a girl you just cant forget

moprobs

Hey, im posting this because i had a dream of me 'going out' with a girl that I havnt known for 4 years. I would say she is the most missed person from my school days, and every now and then (quite often tbh) I think about her, and what could have been. We were good friends then, and I always thought at some stage we might get together. In saying all that, for the last year or so of knowing her I was going out with someone else who I am still with and still love, and our friendship never really was the same then, although I know(knew) she wasnt wanting a relation ship with me then or really with anybody. I really really miss her, and I feel very guilty, but I think that I am still in some way in love with her, or i guess... what she used to be to me, the problem is she is no longer in Ireland, she was from another country, and I know I will probably never see her again. I still remember clearly the day we said goodbye. Anyway, I dont know what to do...

uberwolf

there probably isn't an awful lot more to do than what you're doing at the moment, just keep moving on.

OfflerCrocGod

ahahahah you only want her because you can't have her, she's is gone and so you fantasize about how great things *could* be if you were with her. All you remember are the good things and not the bad things. For as much as you know she could be a druggie/prostitute/lawyer wherever she may have ended up in life. Get over it, it's a fantasy and therefore you paint a picture for yourself which is sometimes much better then any real life situation. Sleep with real people not fantasies, I'd presume they are more satisfying

IrishMike

God im in the same boat, still crazy about my first g/f.
Havent seen her in 3 years, she moved to New Zealand so i probably wont see her again.
She was almost perfect though and the worst part is every girl ive met since instantly
gets compared to her and always falls short.
Cant win them all though, just gotta move on ...

dublin_apache

OfflerCrocGod wrote:

ahahahah you only want her because you can't have her, she's is gone and so you fantasize about how great things *could* be if you were with her. All you remember are the good things and not the bad things. For as much as you know she could be a druggie/prostitute/lawyer wherever she may have ended up in life. Get over it

Nice bloke !

Sherifu

uberwolf wrote:

there probably isn't an awful lot more to do than what you're doing at the moment, just keep moving on.

I agree, ya have to move on.
I was in a similar position, its not easy.
If it was meant to be......... :rolleyes:

Victor

(a) google her name (b) contact old school mates that knew her (c) give old school a stamped envelope with a letter in it and ask them to post it to her last known address.

She will have changed. Everybody fantasizes about the one that got away.

OfflerCrocGod wrote:

...... For as much as you know she could be a ..... lawyer wherever she may have ended up in life.

Oddly enough ...

CathyMoran

Google her as per Victor - a lot of people have a record on the net now...everyone has someone that "got away", but in reality you were probably never meant to be together...have bumped into some people that I had regrets about but when I saw them and spoke to them I realised that I either had a lucky escape/they were better off with someone else or that we were better off as friends...if you can though just enjoy the memories and move on.

b3t4

Victor wrote:

(a) google her name

Be very careful with this method. Size up the kind of relationship ye had together as best you can and the kind of person she was, to see if she would appreciate you doing the above. I say this as I've had my name searched in Google and got some unwanted emails. However if ye had a good friendship and ended on good terms then it mightn't be a bad idea.

A.