i think i got lucky

LegacyUser

Early december last year, I was minding my own business browsing the web when i received an IM from a stranger asking me to help them with some Irish translation. Now with this IM program I would usually ignore an unknown screenname, because they are usually middle aged arab men, dont ask me why.
However, this time I did my best to help the person out and afterwards ended up talking. She was a very nice, shy, friendly and funny girl from Eastern USA. I got on Really well with her, we had similar interests and problems. We had no problem talking about any issue no matter how deep rooted it was. Since then I've spoken to her pretty much every day for hours on end. We exchange birthday gifts etc. Around about May I realised I loved her and I told her. She told me she had felt the same way for months but was afraid of being hurt.
I've never felt this way about anyone before. She is so brilliant, she has been through some really tough times in her 18 years but is doing great now.

Well anyways, I was going to the US for the summer so i planned on visiting her. It was a more difficult to communicate over ther since i didnt have a phone or regular internet access. Unfortunately, I have had to come home to repeat exams, but I'm returning out in the next few weeks.

Now the course I'm doing in college, i've really lost interest in and wont pass the exams, so ill probably be taking a year off. We were talking one day about how it would be horrible when I had to go home, so we were kinda thinking, why dont I just stay for a while. Her parents own properties in the area and said theyd rent me an appartment for next to nothing, 2mins walk from their house. I know about my visa being expired and all that but im leaving that for now.

I know she isnt the calibre of girl im likely to meet again in this lifetime. I know absolutely everything about the girl, good and bad, i still love her to absolute bits. I've been miserable for 20years and im willing to take this chance. She's the only person who has ever made me happy.

I know the problem with a lot of internet relationships is people can sometimes make people out in their minds the way they want them to be rather than the way they are. However i can gladly say this is not the case here.
And the best part is - She feels the exact same way about me aswell.
She's not going to go to college till next year so i dunno.
Some advise please.
btw, this is the really short version.
thanks.

Sleepy

Have you met IRL yet? If so and you still feel the same, go for it but be warned, you'll probably get deported as you're there illegaly.

If not, go meet her first. See if the sparks are still there in real life, I've known people who met on-line who've since married, I've had a fling with someone I met on-line and I've personally met people on-line that I was sure there was something there with but when we met IRL there wasn't anything there at all. So, anything can happen, meet up with her, spend some time with her, but remember, staying illegally in the states isn't a good idea these days, you will be caught and it can affect future employment prospects if you're barred from entering the states.

colm_c

Be warned about the whole staying in the US illegally:
Once your visa expires:
up to 6 months = 2 year ban
6 months to 1 year = 5 year ban
1 - 2 years = 10 ban
after 2 years = lifetime ban

or something like that...

I don't think you can even apply for residence if you get deported...

Sarky

Remember this when you talk to strange women on the internet

tinkerbell

If you've met her and ye get on the same way, then go for it! Although I would say apply for another visa or something at least coz like colm_c said, you don't wanna get deported. If ye haven't met before, and have just been talking to the phone / IM, then wait til you actually meet her before you decide what to do.

stoopidkid

go for it.. i met my boyfriend in the oceanfree chat room on june 4th 2002.. i can honestly say that these have been the happiest 2yrs of my life.. i really cant bear to think bout life without him.. do whatever u have to do to be happy.. u only live once!