Older Guy - Younger Girl

LegacyUser

Would it work, here's how it goes. I'm 39, work with a girl 25, we get on really well and i get the feeling she is coming on to me big time, in fact i know it. It's more than just teasing before anyone asks.

I really like her too but the problem is this.... is the age difference too much. I care enough that i don't want people laughing at her behind her back, me?? i can handle it!!

The Sweeper

Hmmm - depends on the person entirely. She could be 25 and behave like she's 16, or 25 and be completely mature. Either way it's up to you - at that age there's not many people who can really tell you what you should be doing!

It is quite a gap, 14 years, but the worst that will happen is that your priorities will quickly show up as being very different - but who knows, perhaps you're 39 and think you're 21...

misswex

If the age gap doesn't bother either you or her than you shouldn't let it be an issue!!!

Why not go out for a drink after work with her and see where it takes you, you might not have anything in common anyway so worrying over the age thing could be irrelevant!!

Beruthiel

OlderGuy wrote:

is the age difference too much

not if it doesn't bother you!
I'd say go for it

Zulu

At 25 shes old enough, and bold enough.
Imo - relationships are about life stages as it were (more so than age).
If you are looking for the same things - then it'll work; if not - then it won't. I guess what I saying is, only you guys know. If you're looking for a long trem commitment, and shes looking to head off to Austrailia at the end of the summer...

But best of luck.

Sleepy

What's that saying about gift horses and mouths?

Shrimp

Sleepy wrote:

What's that saying about gift horses and mouths?

Never Look A Gift Horse In The Mouth

Zulu

Point missed stop low flying ufos reported stop nice gif though stop

VenusDiablo

Age is just a number, if you both want the same things and you both obviously like each other age shouldnt make a difference.
You shouldnt care what people think. sure there might be gossip flying but once they see your both happy, it'll all fade into the background.

i have friends that met 4 years ago and they were the same age as you guys are now. everything worked out great for them, they had the same apprehensions, now they're getting married next september

good luck

The Corinthian

OlderGuy wrote:

I really like her too but the problem is this.... is the age difference too much. I care enough that i don't want people laughing at her behind her back, me?? i can handle it!!

Outside of your body beginning to fall apart have you really changed all that much since you hit 25? I doubt it. So, TBH, I would give it a try.

VenusDiablo wrote:

Age is just a number

That number could be two to five years in the Curragh if you’re not careful though...

CathyMoran

I really do not see the harm in dating her in the slightest - when I was 23 I really liked a guy who was 14 years older...problem was he did not go near me until I was 25 and I had moved on. If she was 16 or 17 then I would say to read Nabacov (Lolita), but at this age, what is the harm? In terms of it happening in work - it will be news for all of 5 minutes and then they will be onto something else. Best wishes.

jj99

what about an 18 yr old with a 15yr old? sick or safe???

Zulu

jj99 wrote:

what about an 18 yr old with a 15yr old? sick or safe???

Sick.

18/2=9
9+7=16
15<16
QED.

gerire

Ah the auld half the age + 7 rule comes back to haunt
23 / 2 = 11.5 + 7 = 18.5

/me heads off to local college to check out the 1st years.
Man I actually feel dirty suggesting it, no darling I wasn't looking I swear

Chucky the tree

jj99 wrote:

what about an 18 yr old with a 15yr old? sick or safe???

you really shouldnt have to ask

Flukey

It is how you get on with that person that is important. Age gaps will inevitably cause problems, but you can be clear on that with each other before you start and be ready for it.

Victor

The Corinthian wrote:

That number could be two to five years in the Curragh if you’re not careful though...

It's Midlands these days.

jj99

that divided by 2 and +7 rule is so stupid. say im 18 i cant go out with a 15 yr old, but if i wait two years its perfectly ok. by the way im not talking bout a sexual relationship, just a typical boyfriend/girlfriend relationship!

The Clown Man

That's the law.

Obey the law.

ERR!

what bout a 17yr old guy n 15 year old girl?

LegacyUser

I am in a similar situation with a guy I work with, I am the 25 year old and he is 38.
We both really like eachother and talk all time but we are both in other realationships.

I would say go for it, why not

jj99

ERR! wrote:

what bout a 17yr old guy n 15 year old girl?

as long as shes 15+1/2 or over its ok according to "the rules"

what about that period when its somebodys birthday. lets say the 15yr old girl turns 16, she is then allowed to go out with the 18 yr old but only UNTIL the day before the guy turns 19.hmmmmmmm

ERR!

wow confusing...i think thats grand though like

Chucky the tree

jj99 wrote:

as long as shes 15+1/2 or over its ok according to "the rules"

what about that period when its somebodys birthday. lets say the 15yr old girl turns 16, she is then allowed to go out with the 18 yr old but only UNTIL the day before the guy turns 19.hmmmmmmm

best way is too see how other people would react. when i was 18 and if i went out with a 15 year old my mates would of ripped it out of me, and so would if it was one of my mates.

also if i had 15yr old sister, and some 18 year was after her i wouldnt be happy at all.

ERR!

well older brothres are just annoying over protective people :mad:

CathyMoran

Tell me about it...my brother would not let me date any guys his age (he is 6 years older than me) until I was way into my 20's yet it was OK for him to go for my friends...

swimfan

age gaps dont matter unless the people are in their teens

The Corinthian

jj99 wrote:

as long as shes 15+1/2 or over its ok according to "the rules"

It was meant as a rule of thumb, nothing more. And as a rule of thumb, it is probably one that works better as you grow older, TBH. Otherwise you should take note that the age of consent in Ireland is 17. Sexual relations, or at least sexual intercourse, below that age is illegal.

Now as much as it seems to be getting some people’s jollies to discuss going for 15-year-old girls here, that was not the age or topic being discussed.

Beruthiel

jj99 wrote:

as long as shes 15+1/2 or over its ok according to "the rules"

what about that period when its somebodys birthday. lets say the 15yr old girl turns 16, she is then allowed to go out with the 18 yr old but only UNTIL the day before the guy turns 19.hmmmmmmm

the age of concent in ireland is 17 years old

now please get back on the topic at hand
B

jj99

Beruthiel wrote:

the age of concent in ireland is 17 years old

now please get back on the topic at hand
B

sorry for the misunderstanding there but im not talking about a sexual relationship, im talking bout a non sexual b/f / g/f relationship!!!

Zulu

jj99 wrote:

sorry for the misunderstanding there but im not talking about a sexual relationship, im talking bout a non sexual b/f / g/f relationship!!!

...emm, so you're not talking about a b/f / g/f relationship - you're talking about friends? I've never heard about a non sexual b/f / g/f relationship outside of Hollywood!

lisa.c

age dosent really matter as long as yere both above age.
but if your a mature guy and she's an imature girl or vice versa then ye'll probably clash and it end up not liking each other .

as long as personalities match age should never matter.