Is this wierd?

Divine

Hey i just need a couple of opinons on this matter because im unsure of what to do.

Ok there is this girl at college that i have never spoken to before. i have heard she is supposed to like me or whatever but i never showed much interest and that was about a year ago.

This evening in MacDonalds i saw her with a friend who i have to say was fairly fine to be honest and she seemed interested in me judging by the way she acted even when i was goin out. I want to go off with her and maybe go out with her if we got on.

ok the bad points are, i have never seen her friend before, i did not speak to her and i have never spoken to the girl that liked me last year. However what i intend to do is (and ive already got advice from a 26 year old girl) is to chat with the girl thats in college, say i think her friend is nice ask her has she got a boyfriend and if she does not would her friend like to meet up with me for a drink. She will say il ask her or whatever and i will ask her to give her my phone number. Then if she texts she texts and if she does'nt she does not. Im not a coward by the way but the chances of me seeing her friend again are just slim to none. Thats why im going about it this way.

What i need to know, off girls in particular, is this wierd? Is this a strange way of asking for somones number or should i go for it. I problady will anyway but i just want to know if i should.

Thanks,

Divine

by the way im 21 and id say her friends about the same.

WizZard

Well I'm not a girl so I can't comment on that side of things, but I personally wouldn't advise you to ask her out that way (or ask for her number).
If any of my girl friends got a text from a strange number saying "Would you like to meet?" it would be instantly deleted.

You say that there is very little chance that you would see her again so you don't have a lot to lose by going up to her sometime and chatting for a bit, and then asking her for a coffee/drink/whatever.

Johnny Versace

I'm not a girl, but it could be considered creepy.

I'd figure out a way of talking to the girl you like "by accident".

Possibly when you're both drunk.

Maybe at some kind of college function?

WizZard

Or you could just walk up and say hello the next time you see her. Start off by using the corniest chat-up line you can think of then when she laughs at you take it from there.*


* I have never attempted this maneuver...

Seraphina

talk to the girl in college and arrange to get a group of you going out together so you can get chatting to her mate. there's no way you should text her without seeing her again, she wont have clue who you are and probably wont be very interested.

Funky

Ask her out for a bite to eat, but be the gentleman and pay for that McDonalds happy meal....

The_Goose

thats how me and my girl met, she asked for my number off a mutual friends, i was flattered!! You should definatly do it that way, no risk!!

Divine

yeah well you see i wont see her again more than likely. The only way i can contact her is through her friend. I was not going to ask for her number i was going to offer mine and then if she text me its all fine and if she does not then she does not.

Should i say to her friend in college that im going out with a mate and would she and her friend like to come or what? Im a bit stuck, help me :-)

Divine

yeah thats what i thought Centurion, i mean at the end of the day im only enquiring about the girl. I was not going to ask for her phone number, i was going to offer mine if she didnt have a boyfriend and then if the girl texts me she does and if she does not then i dont mind.

I was going the girl in my college that i like her friend and say a mate of mine and myself were going to whatever pub and would they like to come. You see i have to do it this way because i wont see her friend again so i can either do it this way or do nothing at all.

Typedef

Clearly this *26 year old ''friend''* of yours is setting you up too look like a stalker, so she can swoop in and help you pick up the pieces with some 'just got rejected need a shoulder to pant on' sex.

Avail of this opportunity to nail your "just friend".

Advice from females about other females is invariably a means to get close to you... so she can get you into bed...

If said female is not conciously aware of this fact... exploit it.. to get her into bed.

If she is... let her get you into bed.

Maybe make her pay for the food/drink/toys too!

Emboss

I'm hard.

Divine

Typedef thats all very good but im after advice on how to get this girl. Im not interested in the 26 year old, even if she does have her own car and could drive me around. Actually come to think of it the 26 year old is very eager to hear what happpened, is this natural curiosity or something deeper.

What do you think of me method of getting off with the other girl i have been on about though. Any ideas besides talking to her because i wont get to see her.

Typedef

The only way to legitimately break the ice with a girl who isn't drunk is through a third party.

A friend, a brother, sister, work colleague, whatever.

If you are cold calling, aka, walking up to her and blathering out at speed "Jaysus you look great... any chance of a ride"?, you should probably accompany such an statement with a chloroform filled device of your choice.

Text messages are crap for asking girls out, where you doubt she will get back... it looks cowardly.

The SAS have a motto:

"Who dares, wins".

Simple really.

Get her phone number and call her up.

Say something like.

[1]"Oh you're friends with so-and-so, I saw you the other day in such-and-such a place"

[2]"Howz about we get jiggy"?

Point [2] is potentially questionable, the phoning her up bit, is easy though. It's personal, lets you talk face to face as it were and doesn't entail you making a pass at her in front of all of her friends, in a crowded and sober environment, where the crimson colour of your face would be a topic of conversation used to make you seem like a prat later on, when the girls were talking about shopping, nail polish and that prat who almost exploded with nerves when he asked(female_in_question) out in front of 20 sober people.

After a stunt like that, even if she did fancy you, the retribution incurred in slagging from her friends would be enough to utterly nullify any chance you had of her taking you up on the offer.


Don't be confused. Some girls (all?) go for the whole display publicy your intentions towards her.

The likelyhood being that walking up to her and her friends, in canteen(x) to ask her out and not a) stuttering b) having a massive adreline induced anxiety attack or c) pissing down the side of your leg is low. In which case said female probably wouldn't be considering you as the father of her children and provider of food, shelter, cars, diamonds, holidays and all the other essential hunter gather accutraments.

loismustdie

girl A = girl who like you last year
girl b = girl you like

it's a bit stupid to text a girl who probably doesn't know you exist. if you try arrange it with girl A she might think you like her or get offended cos you like her friend. in a word, yes, it is weird

whosurpaddy

Originally posted by Typedef
"Who dares, wins".

i thought that was del boy?

Sleepy

Nope, that was "E ooh dares Rodders, E ooh dayres..."

Divine

And what do you suggest i do then....nothing?

im going to go with my origonal idea. Im going to give her my number, im not going to go ringing her or anything. Thats the best idea! True?

m4cker

Invarioubly not have some guts and ring her.

like you say you will probably never see her again so what do you have to lose?

(apart for the respect and adoration of a complete stranger.

Laguna

The situation sounds a bit dodgy man, then again i've never understood teh whole making eyes/body language thing.. maybe you should give it a shot, maybe you shouldn't, play it by ear man, your best bet is the third party introduction, anything else is setting yourself up for her to reject you (even if she DOES like you, when people get offered something they want right in their face, i tend to find they reject it).