Does everyone get dumped at some stage in their life?

Michelangelo

I was having a conversation with my friend about it today and he said everybody gets their hear broken by a girl/guy at some stage in their life.

I disagree.

I have never been dumped before and even if i thought I was going to be, I would do it first instead. He said it happens to everybody at some stage or another. I am just wondering if you all have the same view too? I do not think it is the case at all.

uberwolf

heart broken - no. dumped yeah. Apparently she thought I was ashamed of her.

Quigs Snr

MichaelAngelo, don't be so sure. I am late enough in life and was dumped, no warnings, no nothing, I was almost married to this person, we bought a house together, I was as happy as could be and I hadn't a clue what was going on. I don't know does everybody get dumped, I would like to hope not, I know that up till the point I was, I thought the same way as you, I thought it would never happen, that only happens in soap opera's. I thought I would see it coming and have time to prepare, I had nothing, and it was tough, it still is. Maybe it always will be.

Karl Hungus

Well, is that to say you've never been with someone else to get dumped? Or, that you were always the one doing the dumping? Or you're a dumpling?

I think it could indeed depend on those above circumstances, but on the flipside to this I've never dumped a girl, but I've certainly got the odd dump. But I think for the majority of people, it is innevitable.

simu

I was having a conversation with my friend about it today and he said everybody gets their hear broken by a girl/guy at some stage in their life.

That makes no sense. The universe is indifferent to amorous relations between humans!

I'd imagine the probability of getting dumped at least once is greater than the probability of never getting dumped for a human living at this time in this country but there are no hard and fast rules!

Dave

Originally posted by Michelangelo
I have never been dumped before and even if i thought I was going to be, I would do it first instead.

So even if you loved this girl but found out she might be considering dumping you, you'd do it first, so you wouldn't have to be dumped. Hmmmmm :rolleyes:

Raphael

Dumped, no

Heart broken, yes

I was rejected, but never dumoed. Still hurt like a bitch though

Wolfie

Originally posted by Dave
So even if you loved this girl but found out she might be considering dumping you, you'd do it first, so you wouldn't have to be dumped. Hmmmmm :rolleyes:

A valid point Dave. Seems very immature to me. Anyway, on topic, 100% with what simu says. I'm sure there are some people that it doesnt happen to, but most people experience it at some time. Its all part of finding 'the one', and I personally would think it more strange for a person to never have been dumped.

TacT

Murphy's Law dictates that if you think it could never possibly happen to you it will definitely happen to you, you just jinxed yourself

Big Ears

isnt murphy's law if anything can go wrong it will go wrong ?

gsand

im pretty sure i read sumthing in a newspaper that the majority gets dumped/heartbroken by 18. id say yes u all will, and the more u think u wont the more likely ur gona be even more shocked wen it happens.

andrew163

Originally posted by Raphael
Dumped, no

Heart broken, yes

I was rejected, but never dumoed. Still hurt like a bitch though

ditto. still havent recovered from it :dunno:

Michelangelo

Originally posted by Dave
So even if you loved this girl but found out she might be considering dumping you, you'd do it first, so you wouldn't have to be dumped. Hmmmmm :rolleyes:

Not if I loved the girl no. I have never been in love with a girl before. That is why it has never been a big deal.

Or, that you were always the one doing the dumping?

I guess so. Mind you, I have never been in a relationship longer than 4 months. And I am also 19.

Pugsley

Originally posted by Big Ears
isnt murphy's law if anything can go wrong it will go wrong ?

Nah Murphy's law is like saying "I AM INVINCIBAL!!!" (boris in goldeneyes), then suddenly getting killed by gallons of liquid nitrogen falling over you. However thats going off topic.

Dave

I was more pointing to the attitude of "I'll dump her before she dumps me even though I don't want to dump her" as juvenile, and immature.

Michelangelo

Originally posted by Dave
I was more pointing to the attitude of "I'll dump her before she dumps me even though I don't want to dump her" as juvenile, and immature.

Well thats how it is. I will not let anyone have 1 up on me.

It has not happened before but think about it...if it was coming and you knew it was, why not call the shots?

Dave

As I stated it just sort of seems like the crap that 15 year olds would go about dating and the like. What age are you?

Michelangelo

19. I say most guys would if they knew it was going to happen. think about it. You know if you go to iraq, you will be killed so why not prevent yourself from going? Bad example but u get the point. Also, most people do not know if they are going to be dumped so it is basically pointless even stating it. I was just saying If I happened to know, then I would...obviously.

Monty - the one and only

Originally posted by Michelangelo
Not if I loved the girl no. I have never been in love with a girl before. That is why it has never been a big deal.

Until you do, you will never understand...that simple really.

Gordon

You will never know unless you know.

The logic goes thusly:
Your future is not certain. If you are in love with someone - there is ALWAYS the chance that your heart will be broken. If you are not in love with someone - there is ALWAYS the chance that you will be in the future.

If you have never had your heart broken then there is ALWAYS the chance that you will have your heart broken, or be dumped. The only time you will find out yay or nay is when you die. Which is probably when you won't realise - because you will be dead.

Therefore you will never know, unless you know now.

][cEMAN**

Originally posted by Michelangelo
19. I say most guys would if they knew it was going to happen. think about it. You know if you go to iraq, you will be killed so why not prevent yourself from going? Bad example but u get the point. Also, most people do not know if they are going to be dumped so it is basically pointless even stating it. I was just saying If I happened to know, then I would...obviously.

Because some people are mature and secure enough to face problems and not run away from them.

So you say you dump girls before they dump you. Does this happen more than you just getting bored and dumping them for your own reasons? Because the way it sounds from your comments so far, you're avoiding problems in relationships. Instead of working through them you're just jumping out of it. Sounds like if you ever do get into something serious and you find she's going to dump you, you won't know what to do. You also won't know WHY she's going to dump you because it may be the same reason so many other women were going to - but you didn't hang about long enough to check.

Might be interesting to find out how that works out for ya. Get back to us when it happens.

DUX

Dumped, yes, so many times!
Heart broken, yes, so many times!

I recently found a workaroud by dating 4 girls at the same time...this way I always have a backup

Nowadays you can't fully trust anybody.......

Ste.phen

Originally posted by DUX

Nowadays you can't fully trust anybody.......

Originally posted by DUX

I recently found a workaroud by dating 4 girls at the same time...this way I always have a backup

Er, unless they all knew, you might be proving that "cant trust anybody" comment

DUX

Originally posted by Igy
Er, unless they all knew, you might be proving that "cant trust anybody" comment

Everything started recently actually....in the last 2 weeks (it never happen to me before to get so lucky in such a short period!), i will have a few dates and once i have decided which one is "the one" i will forget about the others....mmm, should i maybe keep a backup just in case?


anyway, so far in my life i have been dumped so many times that is time for me to become a "bad guy" too :mad:

Johnny Versace

Well, you can trust some people, but I agree they are close to extinction...

The thing about relationships is you have to have faith and risk getting heart broken, otherwise you're going to miss out on a big part of life.

Meeting new people and breaking up is just a part of life...

I've had some psycho ex's as well as some lovely ones, but the psychos haven't put me off women or relationships. I accept the bad with the good.

ShriekingSheet

I would ay the best answer to this is It CAN happen ANYONE

I have been anyway

Ste.phen

Originally posted by DUX
Everything started recently actually....in the last 2 weeks (it never happen to me before to get so lucky in such a short period!), i will have a few dates and once i have decided which one is "the one" i will forget about the others....mmm, should i maybe keep a backup just in case?


anyway, so far in my life i have been dumped so many times that is time for me to become a "bad guy" too :mad:

Well i've done that before, and lost the 3 of them
Apparently they dont take it well if they find out about each other.

Heh, its your life, but i'd recommend treading carefully, especially with 4!





(always keep a backup )

MF2HD

Originally posted by Michelangelo
I have never been dumped before and even if i thought I was going to be, I would do it first instead.

How would you know you were going to be dumped...psychic powers, what if you jumped the gun and dumped her and she had no intentions of dumping you (you misread signals) - you could be dumping the love of your life

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just a thought

men at the best of times have a hard time reading womens minds so.......

DUX

How many of you have seen 2 persons getting together at the age of 20 and being still together after 10 years? Personally NONE..... and I think this is very sad ..... it looks like sooner or later everything come to an end....

Nowadays it is much easier to GET somebody compared to 50 years ago, but it is much more difficult to KEEP that somebody.....

Michelangelo

Originally posted by ][cEMAN**
Because some people are mature and secure enough to face problems and not run away from them.

So you say you dump girls before they dump you. Does this happen more than you just getting bored and dumping them for your own reasons? Because the way it sounds from your comments so far, you're avoiding problems in relationships. Instead of working through them you're just jumping out of it. Sounds like if you ever do get into something serious and you find she's going to dump you, you won't know what to do. You also won't know WHY she's going to dump you because it may be the same reason so many other women were going to - but you didn't hang about long enough to check.

Might be interesting to find out how that works out for ya. Get back to us when it happens.

Guess you are right. I am too young to try sort out relationship problems so I just bail. **** it. I am only young once.

MF2HD

maybe its because we all expect everything in our lives to be perfect, the minute it stops being so we run for the hills

Michelangelo

Originally posted by MF2HD
How would you know you were going to be dumped...psychic powers, what if you jumped the gun and dumped her and she had no intentions of dumping you (you misread signals) - you could be dumping the love of your life

---

just a thought

men at the best of times have a hard time reading womens minds so.......

I just said that all wrong. I wouldn't jump the gun like that. I was just saying if I was told by a mate or something that my girlfriend said she was going to dump me, then I would flip the cards and shock her by dumping her.

joey04

Yeah - it's like evrything else in life - if it's worth having you will have to do a bit of work to get it & keep it...
Running at the first sign of trouble will get you no where - you could be missing out on something great by doing that......

joey04

Originally posted by Michelangelo
I just said that all wrong. I wouldn't jump the gun like that. I was just saying if I was told by a mate or something that my girlfriend said she was going to dump me, then I would flip the cards and shock her by dumping her.

But would you really take the chance that your mate was telling you the whole truth????? What happened to the 'You can't trust anyone these days' ...... wouldn't you want to know for sure before doing something you might regret!!

Michelangelo

Ah ye man of course. This is all just hypathetical thinking.:)

R33F

Originally posted by ShriekingSheet
I would ay the best answer to this is It CAN happen ANYONE

I have been anyway

Yup, totally agree. And if you dont see it coming it hurts like hell.

(i guess if you did see it coming it could also hurt like hell)

Raphael

Originally posted by andrew163
ditto. still havent recovered from it :dunno:

fraid i cant stay the saem, was with my curent gf of about 9 months(i think) by the next week. actually it was the whole heartbreaking thing that resulted in us getting together....

but thats a long confusing and rambling story, and im tired. ho hum

][cEMAN**

TBH I think the worst is when you're the one doing the dumping, and then when your life gets rid of all the **** that was causing your head to think "Finish finish" you realise "WTF have I done?!?!"

xx

Originally posted by Michelangelo
I was having a conversation with my friend about it today and he said everybody gets their heart broken by a girl/guy at some stage in their life.

I disagree.

I have never been dumped before and even if i thought I was going to be, I would do it first instead. He said it happens to everybody at some stage or another. I am just wondering if you all have the same view too? I do not think it is the case at all.

I concur. Never been dumped. Never had a serious enough relationship to even cause the risk of this. Dumping is damage limitation, kinda like saying "I made a crap choice of partner, I can't live with it so I'll just push it away and hope it disappears". T'is a mugs game.

fozzle

Originally posted by Michelangelo
I just said that all wrong. I wouldn't jump the gun like that. I was just saying if I was told by a mate or something that my girlfriend said she was going to dump me, then I would flip the cards and shock her by dumping her.

Unfortuneatly it's rarely that simple, and if you love someone you're more likely to want to work through whatever problem is causing the breakup. And when you love someone, and they dump you, and their best friend tells you they still love you......you see where I'm going with this? There's just no hard and fast way of knowing, and it'll always hurt.

Cake Fiend

Originally posted by Michelangelo
19.

Heh, I was just about to post something along the lines of 'I bet you're not even out of your teens yet'.

You haven't even begun your life properly yet.

Sarky

Originally posted by gsand
im pretty sure i read sumthing in a newspaper that the majority gets dumped/heartbroken by 18. id say yes u all will, and the more u think u wont the more likely ur gona be even more shocked wen it happens.

Hurrah, I was first dumped at 21! Take THAT, majority!

No, wait, I mean ow...

Kold

The tactic is too dump her before she dumps you or if she's getting too close to you (Cos she'll definitely dump you when she finds out about those bodies)

Michelangelo

I guess you are right Siko.