Long & confusing...

LegacyUser

Here's the deal... To avoid confusion I'm going to assign letters to people...

My brother A
His fiancée B
His ex C
Her husband D

About five years ago, A had split up with B of the previous number of years. He met C in a nightclub, got talking & they hit it off, she had just split from D who she was engaged to at the time.

A & C went out for about five months & then she decided she was going to try & make a go of it again with D so they split up & she went back to D, they proceeded to get married & subsequently had a child. A & B have two kids one before & one after this split.

A & C didn't see each other for nearly five years until this weekend then they both attended a party that all four people had been invited to [unbeknownst to each other they knew people who knew people...]. They didn't talk but both knew the other was there.

Co-incidently, I was at a party yesterday where C & D also were [again, we know people who know people...] C started talking to me, how was I , how was A etc... we talked for a long time about all sorts of stuff, she kept asking about A & I answered truthefully enough, but I did hold back. She implied that all was not as great as it was made out between her & D, but nothing was asked.

This morning I get a phone call from A who told me that B & him had a huge arguement [about something totally unrelated] & she had gone to her parents for the weekend & hadn't called him all weekend, nor had she returned his calls.

To be honest B is just tolerated in the family for the sake of A & the kids, she can be trouble & two faced. Nothing is said for the sake of peace. C on the otherhand was great, she really made an effort & always got on, even taking it on herself to call into my parents when he wasn't there to see them & our sister, she made great efforts with all the family [including me & my G/F]. Everyone hoped that A & C would stay together [even though A had a child with B].

A wanted to know what C was saying about him [she was saying a lot but I didn't let on too much], said that he realised he'd been putting up with a lot of crap over the past years & that his kids are the most important thing to him, but B isn't anymore.

I want to support A but I could not be involved in the breaking up af a marraige b]C[/b] & [b]D[/b. I realise that these things do happen, but if it happenned & then they got togther that would pretty much be ok, not the other way. I also got the impression that C wanted something to happen between her & A.

This problem is magnified by the fact that A & B are [supposed to be] planning their wedding for early 2006. & D is a relative of my G/F's best mate.

I know it probably doesn't read as clearly as it should but that's the way it is also possibly because I'm confused. Anyone any advice or insight ? One thing I'm not looking for is judgement, I've got enough to deal with...

Sleepy

Just stay out of it and let things take their course. As soon as you get involved you're putting yourself in the line of fire from one of those involved.

hedgetrimmer

One thing I'm not looking for is judgement, I've got enough to deal with...

If you get involved, you will become the butt of judgement by one or more of the people involved and their families.

None of this is your issue, and protect yourself by not getting dragged into this. This are old enough to look affter themselves