new guy.

Barbie_666

hey.wonderin if anyone could help me.
last friday night, i went to the cinema with a friend of a friend.he was really nice, and things went well.I met him again on sunday night, and we went for a "walk".things got a bit much, and I gave him a B.J. later that nite, i seen him get into a car, with another girl,and he had his arm around her.hes txtin me now, askin to meet up again, and i dont know what to do.
hes 21, and hes invited himself to my debs...:rolleyes:

Dont Ban Me

Hey,

you seem like a nice girl to me, and he seems like a muppet! So I'm guessing you can do much better than him! Dont let him treat you like crap, if he's invited himself, then uninvite him!! Tell him who you're bringing or something and then he'll prob freak out and walk off! Thus making the job for you of getting rid of him easier!!

Memnoch

well depends what you want from him, how much u like him,
i think the best thing is to just approach him and ask him for an honest explanation... and depending on what he says and weather u believe him, that will decide your future actions.

Rabies

Make it clear to him that he wasn't invited to your debs. Sounds like he was after one thing.

Dont Ban Me

Originally posted by Rabies
Make it clear to him that he wasn't invited to your debs. Sounds like he was after one thing.

Think he got it!!

D!ve^Bomb!

Originally posted by Barbie_666
went for a "walk".things got a bit much, and I gave him a B.J

Originally posted by Dont Ban Me
you seem like a nice girl to me

indeed:rolleyes:

Dont Ban Me

Originally posted by newband
indeed:rolleyes:

so our definitions of nice dont agree then hey?!!

chump

you should just ask him what the situation is...
and you shouldn't be put off by the other girl, chances are she's his current flooze and he'll be finished with her soon enough

if he's a nice guy and you both got on well, shure why not just keep seeing him, give him a chance and 'get to know him' a little bit better...
things will either work or not work, either way you've nothing to lose

i know im a bloke but that would be the advice i'd give to a friend or my sister if she was in your situation
hope it helps...
chin up

ShriekingSheet

You have to admit, after just two dates you guys kinda are still 'available' -say, if the same night you were really impressed by a nice, good looking chap who came up to you in a bar as you were minding your own business with the girls - I'm not saying you'd be with him - but many would argue you would have every right to score!?

There's loads of people like you (and me) who will feel a loyalty towards someone once they've had even one successful date and palnning another.

But there's a load of people who reckon it's not exclusive until the words "going out with" or "girlfriend/boyfriend" are said.

Neither way is Right or Wrong

Look at it this way - he's been with loads of girls and you've been with loads of guys - one more is no big deal and he's technically not being unfaithful - though I know you may feel bad about it!

Anyway, if you like him and are seeing him again don't be afraid to suss him out. If you want to go out with him give him a clue! AVOID the "whats the story" conversation!! :rolleyes: see what he says to something like - "so, you going on the pull with the lads this saturday?!" - ok thats sh!t but you know what Im getting at?!

Get in there and push for what YOU want and if he's not ready to offer it...

there's a sea of fish out there!

Dr. Dodger

....ya wanna go for a walk?

Libertine

banned

ShriekingSheet

Sorry - I hate criticising newbies and welcome to boards etc and all but............

Originally posted by chump
you should just ask him what the situation is...

NOOOOOO!

Johnny Versace

You are not a slut, and the girl you saw him with could easily just be a friend.

I have a lot of female friends who I link arms with etc. It is just being friendly/comforting.

Also, you just met the guy, he doesn't see you as a girlfriend yet, so technically he doesn't have to be faithful.

Don't start questioning him... yet... about it. He'll think you're clingy.

Placebo

LMAO !

Auburn

Originally posted by Libertine
You slutty little tramp, I hope he daterapes you

:rolleyes:

That's uncalled for.

It takes two, you know. He's equally as "slutty".

Davey Devil

Originally posted by Johnny Versace
You are not a slut

She's not a slut???

What do you have to do to be classified a slut these days? She's only 17 and she's out sucking the knob off a guy she just met. Don't get me wrong I'm all up for that sort of thing but she IS a slut.

Johnny Versace

Originally posted by Davey Devil
She's not a slut???

What do you have to do to be classified a slut these days? She's only 17 and she's out sucking the knob off a guy she just met. Don't get me wrong I'm all up for that sort of thing but she IS a slut.

She's not a slut, you're just sexually repressed.

This was the second night she met him and she gave him a blowjob. So what? Have you never had a one night stand?

Auburn

Yes and he's 21. He should know better than expecting/asking a 17 year old to do that. It borders on taking advantage imo.

Anyway, I didn't say she was or wasn't a slut. I don't know her so I won't pass judgement. We all make mistakes when we're young.

Dont Ban Me

Originally posted by Davey Devil
She's not a slut???

What do you have to do to be classified a slut these days? She's only 17 and she's out sucking the knob off a guy she just met. Don't get me wrong I'm all up for that sort of thing but she IS a slut.

LMAO

Originally posted by Auburn
Yes and he's 21. He should know better than expecting/asking a 17 year old to do that. It borders on taking advantage imo.

Where did she say he asked her? She may have offered!!

Johnny Versace

Originally posted by Auburn
We all make mistakes when we're young.

It's just a blowjob, and she has no idea whether this guy was actually with another girl.

I don't think it is fair to call it a mistake. It's her life, she can do as she pleases.

Dr. Dodger

quote:
It's just a blowjob, and she has no idea whether this guy was actually with another girl.

I don't think it is fair to call it a mistake. It's her life, she can do as she please
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damn straight.... so where did we land on that walk??

dangerman

god dammit versace everything you say is so bloody annoying. Can you not learn how to post without sounding like a preachy fuck.

Davey Devil is repressed for calling a girl who openly admits to sucking a guy off she just met a slut.

If anything, your the one who's repressed. You go on and on and on and on and on and on and on about ur sex this and sex that.

just don't post. Just shutup.

Chinafoot

i agree with Johnny.

just ask him what the story is? you dont have to do it a serious bunny-boiler kinda way. you could say it in a casual, jokey way.
and if you dont feel comfotable with that then just ask ur friend whats going on. you did say hes a friend of a friend right? so surely ur friend could find out for you if they dont already know.

Davey Devil

Originally posted by Johnny Versace
She's not a slut, you're just sexually repressed.

I'm not sexually repressed, I had your mother last night and she was crap.

Johnny Versace

Am I off topic?

You think giving a blowjob on a second date makes a girl a slut? Sounds like you have issues with women, as well as issues with me.

Read all the posts in this topic, and then re-read your post.

Originally posted by dangerman
god dammit versace everything you say is so bloody annoying. Can you not learn how to post without sounding like a preachy fuck.

Davey Devil is repressed for calling a girl who openly admits to sucking a guy off she just met a slut.

If anything, your the one who's repressed. You go on and on and on and on and on and on and on about ur sex this and sex that.

just don't post. Just shutup.

Philbert

Originally posted by dangerman
god dammit versace everything you say is so bloody annoying. Can you not learn how to post without sounding like a preachy fuck.

Davey Devil is repressed for calling a girl who openly admits to sucking a guy off she just met a slut.

If anything, your the one who's repressed. You go on and on and on and on and on and on and on about ur sex this and sex that.

just don't post. Just shutup.

This is totally uncalled for imo.

He is just expressing his opinion like you and everyone else.

Philbert

Originally posted by Davey Devil
I'm not sexually repressed, I had your mother last night and she was crap.

Is'nt it past your bedtime? :rolleyes:

Dr. Dodger

Originally posted by Philbert
This is totally uncalled for imo.

He is just expressing his opinion like you and everyone else.

where did it all go wrong?

Johnny Versace

Thank you. It seems a group of people here feel the need to criticise everything I say.

Sad really...

Originally posted by Philbert
This is totally uncalled for imo.

He is just expressing his opinion like you and everyone else.

Chinafoot

hey dangerman.....you ever thought of using your IGNORE list.
if he bothers u so much just dont read his posts.

anyway there was absolutely nothing wrong his response. slightly uncalled for IMO.

Johnny Versace

Originally posted by Dr. Dodger
...and so is dangerman

No he's totally off topic. His post contained nothing positive.

Sarky

Next time, use your teeth.

Davey Devil

Out of interest Johnny, is there such a thing as a slut in your opinion?? If so I'd like to hear your definition of what the word slut means to you.

Chinafoot

Originally posted by Sarky
Next time, use your teeth.

ooooh evil! i love it!

seriously though barbie i'd say dont worry bout it til u know all the facts. that girl could've been just a mate. and dont feel bad for giving him a blow-job, it doesnt make u a slut or a slapper or anything like that.

Dr. Dodger

well the whole thing reminds me of advice my dad once gave my sister...

"if ya want to have a relationship with an older guy...make sure ya give him a blow job on the 2nd date..at the latest"

simpler times

Johnny Versace

Originally posted by Davey Devil
Out of interest Johnny, is there such a thing as a slut in your opinion?? If so I'd like to hear your definition of what the word slut means to you.

I don't like putting labels on people, but if I had to define slut, it'd be something like...

A girl (or guy for that matter) who has a boyfriend, yet is sleeping around quite heavily.

...

I do not think a girl is a slut if she has a one night stand/gives a blowjob etc etc.

Why haven't you called the guy a slut? Think about it...

Dr. Dodger

hey barbie...are you my sister?

Dr. Dodger

think about this...

hes not the one lookin for a relationship

sure one night stands can happen but you hardly expect anything serious to come of it

Chinafoot

Originally posted by Johnny Versace

I do not think a girl is a slut if she has a one night stand/gives a blowjob etc etc.

Why haven't you called the guy a slut? Think about it...

you know thats not something many blokes would ever admit to. fair play Johnny.
but thats a whole different argument.

this is clearly a personal gripe as there was nothing preachy about ur post.
ya must've just rubbed him up the wrong way.

anyway thought the point of this was to give advice to Barbie not slate people ya dont like.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

well no one's calling the guy a slut because she's the one that gave oral sex, not him.

bit of an obvious answer, I'm surprised no one picked up on it.

D!ve^Bomb!

well she is a slut imo,,, but she's not just a slut (imo), she's a dumbass slut for givin a 21 year old head without knowing anything about his past sexual relations...

can we say STD



Banned for one week
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Chinafoot

yea but if a girl let a guy give her head after on their second date (or whatever u wanna call it) its more likely she'd be classed as a slut, not they guy.

D!ve^Bomb!

well i wouldn't class the guy as a slut on this particular occasion because didn't technically do anythin,,but a lot of men are sluts, and i dont like them either cos they're half the reason why std's infection rates are goin higher and higher, i'd still class him as a dumbass tho for the same reason i classed her as a dumbass,,

Ste.phen

(ignoring the children fighting above)

barbie,
looks to me like he's PROBABLY got someone else, like a few of the others said, "so what?" at this stage neither of you are under any obligation, just be careful you're not being used

Lainey

barbie, there is nothing wrong with one night stands...but you are still young.. it does sound like he is meeting someone else and if this bothers you, def don't meet him again...

ignore them, you are not a slut, you are only 17 yrs old and put it down to a bad experience.. one bj does not a slut make.. plus you are only out of a relationship so your head is all over the place.. relax, and don't worry about it.. you can't change what happened either way.. (and if he has a big mouth and you hear it back, deny it, the women are usually believed)

Oriel

To all:

• I think Johnny Versace should get his own board on this palce for "hate mail", I think it would get its enough traffic to validify the creation.
• I think this thread needs to stay on topic more.

Barbie_666,

• If you give a blow job to a guy on a second date, and you see him getting (quote) "into a car, with another girl, " then I don't think this going to be a "person issue" to you.
• I don't see why that couldn't have been his second date with this girl. What was going to happen there then...
• Wise up, move on. If you can do "that" to him, then what's to stop another girl doing the same.
• You'll wake up in 2 weeks time and think nothing of this.

Life's too short.
S.

Doodee

Originally posted by Johnny Versace
I don't like putting labels on people, but if I had to define slut, it'd be something like...

A girl (or guy for that matter) who has a boyfriend, yet is sleeping around quite heavily.

Describing yourself there Johnny?


Am, Well tbh, the guy is 21. there have been loads athreads before on holding out if you are interested in a relationship with someone, and 2 days for it to move from mouths to .... is a tad fast.

If you ask him he will just tell you that you dont trust him. Tbh, tis up to you.

Woden

johnny your definiton of slut may be different to davey devils and thats fair enough however you where quite enough to label davey devil as sexually repressed for someone who doesn't like to put labels on someone?

meh at the moment i'm of the opinion that if some girl sucked me off on the second date or whatever thats great and all but i'd probably question whether thats the type of girl i'd like to have a relationship with however that just my opinion at the moment and all that crap goes out the window though if you really fancy someone.

however he did break the cardinal rule of half his age plus 7, being 21, thats 10.5 round up to 11 + 7 = 18 and thats the lowest you can go

Civilian_Target

From my little experience I would suggest forgetting about him and moving on. And not letting him come with you to the debs.

You're living in Donegal, right, in which case it's a bit tricker with those damn small communities....

Lainey

Originally posted by Dataisgod
however he did break the cardinal rule of half his age plus 7, being 21, thats 10.5 round up to 11 + 7 = 18 and thats the lowest you can go

ha ha.. i never heard that rule.. deadly..

Funky

Man that guy's a legend.