Willpower

dahamsta

Anyone got any pointers to good websites for boosting willpower? No nonsense please, no religious guff, no hugging and feeling, and no snakeoil merchants that'll try to sell me any of the aforementioned. Guess that's trims it down a little, eh?

adam

FT77

dahamsta wrote:

Anyone got any pointers to good websites for boosting willpower? No nonsense please, no religious guff, no hugging and feeling, and no snakeoil merchants that'll try to sell me any of the aforementioned. Guess that's trims it down a little, eh?

adam

Boosting willpower !

This was the first thing that i got in a google search !!!

it looks helpful !

Is this a "smoking" issue ?

ykt0di9url7bc3

what really got my willpower going was knowing how to deal with situations...i didnt read these books to help my willpower but they turned out giving me the knowledge to deal with situations that i would have lost badly


"The Prince" Machiavelli
"The Art of War" Sun Tzu (dont just read a simple translation, the whole background is helpful and an interesting read)
there are others i have read but these helped me the most

"The count of Monte Cristo" is a worthy mention of what a person can do when motivated

From Sun Tzu
24. Humble words and increased preparations are signs
that the enemy is about to advance. Violent language
and driving forward as if to the attack are signs that he
will retreat.

now I accidently spill some guys pint in a bar, he starts shouting at me and swearing\insulting me, nine tomes out of ten he's full of **** and making himself look big, I pay for another pint but i dont apologise....

now if he comes to me and quietly says "hey lad, whats the story with me pint" I apologise and get him another replacement, i dont know what he's capable of and i dont want to know....

only after rereading the book did i realise it had some words of wisdom that effected my behaivour

dahamsta

FT77 wrote:

Boosting willpower !

This was the first thing that i got in a google search !!!

it looks helpful !

Is this a "smoking" issue ?

I Googled too, which is why I was asking. It's not a specific issue, just willpower, which I've always been short of.

adam

climaxer

I have great willpower - I've always had. I remember during lent and all my cousins would give up sweets and crisps and I was usually the only one who'd last despite my cousins annoying me and tempting me 24/7! I think where I get my willpower is from positive thinking. I'm a very positive person and always try and look at the bright side of things. For example when I needed to lose weight I wrote down a list of the good things and the bad things about dieting. I decided I'd prefer to keep junk food as a treat and be fit, slim and sexy rather than have the junk food and sit on my ass and feel fat and frumpy. Whatever you're trying to give up maybe make a list of all the benefits you will enjoy by giving up something. Also willpower is about control and I do like to be in control of situations so maybe its just a trait that some people have naturally. Sorry that probably didn't help

Stark

Apparently level of willpower can be directly linked to level of serotonin in the brain ...

Other than that, just practice practice. If it's something you're trying to give up, make sure it's unavailable to you and avoid situations that remind you of it for a while.

sceptre

Royce Alive Trespasser wrote:

"The count of Monte Cristo" is a worthy mention of what a person can do when motivated

... by revenge

I've nothing to add but I'm interested in the responses. I could definitely do with cutting back or out with chocolate for a start (there was a time I was eating my own weight annually but I've put on a few pounds since). So like Adam a few general willpower references might be good.

Stark

I could definitely do with cutting back or out with chocolate for a start

The best book by far I've found for giving up chocolate is Potatoes not Prozac. It's good in that most stuff you read about chocolate addiction describe it in terms of blood sugar spiking and how low blood sugar makes you crave chocolate but tend to admit the effects of beta-endorphin addiction which is what really makes you crave chocolate and what makes you cranky etc. when you try to give it up. It also mentions how to keep your serotonin steady unlike other diets such as Atkins which will deprive you of it.

Naos

This may sound dumb, but have a six pac competition with an equally overweight friend. Put a little sum, like 20e on it. That way you'll be competeting with ur friend and are gonna work twice as hard, and at the end you'll have a good 6pac, if u stick to it...

azezil

having trouble saying no eh... how u doin

Emboss

Stark wrote:

Apparently level of willpower can be directly linked to level of serotonin in the brain ...

Other than that, just practice practice. If it's something you're trying to give up, make sure it's unavailable to you and avoid situations that remind you of it for a while.

hmm i read somewhere it was directly linked to the amount of people around you, you have to impress/care

no one to impress/give a **** if you do or don't, no will power

lots of people to impress/care more will power.

Victor

Realise "Is this bad for me (or others)?" If it is bad, then stop.

mike65

You don't need willpower if you realy want to give up!

Have you heard of Alan Carr? He's semes to have been hugely succesful
geting ppl to give up the evil weed.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASIN/0140277633/202-2532691-5418206

http://www.successconsciousness.com/index_000077.htm

Mike.

Stark

Can his advice be applied to things other than tobacco?

daveirl

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dahamsta

Victor wrote:

Realise "Is this bad for me (or others)?" If it is bad, then stop.

Ah Victor, I'd expect better from you than that.

Victor

dahamsta wrote:

Ah Victor, I'd expect better from you than that.

OK, doctor says "no booze, bad for your liver". That was three(?) years ago.

Penfolds

from www.11850.ie

William Power

Dalkey Dublin
Tel: (01) 23*****

Sorted !

Stark

You should take that down, bad form putting up someone's name and number on a public forum like that.

flogen

I need help in getting motivated to stop eating loads of unhealthy foods, and getting off my arse to do some exercise (and write my world changing novel while I'm at it).

I do find competing gets the job done, depending on how stubborn you are or whats at stake.

flogen

mike65

Stark wrote:

You should take that down, bad form putting up someone's name and number on a public forum like that.

Eh? Its on the fupping web, in the Golden Pages. Somehow I think its okay here too!

Mike.

ykt0di9url7bc3

sceptre wrote:

... by revenge

I wonder if you missed the Count's final message

for those who have read the book...

We may interpret Monte Cristo’s final words about waiting and hoping as his final renunciation of his revenge project, an acknowledgment that only God can act with the authority of Providence, leaving human beings to wait and hope that God ultimately punishes the evil and rewards the good. These words, however, do not indicate that Monte Cristo is abandoning his strong belief in the right to try to shape one’s own destiny, but merely that he is giving up the belief that one has the right to step in for God and irrevocably shape the destiny of others

[A]ll human wisdom is contained in these two words,—“Wait and hope.”

sceptre

Royce Alive Trespasser wrote:

I wonder if you missed the Count's final message

Indeed and I may have - it's probably about 15 years since I read the book. Mind you, my favourite movie is Kind hearts & Coronets so I'm probably just a fan of the long-run revenge streak.

MrNuked

Pappillion is a greatly inspiring read. It's the autobiography of a prisoner on Devil's Island who finally escaped after trying for aaaages. It is written by Henri Cherrie
But I tend to favour the view put forth in the latest Roddy Doyle novel. Willpower doesn't work; imagination does.
That's your window into your subconscious, get that working for you and you won't even need willpower.
Get inside your head; try not to worry about things outside too much, let everything happen the way it will and don't hold on too tight, avoid the telly, and you may find your imagination is strengthened considerably.