Advice on asking a girl out

LegacyUser

Im a regular poster on boards but im also a big fat chicken, so I decided not to out myself.

Basically Ive got a major crush on a girl from college, and she is a friend too, and I need advice on asking her out.

I get very little opportunity, in fact none, to talk to her alone, so I cant go with the whole just ask her out thing, and Ive never exchanged numbers with her so cant text her, but I can get her number from someone else and then text her.

Now my question is, would that seem a bit psycho, would I be better just making a concerted effort to get her on her own and then ask her? Maybe try to get chatting to her in the student bar at some stage or something?

Advice people, Im getting a bit desperate

Gordon

"Hi, I was wanting to phone you to invite you out tomorrow to the ULTRA HARD CORE SEX SHOW in town but I realised I didn't have your number so I got it off *FRIEND #65r*, would you like to come along tomorrow?"

That should be phoned, not texted. But yeah, whats the problem with speaking to your "friend" and inviting her out when you see her?

It's not psycho until she stops answering your calls.

OfflerCrocGod

Get Phone Num. Phone her - no text. Ask her out to....whatever, movie or something. Gauge her reaction and react according. Not rocket science she probably already knows you like her.

Naos

Dont get her fone number off a mate though. Ask her, this way its easier to break it to her that you like her and give time to talk to her. Do it in a kinda stupid way if ur nervous though, like say Hey can i get ur number case i need to get "notes" or need "help" with my work..

Just do it actually man. Shes not gonna object to givin her number. She'd be happy if u asked. This really cute girl from my estate walked by me the other day and smiled said hello, I was all happy with myself(seeing as we dont see each other often) but im p!ssed off I didnt just say something, even somehting stupid like, "Im brian" that way we can be on 'talking' terms.

damnit. im saying it next time. f it. You, go get ur girl, dont wait around.

Bri

Definatley don't get her number off anybody but her. Infact seeing as your in college and not 15 I'd actually go for the easier said than done approach of asking her to her face. It's not the end of the world if she says no and you'll get points for confidence. My girlfriend (yes ) says most girls who are worth it will say yes to an innocent enough invite outa flattery, interest or sheer surprise. So don't ask her to the cinema 1-on-1. Try food, drink or something less cliched is even better. If she can arrange to drop by and help you or you help her on work or advice or something you've arranged your first meeting.

Nothing to lose, if she's a cool girl and not your best mate (if you don't have her number I'm guessing not) then she should be ok with it regardless of her reply.

Good luck

P.S. Don't apologise for yourself - no "just's" or "kinda's".

Bottle_of_Smoke

Why do people have stuff against texting? Last girl i decided to ask out was by text and it worked, basicly because *she liked me*

No matter what media you use it's not gonna change how she feels, she likes you or she doesn't, if it's easier for you to do it by text then go for it, and if you get her number off someone else f#ck it, once she's a mate it's not gonna bother her.

Bri

Depends on age and so on I guess. But there's an undeniable difference in someone having the balls to say something to your face vs. what could be laughed off as your "mates having a laugh".

Plus with texts you have to worry about delivering, getting deleted, not all extended texts work properly, waiting for a reply.

trajan

In the end Mr. Incognito, if she's a good mate she'll remain so whatever the case. The very worst that can happen is a brief awkward period in the unlikley event she refuses. Ask her face to face. texting for dates is so damn cowardly. And there's probably nothing wrong with a film but inviting her to check out a nice place to eat in town neither of you know could be a more interesting option (more time to talk for one thing...)
Bottle of smoke has it about right though, you could send her a pigeon, or smoke signals or a fine letter written with a quill pen and it's probably not going to change her perspective. Unless you go overboard... so maybe not the quill pen...

Sleepy

Arrange to run into her arround college around lunch time some day, ask her what she's doin' for lunch, join her. Have something planned to invite her to some night later that week - a gig, comedy show, whatever you're both interested in, and just mention it.

LegacyUser

Under no circumstances ask her friends for her number , it's a bit stalkerish.Regards texting or phoning to ask her out....nah, you're an adult.Have the balls to ask face to face and she'll respect you for it, and on the the plus side if it doesn't get the hoped-for reply you wont have that after text/phone meetup where it'll be awkward.

What i'd say to you is to casually arrange a night on the piss with a group of friends and focus your attention on her, albeit in a way that's not too obvious and take it from there.

goodo lucko