How far is too much kink?

LegacyUser

I just want to try and feel out people here to see if what I was feeling earlier is justified...

I've been getting really friendly with this girl recently. I got off with her in a club the other night but nothing came of it after that for various reasons. Anyway we met up then for coffee there earlier today and went for a stroll around town. Before I knew it we were in a sex shop. Fair enough I think, this can almost certainly only be a good thing, right?

At first she's looking at these knee high 6" heeled boots. I'm thinking: alright!

Then we're wandering around and she starts into some of the more serious stuff. You know like the ball in teh mouth and whips, that kinda thing. The whole time I get the idea that she's trying to size up my reaction to all of this...

Now I'm not afraid to be adventerous but some of the stuff she seemed to be into was kinda freaky...we're supposed to be going out drinking tomorrow night...should I be worried?

vibrant

Oh, she was just trying to get a rise out of you, to shock you. Enjoy yourself!

Havelock

More than likely she was trying to ffreak you out. Anyway if she's not, what have you got to lose?

Try it if it cmes up, at least then you'd know if you liked it or not.

gimmick

I did similar to an ex years ago in a sex shop in Cork. We werent going out too long at that point. I picked up a mad big dildo, and said something awful, waving it around. She was almost in tears with embarrassment. The others in the shop had a good laugh off it.

And if she is into that stuff - how bad!?!

therecklessone

Freak Attracter wrote:

we're supposed to be going out drinking tomorrow night...should I be worried?

Only is she wears her ball gag out...

Seriously, don't be worried about it. She was either trying to:

(a) take the rise, or
(b) test the waters

Either way its all good. If you're not into it, you're not into it, Tell her if it comes up, you've nothing to lose (you''re not in a relationship yet) There's no point in you trying to be something that you're uncomforatble with, especially this early on.

kleefarr

Freak Attracter wrote:

I just want to try and feel out people here to see if what I was feeling earlier is justified...

I've been getting really friendly with this girl recently. I got off with her in a club the other night but nothing came of it after that for various reasons. Anyway we met up then for coffee there earlier today and went for a stroll around town. Before I knew it we were in a sex shop. Fair enough I think, this can almost certainly only be a good thing, right?

At first she's looking at these knee high 6" heeled boots. I'm thinking: alright!

Then we're wandering around and she starts into some of the more serious stuff. You know like the ball in teh mouth and whips, that kinda thing. The whole time I get the idea that she's trying to size up my reaction to all of this...

Now I'm not afraid to be adventerous but some of the stuff she seemed to be into was kinda freaky...we're supposed to be going out drinking tomorrow night...should I be worried?

:eek: Fill your boots (so to speak).
just be careful that you don't get tied up and left somewhere. :rolleyes:

Pigman II

Freak Attracter wrote:

we're supposed to be going out drinking tomorrow night...should I be worried?

Depends, does she stir her cocktails with a dildo?

kleefarr

Pigman II wrote:

Depends, does she stir her cocktails with a dildo?

ROFLMAO......

RuggieBear

I knew a girl who wanted to be hit with the buckle on the end of my belt..... :eek:

Victor

RuggieBear wrote:

I knew a girl who wanted to be hit with the buckle on the end of my belt..... :eek:

Only do this after you orgasm.

Havelock

RuggieBear wrote:

I knew a girl who wanted to be hit with the buckle on the end of my belt..... :eek:

Where?

(sorry for being off topic. just really curious)

the_syco

Guy & girl meet. Girl gets brought to a sex shop. Girl see's lad looking @ the soft stuff, and so goes over to the hardcore area, and looks like she knows whats shes doing. Guy comes over, and they both leave the shop...

How am I doing so far? Morale of the story; don't go there with a girl, unless she brings you, as otherwise whe'll proberly just go one up on you & freak yuou out

The Corinthian

I once dated a woman who, during sex, asked me to hurt her. So I told her she'd put on weight. True story.

RuggieBear

Havelock wrote:

Where?

(sorry for being off topic. just really curious)

across her back and backside....
i politely declined....said a few prayers and made good my escape. Friend on mine was with a girl who wanted to be punched during sex...

therecklessone

The Corinthian wrote:

I once dated a woman who, during sex, asked me to hurt her. So I told her she'd put on weight. True story.

LMFAO.

Post of the month.

mycroft

Okay seriously what's the problem you have a relationship and she goes and scars you in a non emotional sense.

Seriously test the waters, have fun and keep a spare key to the handcuffs in a safe place.

DrummerBoy

Freak Attracter wrote:

At first she's looking at these knee high 6" heeled boots. I'm thinking: alright!
Then we're wandering around and she starts into some of the more serious stuff. You know like the ball in teh mouth and whips, that kinda thing. The whole time I get the idea that she's trying to size up my reaction to all of this...

She could be looking for a Halloween costume

gimmick

The Corinthian wrote:

I once dated a woman who, during sex, asked me to hurt her. So I told her she'd put on weight. True story.

fantastic

Thats as funny as:

How do u make ur girl scream after sex? Wipe ur knob off the curtains!!

Sarky

If she starts eyeing mousetraps in the pound shop, you might want to call it a day.

FX Meister

The Corinthian wrote:

I once dated a woman who, during sex, asked me to hurt her. So I told her she'd put on weight. True story.

Didn't you do that to another chick too? In order to get out of buying her dinner? Either you're talking crap or you're a knob. Which one?

Gordon

FX Meister - no personal insults here please.

Shad0r

Freak Attracter wrote:

should I be worried?

/me thinks of that scene from the movie Wildcats (I think!) where the guy thinks he's gona have some major kinky sex with this hot chick and then 'Grandma' comes in dressed in leather from head to toe....

As long as both parties are consenting its all fun, dont worry about it till it happens...

KdjaCL

Donkey punch:
Whilst bending your gf over and taking her from behind when she is about to come, punch her in the back of the head , did that for a laugh before. Oddly she never slept with me again

kdjac

WhiteWashMan

The Corinthian wrote:

I once dated a woman who, during sex, asked me to hurt her. So I told her she'd put on weight. True story.

some woman asked me to fúck her silly.
i put on a clown suit.

true story.

Stugots

Freak Attracter wrote:

Now I'm not afraid to be adventerous but some of the stuff she seemed to be into was kinda freaky...we're supposed to be going out drinking tomorrow night...should I be worried?

So its the day after tomorrow night - WHAT HAPPENED??????

OfflerCrocGod

KdjaC wrote:

Oddly she never slept with me again

You're surprised ?

The Corinthian

FX Meister wrote:

Either you're talking crap or you're a knob. Which one?

A non-flaccid knob. Or talking crap. Whichever amuses me more.

Big Ears

RuggieBear wrote:

Friend on mine was with a girl who wanted to be punched during sex...

She wasn't getting back at him by claiming to have been raped by any chance ?

RuggieBear

Big Ears wrote:

She wasn't getting back at him by claiming to have been raped by any chance ?

To tell you the truth i don't know....she always seemed a bit weird to me (but then country girls do to me)

LegacyUser

Ok, really hungover after last night. Drank way too much probably cause I was worried about you know what.

I had alot of fun last night (what I can remember of it anyway), we did in fact go back to her place, which she had to herself. There were no kink granny's in attendance or drinks getting stirred by dildos, as some people suggested. When we got there I was drunk, well we both were, and horny so it was all about getting shagging.

In fact everything was fine until this morning when I sobered up a bit and noticed a police sized baton in her wardrobe (the doors were wide open). I also discovered during the proceedings that she never wears any underwear...

RuggieBear

Freak Attracter wrote:

In fact everything was fine until this morning when I sobered up a bit and noticed a police sized baton in her wardrobe (the doors were wide open). I also discovered during the proceedings that she never wears any underwear...

Are you sure it was a baton? :eek:

Sarky

No underwear, eh? Sounds sensible. That's a lot less laundry to bother with.

meepmeep

Freak Attracter wrote:

I also discovered during the proceedings that she never wears any underwear...

Well thats not weird.......is it?

But as for the baton :eek:

skywalker

The Corinthian wrote:

I once dated a woman who, during sex, asked me to hurt her. So I told her she'd put on weight. True story.

funnniest thing ive heard all day.

ferdi

what are you bitching about?

"oh no, a girl i am attracted to may want to engage in illicit kinky sex acts with me! what ever shall i do?"

i wish i had your problems buddy...

Lemming

/me quietly repeats to self: I will not reply with what I really want to say ... I will not reply with what I really want to say ......

Seriously, once there's consent and both parties are open about trying a particular activity and agree on boundaries and "safe-words" or what-not then I don't see the problem.

If you don't feel sure about something, say so. The reaction you get should give you an indication of whether or not you should proceed and how much the other party has taken on board your concerns.

Then there's also the age-old phrase: "If in doubt, say no".

Other than that ... you jammy jammy b*stard

Agent Smith

ferdi wrote:

what are you bitching about?

"oh no, a girl i am attracted to may want to engage in illicit kinky sex acts with me! what ever shall i do?"

i wish i had your problems buddy...

lets be honest..... who here doesnt?

Iago

meepmeep wrote:

Well thats not weird.......is it?

no of course not, it is to be fully encouraged and endorsed

WhiteWashMan

its funny, but if this thread was started by the girl here, and saying how she was taken to a sex shop and looked at some bondage gear etc, and wondering if she had freaked the guy out, how she doesnt wear underwear, and owns a vibrator that makes your díck look quite frankly embarassing, im sure there would be a lot of calls of 'youre a slut', 'youre a cheap whore' etc etc etc.

you know, the normal stuff.

why is it ok for some bloke to brag about his sexual escapades, but when some girl does it, shes a tart?

reminds me of the blow job thread a few months ago.
must look it up and see if any of the posters are the same...

The Corinthian

WhiteWashMan wrote:

why is it ok for some bloke to brag about his sexual escapades, but when some girl does it, shes a tart?

I'll have you know that we have standards here - two sets of them.

RuggieBear

man-whore!

simu

To answer the original question, too much is whatever you think is too much.

Isn't that obvious?

A friend of mine and I used to drag the odd innocent guy into sex shops for a laugh. It was hilarious because they'd be torn between horror at how strange these two supposedly nice girls were acting and excitement at the thought that they might get to have a threesome with us. It might become the new national pass-time.

Shad0r

simu wrote:

A friend of mine and I used to drag the odd innocent guy into sex shops for a laugh. It was hilarious because they'd be torn between horror at how strange these two supposedly nice girls were acting and excitement at the thought that they might get to have a threesome with us. It might become the new national pass-time.

LOL, thats class. The poor bast4rds. Well unless they did get to have the threesome.

ferdi

simu wrote:

A friend of mine and I used to drag the odd innocent guy into sex shops for a laugh. It was hilarious because they'd be torn between horror at how strange these two supposedly nice girls were acting and excitement at the thought that they might get to have a threesome with us.

its cock teasers like you that have me in the state i'm in today

mad m

If your in her flat next time check to see if there is a Box like in Pulp Fiction when the two blokes said "Get the Gimp"!!!!........oh you lucky devil you....count yourself lucky....

mycroft

mad m wrote:

If your in her flat next time check to see if there is a Box like in Pulp Fiction when the two blokes said "Get the Gimp"!!!!........oh you lucky devil you....count yourself lucky....

My old flatmate in london used to manage a sex shop (big three story jobbie on the corner of Oxford Circus) She got us tickets to torture garden a fetish ball in london.

I'm an open minded guy but :eek: here was a fire breathing woman who blew fire from every set of lips........Don't even get me started at some of the freaks there.

To our orginal poster you kinky girlfriend has a long way to go before she hits the levels of depravity I witnessed that night.

Havelock

WhiteWashMan wrote:

its funny, but if this thread was started by the girl here, and saying how she was taken to a sex shop and looked at some bondage gear etc, and wondering if she had freaked the guy out, how she doesnt wear underwear, and owns a vibrator that makes your díck look quite frankly embarassing, im sure there would be a lot of calls of 'youre a slut', 'youre a cheap whore' etc etc etc.

Yeah but she'd get tons of posistive karma and a box load of pm's for her number. No?

WhiteWashMan

Havelock wrote:

Yeah but she'd get tons of posistive karma and a box load of pm's for her number. No?

of course.

im only pointing out the hyporacy. i dont expect someone to take it seriously. at least until some girl is giving every one a blow job here except me...

Sleepy

Well they say that's the difference between a b:tch and a wh0re don't they?

The wh0re shags everyone at the party, the b:tch shags everyone except you

Walls

Kink is a bit like Spice. As a novice, it seems impossible to imagine one can ever accept it.

But try it once, and sooner or later.....you get the idea.

Lemming

Walls wrote:

Kink is a bit like Spice. As a novice, it seems impossible to imagine one can ever accept it.

But try it once, and sooner or later.....you get the idea.

Very much a case of "I'll try anything once, twice if I like it ...... " amended to include "and again, and again, and again, and ... "