Would you??

The_Goose

Lets say you know some one personally and they both of you are on boards!!!
Would you let anything that is said or done on boards effect your friendship with that person??

I think some people take what is said here to heart and thats just stupid!!
Its a computer chat room where people talk, voice their opinions and sometimes have fun, nothing more!!!
If you take it seriously enough to effected a friendship with a living breathing person then your a sad sad person who needs to unplug for about 9 months!!

Any way how you!!!!

CuLT

Are you saying this ISN'T real life? what planet are you on?

I know many people on boards personally, due to previous friendships. If you're unstable online, you'll be pretty unstable in real life.

It has to translate. Otherwise the boards beers would never work.

Jim

I think the beer helps.

I know a few boards people personally, turns out I'm unstable.

Exit

Originally posted by Manticore
If you take it seriously enough to effected a friendship with a living breathing person then your a sad sad person who needs to unplug for about 9 months!!

But then are you saying you can't make friends on here either, because as far as I know a good lot of people are mates offline through boards.

xx

I know Lemming pretty well actually. But we had a bit of a barney on the Martial Arts board a little while back. Haven't met him in person since then but I'd still be cool with the guy, no problems. Its just a different kind of conversation in here. You'd be a spa to hold a grudge after someone you know has a go at you in here.

loismustdie

brilliant point manticore? the incinuation isn't that boards isn't real life but people must distinguish between a flame on boards and a conersation in a pub with the opposition later. if people are friends, they should both be mature enough to not let disagreements online effect hteir friendship, if both parties respect each other this shouldn't be a problem. also if one person is superior on boards (for example, moderator) other posters sohould respect their authority while online and forget about it when they meet up socially

Exit

To answer the other part of the question, it depends on what is said and done. If one of your offline mates comes on to boards and posts pictures of yore ma, then boards is indeed real life as it's real feelings they're abusing.

loismustdie

Originally posted by Exit
But then are you saying you can't make friends on here either, because as far as I know a good lot of people are mates offline through boards.

i think he's talking about friends dissagreeing on boards who see each other "in real life" in a non-boards related way

Exit

I know, but at the same time, he's saying boards shouldn't be taken seriously and if it is then you need to unplug. Just saying that many people have met others through here, so therefore it can be taken somewhat seriously as a real life place.

User45701

I do not need to unplug for 9 months.
You can say what i should do but i wont do it.

rymus

Would I?

I would yeah

MoosemaN

I have disagreements/arguments on forums and offline. I thought this was part of life?

Man, it would be a boring life otherwise.

If you know the person IRL, then discuss the problem with that person. Cannot be much harder then that?

R33F

Originally posted by Manticore
I think some people take what is said here to heart and thats just stupid!!
Its a computer chat room where people talk, voice their opinions and sometimes have fun, nothing more!!!
If you take it seriously enough to effected a friendship with a living breathing person then your a sad sad person who needs to unplug for about 9 months!!

I think everyone takes something different from boards. But if you are saying that you only take chat rooms as "fun, nothing more" and someone is trying to express a serious point, there could be the problem ???

Maybe people who dont use boards should all "plug in" for nine months ??

Then everyone you met wouldnt be in real life.

TwoShedsJackson

Just because it's a website doesn't give you a licence to act like an asshole or say stupid things either. 'You own your own words' as a certain admin is fond of saying

amp

Boards.ie is part of real-life(tm). The trick is not to take that too seriously.

uberwolf

lets say my gf had signed up recently...:ninja:

has she the right to get pissed of with something I say?
I am expressing my opinions on stuff and she can disagree, can I hide behind the online persona and say its not really me?

Woden

Originally posted by loismustdie
also if one person is superior on boards (for example, moderator) other posters sohould respect their authority while online and forget about it when they meet up socially

similar to this can be the relationship between a manager and and employee i get on with most of my staff and find it a hard line to follow between having their respect and getting the job done and being there friend at the same time i think they find it hard to forget about my position when we go out socially and its a case of look at the drunken manager.

uberwolf if you said something on boards gave you opinion on something and your g/f is allowed get pissed off with your opinion i think just like if you aired it in a a conversation. i wouldn't let it get serious though and i wouldn't hide behind my persona and say it wasn't me

uberwolf

Originally posted by Dataisgod
uberwolf if you said something on boards gave you opinion on something and your g/f is allowed get pissed off with your opinion i think just like if you aired it in a a conversation. i wouldn't let it get serious though and i wouldn't hide behind my persona and say it wasn't me

I agree, just it surprised me a little first time it happened

Woden

aye damn them women, somewhat on topic i don't think i would have been comfortable if the girl i used to go out with was a regular poster here the potential to lead to disputes would be large i think

ShriekingSheet

I know one guy well enough from boards who i used to work with and thats pretty much it

i see it as just another medium of conversation! If he said something directly to me in a thread that pissed me off and i met him later that day- YEAH id be pissed off and take it up with him!

If he said something to someone else in a thread about anything that pissed me off Id treat it the same as hearing him speak to somone else in the pub beside me and at the right moment id say "OI! ... etc"

Its the same as any other medium to me

But me and him see eye to eye on most things anyway sso i dont really know

DMT

I've ripped the piss out of nutzboutstuff for this and the fact that his girlfriend uses the nick nutzboutstuff2.... lame

Superman

yeah I know bahairy, ferdi, spoirt, Leo and shane (forgot your names on boards).

And we don't bloke out boards stuff when talkin offline!

If a person is sound normally they will generally be the same online, and same if they are a boring bastard.

KlodaX

I know people on boards offline .. but I don't really make the connection.
we don't talk bout stuff on boards ... and I actually see them as completely different people from their boards characters.

I wouldn't want people to take me a redRogue... I've more than one boards user name and each character is different depending on what humour I am in.

In real life you'd see this ... the tone of my voice ... body language ... you miss all this online. I used to think that what a person types is a true reflection on their character ... but then I met people after talking to them online for a while and found I was sadly mistaken.

You have so little to go by ... they are just words. You can't encapsulate a person or a feeling or an idea all that well in words. Things on boards can be taken to mean completely different things to different users. I'd really hate if someone who read my posts that knew me in rl thought differently of me because of them.

Honestly ... I post alot of cra*p when bored at college.... random stupid thoughts ... I really don't think its any reflection of me in rl...

and as I said .... the posts I read of other people I know in rl... I don't think they reflect them at all.

simu

I don't mind debating and disagreeing online or in the real world but there are standards of courtesy I'd expect in both situations so I would be annoyed if I got flamed.

I'd also avoid standing up for sb I know in real life in a debate online and so on because it's a bit dishonest - the other posters mighn't know we knew each other.

That said, I only know 1 guy on boards and he dosen't post that much here so it's not a big problem.

secret_squirrel

I had kinda the opposite issue, shortly after making my first few posts on another irish board, she [edit] (my flatmate) [/edit] gave me an ultimatum...stop posting there (coz its "hers") or she was moving out.......

Wonder what she was saying that she didnt want me to read

Oriel

If my girlfriend was on here, and I admitted that I'd committed rape/a murder, you're asking if that would affect what she thought of me?

KlodaX

If my girlfriend was on here, and I admitted that I'd committed rape/a murder, you're asking if that would affect what she thought of me?

but would you be serious? .. .twould be hard to tell

The_Goose

Originally posted by Sinecure
If my girlfriend was on here, and I admitted that I'd committed rape/a murder, you're asking if that would affect what she thought of me?

Thats just stupid!!!!

What i m sayin that this is just a conversation noting more than opinions, thoughts etc!And if you goin judging people on what they post here your a sad sad person!!


As for loismustdie, say this was a game of soccer in a school yard and one FRIEND was the ref and the other FRIEND was a player, the player commits a fool, sent off, they have a laugh about it!!! The ref doesnt lose the plot during every game, and doesnt tell the player that there not friend s anymore because of it(whinging bitch)!!!