to ask her or not to ask her

LegacyUser

ok everyone,

i kissed this girl from a diff dept at work (albeit drunkenly) a couple of times...now i really want to ask her out....i want to ask her to her face but it would be so awkward, ive been emailin her and textin her a bit but i dont want to ask her out by email....so what im thinkin of doin is just askin her friend (who im friends with and work with too) wheither it'd be a good idea or a bad idea to ask her out.......

that way i cud minimize embarrasement

wud that be a good move??? what yiz reckon?

Sleepy

Grow some balls and ask her out somewhere on your own. It doesn't have to be flash, could be the movies, a quiet drink, whatever. From there it'll take it's own course.

For god's sake, don't try going through friends (unless you're 12 which I doubt seeing as you have a job)...

Fair Enough

Sleepy wrote:

Grow some balls and ask her out somewhere on your own.

A girl likes a guy with confidence.
I have to agree. The longer you leave it, the harder it will be.

VenusDiablo

from a girls point of view, to get your friend to ask her is a bit immature and a big turn off. ask her out yourself face to face, whether she says yes or not she'll respect you more for having the guts in the first place.

good luck

seamus

Work is such an easy situation. Quick email - "What are you doing for lunch?". Then at lunch ask her out for dinner/cinema/drink later on.

tman

VenusDiablo wrote:

from a girls point of view, to get your friend to ask her is a bit immature and a big turn off. ask her out yourself face to face, whether she says yes or not she'll respect you more for having the guts in the first place.

good luck

he just wants to ask the friend if its a good idea to pursue it...

and i'd have to agree with seamus on this one. gopher it!

ven0m

??? wrote:

ok everyone,

i kissed this girl from a diff dept at work (albeit drunkenly) a couple of times...now i really want to ask her out....i want to ask her to her face but it would be so awkward, ive been emailin her and textin her a bit but i dont want to ask her out by email....so what im thinkin of doin is just askin her friend (who im friends with and work with too) wheither it'd be a good idea or a bad idea to ask her out.......

that way i cud minimize embarrasement

wud that be a good move??? what yiz reckon?

Go to Woodies/B&Q or your local hardware store buy some superglue, then go to your local golfing supplies store & glue a pair of balls on dude - worst thing that will happen is she says 'no' - big woop, you'll get it out of your system, get over it & it'll be done.

NEVER ask someone out by email - never never never never, unless you wanna come across creepy..... same applies to txt. Just ask - the world won't end IF she says 'no', nor will bad stuff happen. Just get it over & done with - you may be suprised - there's a 50% chance she could say yes.....

Dunno why so many Irish blokes have hang-ups about this. I used to, but I just 'got over it' - it's no big deal.... wanting the woman means putting it on the line...... sometimes it works & it rules, other times it doesn't but it's no biggie, you got a rod.... go fishing...hehehehehe

::: ven0mous :::

Selik

Just go for it life's too short!

/ I should follow my own advice far more often too...

coco

??? wrote:

ok everyone,

i kissed this girl from a diff dept at work (albeit drunkenly) a couple of times...now i really want to ask her out....i want to ask her to her face but it would be so awkward, ive been emailin her and textin her a bit but i dont want to ask her out by email....so what im thinkin of doin is just askin her friend (who im friends with and work with too) wheither it'd be a good idea or a bad idea to ask her out.......

that way i cud minimize embarrasement

wud that be a good move??? what yiz reckon?

Dont leave it any longer just ask her you've nothing to lose! you dont have her now! and d worst that could happen she could say no but at least you tryed! sure if she says yes its a bonus!!! If your txting and emailing her and she's replying i think you have a chance cause she wouldnt txt or email you back if she didnt like you.

lisa.c

just ask her dont be a pussy cat.. women dont like pussy cats...

Zulu

Get real buddy! She evidently likes you - just ask her to her face.
You're in there.

LegacyUser

well thanks all for the advice, and sure i knew meself that i just needed to grow some balls and ask her, well to ask her tro her face would just have been too messy in here....and shes not gonna be around for the wknd, and shes off on holidays next wk, so i just asked her by email, even though i know you should NEVER do that.....she said yeah anyway, we went out last nite and had savage craic....thanks everyone anyway....shes fair cool

ven0m

??? wrote:

well thanks all for the advice, and sure i knew meself that i just needed to grow some balls and ask her, well to ask her tro her face would just have been too messy in here....and shes not gonna be around for the wknd, and shes off on holidays next wk, so i just asked her by email, even though i know you should NEVER do that.....she said yeah anyway, we went out last nite and had savage craic....thanks everyone anyway....shes fair cool

Outstanding - see now that wasn't so bad was it

Ladies & Gents I believe we have another graduate....hehehehe

::: ven0mous :::

Chada

rofl, sleepy i had intended saying exactly what your post had said as soon as i read it. This is it, grow some balls even if it takes a few swigs of whiskey beforehand to get the deed done! well done ??? btw :cool:

Flukey

Well you got away with the e-mail route this time, but stick to the face to face method in future. Good luck.