What Is Love

spiderspubes

I would like to no if any body is in a relationship just for the sake of children, or any other reason, is it fair to each other or the children involved to stay together for this reason alone.

Beruthiel

is this something that is happening to yourself?
to answer your question
I do not believe that staying together for the kids sake works, as both parents will be very unhappy the kids will pick this up, making the whole family miserable.
In fact I would go as far as to say that if the seperation is done correctly and both parents take responsibility for themselves and their relationships with their kids, that it can actually work out better in the long run.
At least this is how it was for me.

spiderspubes

It might be thanks for the advise

Xterminator

spiderspubes wrote:

I would like to no if any body is in a relationship just for the sake of children, or any other reason, is it fair to each other or the children involved to stay together for this reason alone.

I would say it depends how you get on. There is no doubt that a tempestious enviornment, where verbal sparring is the norm (perhaps even physical?) is a bad enviornment for a child!

Sometimes the 'passion' can go out of the relationship, and it can be more of a brother/sister type of union, where you both share similar interests, (your children, providing for them and yourself etc).

Such an eviornment would be preferable to a 'split' home IMO, not to mention the financial sense too. After all bringing up children is an expensive business. also its not that uncommon! Growing up, a GF had a father who had died, and her mum married another man, obviously for security, and a nice home etc, after a couple of years of financial struggle.

I think the danger of such a relationship, is one or the other partner may meet a romantic love, and decide to break the union, but this usually happens when the kids are older, and the parents have more time to think about themselves.

I think th question is, could you be happy in such a relationship? Could your partner? If the answer is yes, I'd say give it a try for the children.

X

Doodee

What Is Love

Sometimes people confuse it for gas.

In all honesty.
IF 2 people are happy in what they do day to day then its not a problem. Children or otherwise.
It becomes a problem when one of the parties becomes unhappy for what ever reason.

Praetorian

baby don't hurt me...

I am MAN

You are in love when you live with your partner and are comfortable enough to take a dump with the toilet door open.

pickarooney

Praetorian wrote:

baby don't hurt me...

Yep, stupid tune's been in my head since I saw the thread title half an hour ago.

koneko

No, trust me, it is not good for the children. They pick things up, they learn from their parents. If their parents are at eachothers throats it obviously isn't going to be a good environment, but even more subtle than that it does harm.
You don't have to fight all the time for it to be a bad environment. Say you don't talk, you don't love eachother, you treat eachother like strangers. Children pick up on things. They learn about life, about love, from you.

How bad is the situation?

b3t4

koneko wrote:

Say you don't talk, you don't love eachother, you treat eachother like strangers. Children pick up on things. They learn about life, about love, from you.

Welcome to my upbringing. It has not helped me in the least to form good relationships.

One unhappy mother and one unhappy father does not make a happy home.

A.

tinkerbell

I am MAN wrote:

You are in love when you live with your partner and are comfortable enough to take a dump with the toilet door open.

Haha, that's hilarious!


To the original poster -> if you are not in love anymore and are just staying together for the kids' sake - the children won't be fooled, they'll probably pick up on their parents' unhappiness and it won't work out in the long run.

ando

I am MAN wrote:

You are in love when you live with your partner and are comfortable enough to take a dump with the toilet door open.

I taught it was when you are beside your other half and you break wind without even trying to hold back!

Missie Mia

I am MAN wrote:

You are in love when you live with your partner and are comfortable enough to take a dump with the toilet door open.

I am MAN - have been in love several times and believe me dumps / doors open, not the way forward (just a thought).

TinCool

Praetorian wrote:

baby don't hurt me...

... no more