no responsibility over him what so ever. You can't decide what he thinks or says, and the deal is, you don't care what he thinks, right?

If nothing else, when you go home on Friday night, you will have broken the ice with your other mates, and gained the moral high ground with the spoiled brat. He clearly is sure the earth revolves around him, don't give him the satisfaction of being proven right.

OfflerCrocGod

He was the jerk, why should you suffer? Go to the party and ignore the d*ck and just enjoy yourself

Amz

Walls wrote:

It seems to me, from what is posted by you, that he acted quite badly towards you. He could have shown you more respect in telling you he wasn't interested, and sounds quite immature (convinced you'll follow him around, or some such stuff).

Now, this is very important, so listen carefully. You MUST go to that party. Are ya listening, Cinders? You go, you make sure you look fabulous. You chat politely and nicely to EVERYONE there, and you behave like a proper lady. If he glares, growls, or does anything else in an effort to scare the beast from the cave, ignore him. In fact, ignore him completely no matter what. You have no responsibility over him what so ever. You can't decide what he thinks or says, and the deal is, you don't care what he thinks, right?

If nothing else, when you go home on Friday night, you will have broken the ice with your other mates, and gained the moral high ground with the spoiled brat. He clearly is sure the earth revolves around him, don't give him the satisfaction of being proven right.

Couldn't have said it better myself Walls!

Chad ghostal

walls is right, its his problem, not yours,
be strong, go to the party, get on with him(at least at some level)
and then accept the fact he acted the muppet and doesnt deserve you.

Zombienosh

i agree with the previous statements
go to the party and enjoy urself, youll look great and he'll realise hes the muppet for turning u down.

now cheer up cuz u deserve a million times better than him

Nasty_Girl

Oh this thread stirs up some nasty memories. Right chances are your mutual friends won't take your feelings seriously because lets face it the guy has a d*ck and and all women are psychos and it's all just a big misunderstanding etc. I've been there.

Anyway,we've established you'll go to the party but you MUST get your agenda right.

You are going because you wanna be there for your mate.

You are NOT going so as you can doll yourself up to make the guy jealous and have him begging for you and then you can turn around and say "no sorry you were a mistake", because there are times when the more effort we girlies put in themore sh*te our nights out are. (This is just from my experience mind)

Just relax and have a good time at the party with your other friends, if he says anything nasty just ignore the thick whining loser orlaugh and walkaway.
He sounds like a right b*llix and I bet we all know someone just like him

Victor

I'm being brief here, but

guest27- wrote:

basically he said i was " a mistake"

You are / were not a mistake. You are a human being.* The relationship / encounter may have been a mistake, you are not.

* So is he, presumably.

LegacyUser

thanks a million everyone4 all the advice, i will go to the party and try and at least be civil with him.

though it does seem very tempting to do what nasty girl said and make him wonder why he thought i was a mistake, i guess though if i did that then id be no better then him.