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wodewick

I'm a 20 yr old guy, and i always assumed myself straight up to recently. i've started thinkin differently about things and i just thought this might be the place to get it off my chest and get some advice about it.

how am i supposed to know if i'm actually bisexual??? i'd do anything at this point just to know for myself.

ne ideas???

please?

swiss

how am i supposed to know if i'm actually bisexual??? i'd do anything at this point just to know for myself.

Well, the first thing to do would be to get the obvious stuff out of the way. I don't mean to sound patronising here, but you should have some idea about how you feel about guys and girls generally. How do you feel about girls? I assume you have had some form of contact with them in a romantic way, be it just something as simple as kissing or perhaps something more. Have you done the same with guys?

I don't know what it's like to be bisexual. I like guys mostly, although a small part of me is still attracted to girls. I've tried both, and know which one I would go for, but I suspect you haven't. Some guys think about trying it on with guys, then they experiment and find out they prefer girls. Others know even before they even touch another guy/girl that they fancy the same sex more.

Also, if you're basing this (in)decision on your feelings for one or perhaps two guys in particular, and wouldn't even think about other guys like that otherwise, then I would say that you might be reading a little too much into it, and a bit more experience might be necessary before coming to a decision on the matter.

Rock Climber

For me being bi sexual is simple really, it means I can feel strongly enough about some blokes to want to be in a relationship with them.
I can feel the same attraction to being with them as with a woman.
I'll look foward to see'ing who ever it is and want to look after them etc etc.
And of course I'll be attracted to them in the physical sense.
I'll feel the same hurts when let down by them and the same elation when something good is going on between us.

Is there anyone in particular that has made you realise that you may be bi sexual?
Being in love with or knowing that you can love someone of the same sex , you know is in my humble opinion one of the greatest feelings in the world.
It's special, its different, but to you its the same if you know what I'm saying.

My advice would be not to worry about it and to go with the flow so to speak, don't go against your own feelings.
Just find someone who may feel the same way about you as you do about them and enjoy.
Their gender doesn't matter, it really doesnt, it's what makes two people happy is the priority

I'm not so sure that, you should just run out and kiss the first bloke in a gay club or somewhere as it may turn you off the experience or may for reasons un related to your status be a bad experience.
If you do , do that, don't take it as definitive..
Make sure you find more than a one night stand to make up your mind on it.
To compare properly, you do need to compare like with like, in terms of personal relationships.
Theres no point in ruling out something based on a one night stand regardless of whether by the way it is with a girl or a guy.
Or possibly if you are lucky maybe the person that is making you think most like this at the moment. could be the one!

qwertyphobia

It's very difficult to decide what your sexuality is when you have it under a microscope.

Like when walking down the St. see a guy think he looks cute and then spend ages thinking does this mean I am gay or bi? I know it maybe hard to do but try and not think to much about the labels for the time being (possibly months or a year) just go with your feeling/attractions/fantasies and see where they take you.

It is a strong urge to slap a label on something, it gives us a sense that we have control over it. But you are still in an exploration phase of things, enjoy that.

I would be careful putting to much fate on one off incounters you may just not click with the person that happens gay/bi/straight whatever. Particularly if it's a first off experience.

take things at your own pace, maybe try flirting with a guy online on the likes of gaydar and see how that feels. Or go into Gubu or some other chilled gay space and see how you feel there.

Just keep an open mind, wheather you are gay/bi/straight isn't the important thing what matters is that you get comfortable with whatever sexuality you are.




Ah shag that, being Bi is great jump in and join the fun. (only partialy joking with this last bit)