First time for a virgin

LegacyUser

I'm with a girl for nearly 2 years and she's finally ready to finish her virgin cola so to speak. This will be my first time breaking it through lets say. What can I expect to feel? Will I need to force it to break her through? Will there be blood? lots? Will it be sexually pleasing for her or just painful? Wil the pain ease/grow with time? Should I stay in for long? Should I just Break it, then leave the fun till another night?
Thank U's.

WhiteWashMan

softly softly, catchy monkey.
let her control the proceedings, depending on what feels good for her.

tinkerbell

bucketloads of K-Y!! Make it easier for her and won't be sore if she's lubed up before hand, even if there's a lot of foreplay, still put on some K-Y jelly.

Peace

And a video camera, this sort of thing should be taped...

Just kidding. Advice iven already is a good starting point. Most important thing is to relax and enjoy each other. Take your time.

I am MAN

Umm dont op fore lube first off try let the juices flow naturally...you are with her two years so I'm guessing you two are pretty comfortable naked in front of each other and with foreplay? If so it will be fine just try not to get too nervous and relax, let it all happen naturally start off with foreplay. Be careful putting the condom too ya might wanna have a practice go before you have sex

Best of luck,

Mark.

ven0m

TheDoor wrote:

I'm with a girl for nearly 2 years and she's finally ready to finish her virgin cola so to speak. This will be my first time breaking it through lets say. What can I expect to feel? Will I need to force it to break her through? Will there be blood? lots? Will it be sexually pleasing for her or just painful? Wil the pain ease/grow with time? Should I stay in for long? Should I just Break it, then leave the fun till another night?
Thank U's.

Mate, take it easy with her - last thing you want for her first time is for her to remember that a bloke went 'ram-raiding' on her. Take it slow, help her relax & remember that she's gonna be scared/worried (& probably won't say it to you). Make sure that you pay attention to her (yes I know you want to get your rocks off - ur a bloke, & therefore genetically predisposed to wanting to!). Take it slow, & work at her pace while engaged in penetration. Make sure there's plenty of foreplay too, which will help. The best thing you can do is help make her first time a half decent one at worst......

::: ven0mous :::

seamus

WhiteWashMan wrote:

softly softly, catchy monkey.
let her control the proceedings, depending on what feels good for her.

That's the only way. If she says stop, then stop, if she says slow down, then slow down. It may also hurt you too, so you probably won't be getting carried away anyway.

Don't get any hopes up. It'll be awkward, uncomfortable and strange. And it will be the first couple of times. After that though.....

Enjoy!

Nasty_Girl

you're bettter of just breaking it and gettin it over with. I know that sounds awful but if she's anything like me it's gona hurt like bejayzus and the slower you go the more it will hurt, Also be prepared for the fact that you may need to break her in with your finger, if you haven't already done so. And yes there will probably be blood.
As for enjoyment, it can well be enjoyed by her, probably not as much as you will, but I always remember what my cousin said when I asked her did it hurt, "Yes but it felt fantastic too" I think it all depends on what she's used to, like if you've fingered extensively and if she uses tampons, if it's her first time havin anything put up there etc...
Best of luck and don't worry, you'll get there!

uberwolf

can she handle two fingers? desperately crude question but if she can't then don't expect this experience to be anything but as has been described already, take it real slow because the emotional consequences mean that if it hurts at first she'll tighten and you end up in a nice cycle which can last a long time. (I'm not talking minutes here but weeks or even longer)

It'll be tougher on her than you, just don't expect fireworks and take it easy, twill be crap most likely and only seem worth it in the long run. G'luck

Coconut

Don't forget, the pain is really only an issue if the hymen is relatively intact, which it traditionally would have been. Tampons, some sports, and er, foreplay can all break it/reduce it. And I imagine if ye're together two years ye've done everything but up to this stage. (And if not, I suggest ye do first! That way its an enevitable natural progression, not A Big Deal). So you should have a good idea (ie fingers she feels comfortable with).

If you still reckon, or she has said (Discuss it with HER!), that it might be a problem, perhaps you/she would be better working on it beforehand. So that your much-anticipated significant night isn't remembered for the wrong reasons.

Failing all that, yep, agree with others: lube and patience. (And would the guys agree with cleaning the pipes before hand?? )

Good luck!

uberwolf

Coconut wrote:

Don't forget, the pain is really only an issue if the hymen is relatively intact.

not always true, some girls find it somewhat traumatic and tighten up unintentionally. This can be very painful

Coconut wrote:

(And would the guys agree with cleaning the pipes before hand?? )

I'd imagine after everything that has been said above she'd probably appreciate it if you were finished quickly!! so keep the pipes as they are!!

cajun_tiger

Mine hurt like hell and blead loads and he was tiny.
i was a gymnast and a horse rider back when i lost mine so that it wont hurt if shes done sports or used tampoons is pure bull

handy

Just bend her over

Coconut

uberwolf wrote:

not always true, some girls find it somewhat traumatic and tighten up unintentionally. This can be very painful

I agree. I was referring to the "pain and blood" that people sometimes assume is unavoidable. However, it might be emotional, but it shouldn't be traumatic. Hence my advice to not hype it up needlessly. But thats easier said than done.

[QOUTE=uberwolf]I'd imagine after everything that has been said above she'd probably appreciate it if you were finished quickly!! so keep the pipes as they are!! [/QUOTE]

Yeah, thought I'd defer to the guys on that one! I just meant that as a guy's excitement builds, his ability to take it s-l-o-w is ocasionally impaired!

Edit: not total bull. Depends on the person. Its how I made sure mine wasnt an issue when it came to sex. Yes, it usually hurts no matter when it happens.

Victor

I haven't been there with a virgin, but I understand on the blood front that it's some blood, not the Valentines Day Massacre.

embee

cajun_tiger wrote:

so that it wont hurt if shes done sports or used tampoons is pure bull

No it isn't bull. Its pretty well documented that its actually pretty easy for the hymen to break without penetrative sex.

LegacyUser

my girlfriend and i are going out for over two years and it still hurts here sometimes... especially when we don't have any sex for a while.. it'll take a while so be patient and follow her instructions:)

cajun_tiger

yes hymen breakage but it still hurts even if your hymen is broken thats what i was saying

Nasty_Girl

embee wrote:

No it isn't bull. Its pretty well documented that its actually pretty easy for the hymen to break without penetrative sex.

Um I think that you have to set out to break it, I think it can be hard for a lot of ppl to break it by accident....

kleefarr

cajun_tiger wrote:

Mine hurt like hell and blead loads and he was tiny.

:rolleyes: Does that mean "the bigger the better"?

sceptre

Nasty_Girl wrote:

Um I think that you have to set out to break it, I think it can be hard for a lot of ppl to break it by accident....

The what now? "Bursht it open" yeah, "break", no. In other words, apart from the few women who were born with no hymens at all (and it does happen on reasonably regular occasions), there are plenty of virgins wandering around the place with varying damage to the membrane for various reasons and past activities. And yes, as you mentioned there are a small number (and it's very small as action is generally taken at birth to correct it) of people with imperforate hymens as well as some people who require a hymenotomy due to a thick membrane. They do exist but I'd hardly think of it as "a lot".




To say nothing of those girls who manage to break it on a horse or bike (I've often thought there should be a special prize for the guy that managed to balance himself on a moving bike to participate)
yeah, gordo/beru, I know, no trolling. I'll move along now