Guy Trouble

LegacyUser

Maybe someone can offer me some advice !

I met a guy through a friend of a friend on a day out I have known him to see for a few months and always liked him and heard from my friend that he liked me too. Anyway we all went out for the day and we got on really well and arranged to go on a date just the two of us, We texted and called during the week leading up to it and the date itself went really well we had a good laugh I really enjoyed it and I heard from my friend that he did too. Anyway he asked me out the next night but I didn't want the usual of inseperable for a few weeks and then it all falling apart so said no but said maybe we could meet up during the week which he agreed to. And that was it ...didn't hear from him again until this week where he sent me a text asking how I was (this was all about 2 months ago ) My head is wrecked I really like him I know he did too and just don't know what happened inbetween him asking me out again and not hearing from him at all. My friend is no use to suss out as I don't want to put them in an awkward position of being piggy in the middle . But it's really affected me in trying to move on because now I think there is something up with me that someone could be really keen one minute and running a mile the next .......anyone any suggestions

AngryBadger

Telling a guy that you'd prefer to see him "some other time" is a very stupid thing to do. You may think you're saying, "I want to see you again, but let's take it slow" but what we're hearing is "I would rather lick the paste off the soles of my feet after running a marathon than go out with you". That was very stupid

Odds are the guy is into you, but from his perspective you basically said you weren't interested, so if you want to see him again you need to pick up the phone, and either ring or text, you need to ask him to do something and let him know that you are interested.

and to any other women reading this post.....how in the hell do you come up with these mad ways of explaining away doing things like this?????

misswex

So you basically said, 'no, some other time' but never got back in contact with him again and now are upset because he never got in contact with you??

The guy was obviously interested and still is by the looks of things, just probably thought you weren't when you didn't get back to him about a second date!!

So just get in contact with, can't believe you spent 2 months wondering why he hadn't got in contact when all you had to do was text him!!

briano

Or else, because he asked you out (for night 2) and you said no, he assumed that you were going to call him. I know thats what I'd think.

Pssssth. Women.

karlh

arrange to meet up and have sex with him.

it will work wonders.

Quigs Snr

You see the problem here is that he wanted to meet up again and you put the brakes on it. The onus (in the guys mind) is for you to disengage the brakes again, send a how are you message or whatever. He doesn't want to be chasing you around like a deperado when he thinks you are gone cool on him. But it's probably been eating him for weeks now and he's sent you this message to see what way the lie of the land is once and for all so he can put it behind him also.

You girls sure do make it difficult for us guys !

Zulu

Lesson to be learnt - don't play games if your not prepared to lose.
I don't mean to give you a pasting here - but you red-carded him (by the sounds of things) what did you expect?

Simple fix, pour yourself a big glass of pride juice, take a big slow gulp, and ring him. Ask him out. If you like him, he's worth it. If he likes you, you'll go out. Don't play games. Be honest. And best of luck.

ravenhead

AngryBadger wrote:

Telling a guy that you'd prefer to see him "some other time" is a very stupid thing to do. You may think you're saying, "I want to see you again, but let's take it slow" but what we're hearing is "I would rather lick the paste off the soles of my feet after running a marathon than go out with you". That was very stupid

Odds are the guy is into you, but from his perspective you basically said you weren't interested, so if you want to see him again you need to pick up the phone, and either ring or text, you need to ask him to do something and let him know that you are interested.

and to any other women reading this post.....how in the hell do you come up with these mad ways of explaining away doing things like this?????

Yeah have to agree with Angerbadger on this one .... to him it more than likely sounded like a brushoff - even though you did say to meet up maybe during the week - her probably thought you were trying to be polite. You should tell him what you meant by it .... it's just a pitty that ye missed out on 2 months together

swiss

You like this guy and didn't text him for two months?

Sheesh, mind games.

Anyway yes do what AngryBadger says. (The angriest badger )

Two months...

ballooba

The dating scene is great craic... the various forms of head fúcking that go on on both sides.

Seen loads of posts from girls in PI recently which I thought for a second 'shít that could be about me'.

Not that I score that much.

I think the text revolution has fúcked the whole thing up!!!

gobby

In all honesty, you are very lucky to have a second chance. Try to make it good this time.

Best of luck...

ferdi

i'm not sexist but seriously woman....get a grip, your the one ****ing with his head!!!!

LegacyUser

Now while your all busy slating me for playing games and such,let me just clarify a few points ! I said maybe it was better to meet up during the week which he agreed to. "okay" I then texted him on the Tue to see what night he wanted to meet up ...No reply . I then rang by the end of the week which believe me took leaving my pride at the door and no answer so from this I took that he wasn't interested. so I'll admit I did leave it because he obviously didn't want to be in contact. I refrained from the usual drunk texts I normally send to hang onto a bit of pride but I still haven't a clue if this guy has any interest in the slightest! I thought he didn't but the texts the other night have really wrecked my head as now I'm thinking maybe he is interested ...Agggg seriously I'm not a game player just don't want to make a fool of myself !

AngryBadger

ravenhead wrote:

Yeah have to agree with Angerbadger on this one .... to him it more than likely sounded like a brushoff - even though you did say to meet up maybe during the week - her probably thought you were trying to be polite. You should tell him what you meant by it .... it's just a pitty that ye missed out on 2 months together

WOOHOO!!! I'm the kinf og the world.....just kidding, let us know how it goes

Bloody*Mary

ferdi wrote:

i'm not sexist but seriously woman....get a grip, your the one ****ing with his head!!!!

Let me just clarify whily your all slating me for playing games etc ...On the Tue after the date I did text him to arrange something ...no response ...I then rang him on the Friday to which he didn't answer and from this I took it that he wasn't interested as the week before we had been on all the time so it was obvious he didn't want to be in touch . Normally I'd be inclined to send the odd drunken text to exes etc and refrained from this to hang onto a bit of dignity so this text really has come out of the blue and I really don't know if he is interested or not I like him and would love to see if something could happen but I don't want to be kidding myself either we sent a few texts back and forth the other night which were nice but no mention of arrangements and seeing as he avoided it last time I don't want to suggest it again ...I just don't know if I've any hope !! I don't game play but I'm not forward either as it's just not in my nature

Sleepy

Just text him and ask him out ffs. Don't over-complicate things.

Christ, what is it with some of you people? These are issues for 12 year olds, not adults.

cormie

mind games, texts, all a load of bull.

I hate the modern day dating way. Such a load of bollox. Whatever happened to the classic style huh? SMS has screwed up allot of things. So if he never sent you a text saying how are you I bet you'd never get back to him on the basis that you may seem desperate. Which is stupid because you both like eachother!

Where is the sense? It's all media hype. If you were adam and eve (as in, 2 humans and nature, nothing else, no influences or anything... I'm sure you would be together now.

Sarky

Head Wrecked wrote:

Agggg seriously I'm not a game player just don't want to make a fool of myself !

In that case, you'll never get anywhere. Almost all of my progress in life has involved my making a complete and utter ass of myself.

Of course, that might be just me.

MrVestek

Ditto. Here here monsta!