Cant Last Long Enough!!

Kingp35

My girlfriend and I have been having sex for about 2 months now. We were both virgins before hand. The problem is that i just dont seem to be able to last long during intercourse only usually 1 - 2 mins. I was able to last for over 5 mins one time but that was only one time and i cant think of anything that I did different to be able to last that long.

My girlfriend says that it is ok because i please her in other ways but i feel very embarrassed about this and i want it to last longer because i want it to be just as good as her as it is for me. Its starting to get me pretty down.

Any advice you can give me will be a huge help!! thanks

bdiddy

first thing(easy said):: dont let it get to you, it could lead to pressure and concequent inability to preform. Usual solutions include stopping mid action for a cupla seconds, masturbating before hand or just have a cupla pints..

Turner

Originally posted by bdiddy
masturbating before hand

Or maybe she would oblige as she would probably benefit from doing this in the long run...

Zombrex

have a **** before hand ... either with or without the help of you g-friend ... and then wait 5 minutes ...

Adrian

I believe a man can last as long or as short as he wants with practise. Its all to do with the mind. Like i can cum in a minute if i want to, or i can wait 10 to 15 minutes before I come. Its what i am thinking about that changes my times. If I think about sexy thoughts I'll cum faster. the key to it is to think of unsexy thoughts and sexy thoughts. Keep alternating. Cause if you just think of unsexy thoughts you wont enjoy it. Oh yeah, and take a few seconds break every minute or whatever to just kiss her or something. I know a very good website that probably has articles and everything on this but it is hidden behind a lot of porn sites so I cant actually igve you the link here. Try searching google for it though. You should find it.

Emboss

I agree with adrian there...

if in doubt think of maggy thatcher

if she was before your time

here's a reminder

http://news.bbc.co.uk/olmedia/1375000/images/_1375189_thatcher_resign.jpg

The Beer Baron

http://members.boards.ie/the_beer_baron/baseball.jpg

The Beer Baron

woolymammoth

ya, it does take.. i won't say practice.. but time.. for your bell end to desensitise a
little.. so, in the mean time, hone your skills on pleasuring her in other ways..
i.e. cunnilingus and what not.. if you can make her cum before your pecker gets
anywhere near her, believe me, it won't matter how long you last..

because its all about what you can do. and you can do lots without your member.

tip 1. women want to be pleasured. so go pleasuer her.

http://www.sexuality.org

if all else fails.. its like Emboss said.. but don't let it come to that..

Agent Orange

Watch Schindler's List before you get it on. You'll be too traumatised to ejaculate.

Dr. Loon

Think of Russian tractors....



Unless, of course Russian tractors turn you on.

Linoge

Originally posted by Dr. Loon
Think of Russian tractors....



Unless, of course Russian tractors turn you on.

Better than Baywatch!

You say you are both virgins and at a guess I'd say that she's on the pill now. If she is and your going "raw deal" use a condom. It works fairly well. Theres Durex condoms that numb your little friend aswell. Not sure how good they work though. A friend of mine said he went totally limp after using it! Good luck!!

Think Margaret Thatcher on a russian tractor going through a concentration camp.;)

Walter Ego

Originally posted by Kingp35
My girlfriend and I have been having sex for about 2 months now.

How long do you want to last FFS

lordsippa

If it continues being way too fast try extreme measures... imagine it's your mother. If that's a bit too extreme, imagine it's your mother but wearing a mask.

Dr. Loon

Originally posted by lordsippa
If it continues being way too fast try extreme measures... imagine it's your mother. If that's a bit too extreme, imagine it's your mother but wearing a mask.

Holy ****!!!! :eek:
You're a sick motherfúcker

Dr Pepper

Originally posted by Silent Death
How long do you want to last FFS

Brilliant..

I remember being the same at the start. It may just be a case of over-excitment and needing experience to get into your own rhythm. Don't think about it.. Just do it!

Sleipnir

Originally posted by lordsippa
If it continues being way too fast try extreme measures... imagine it's your mother. If that's a bit too extreme, imagine it's your mother but wearing a mask.

Jeez he wants to last longer not throw up on the auld gal.

Caoil

In all fairness......you are the first guy she's had......she won't know any better.
Anyway girls are much better at accepting other peoples inabilities. She probably loves you for you and not 2/10 or 15 mins of pleasure every other day.

So what are you worrying about?!

paulthelegend

Haha i like caoil's way of thinking, shes the first so ... after 2 mins if you cum then just scream that your the god and that u dont know how you lasted that long haha

But no i dont agree with thinking bout your mother with or without a mask... if you loose controll then your gona blow... dont be thinking bout your best fantisy or anything just think about whats going on right now and controll it, if your coming close then stop... but even better then that... if you cant last long on your first go then either get head or have a **** or what ever then dont worry about it... or try really hard positions that she will only want to last a few minutes like coming out of a club up an alley way ... bet she will be happy with 2 minutes then haha or in her parents living room while the ma and da are out making the tea... she will be screamin for you to hurry up haha

On a stag weekend we were in a sex shop and seen desensitising creams ... couldnt figure out why the hell you'd want to do that to yourself, but maybe its for this issue.

Creature

Ok someone posted this in another thread I was looking at. Just think of



this


P.S. don't blame me if it stops you from 'performing' ever again.

Emboss

Originally posted by Creature
Ok someone posted this in another thread I was looking at. Just think of



this


P.S. don't blame me if it stops you from 'performing' ever again.

f*cking classic hahahaha

MoosemaN

Myself I do not think you should be laying there and thinking about other things than what you are actually doing with your gf.

She deserves all the attention that you can give her, and you will not be able to do that if you are off thinking about some baseball game or someones momma..

What it all comes down to is practise and getting a bit of "skin" on your dick.

Like someone said before, enjoy some oral or let your play with your willy. Then wait approx 15 minutes an get at it.

I have a long distance relationship and when I see my gf then I cannot last very long the first 1 or 2 times. But if you have sex 3-4 times a day, then you are bound to last much longer everytime.

Moral of the story, have sex likes rabbits and you do fine.

jesus_thats_gre

I reckon its her fault, blame the chick


Mind you, if you want to turn it around a bit, just tell her she turns you on too much and you cant help it

po0k

Wear a condom.
It'll reduce the sensitivity a great deal and is a bit healthier in general anyways.

When I started out I had the oppoiste problem, took me quite a while to find my groove.

Also, because she's a virgin she's probably tight as a...well, as a virgin

But deffinately take the advice on the cunnilingus, or cum on her tats beforehand, then go down on her while you get your second wind.
Going at it like rabbits will train you in and I doubt she'll complain, as long as you use a bit of lube to stop her chafing after a while. You'll notice when she does, she'll have a painful expression on her face, as will you, as your foreskin is being pulled back and your banjo string is being stretched passed operating tolerances. >.<

Whatever you, enjoy it

catsup

Originally posted by Creature
Ok someone posted this in another thread I was looking at. Just think of



this


P.S. don't blame me if it stops you from 'performing' ever again.

mother of god. :eek: ROFLMAO

think im traumatised

in the words of homer simpson...
"think non-sexy thoughts!...think non-sexy thoughts!"

Sleepy

What Syxpak said.

Plus, when you feel yourself about to come, slow right down for a while...

You didn't mention what you've been doing in the lines of foreplay before going at it. Try keep the foreplay focused on her and you'll probably last longer than if you've been getting head/a handjob before going at it. If you're doing it right she should loosen up a bit too which will make you last longer...

red_ice

me nan on the bog, me nan on the bog...

Chill - practise makes perfect

Memnoch

get a condom, I can last pretty much indefinately till my girlfriend cum's with one of those on. I can kind of do it without a condom as well, but I lost control once, and we had a lot of hassle with the whole morning after pill thingy so we always play it safe now, as she doesn't want to go on the pill.

edit - oh ya - also engage in a bit o' foreplay b4 u go in as that will make her cum faster. The sooner she cum's the less you have to last :P

Puck

9 times tables my good man!

Keep at it, as far as learning through trial and error goes there's not many better activities to be doing.

Sleepy

Originally posted by Memnoch
get a condom, I can last pretty much indefinately till my girlfriend cum's with one of those on. I can kind of do it without a condom as well, but I lost control once, and we had a lot of hassle with the whole morning after pill thingy so we always play it safe now, as she doesn't want to go on the pill.

edit - oh ya - also engage in a bit o' foreplay b4 u go in as that will make her cum faster. The sooner she cum's the less you have to last :P

You do know that withdrawal is no kind of contraception?

Iron Petes

Coitus Interruptus:eek: I thought that went out in the eighties

Johnny Versace

As someone said earlier, I'd say a HUGE part of the problem is that she is very tight.

Two girls I slept with recently -

1. Nearly a virgin, very tight, I couldn't last longer than 3 minutes.

2. Has a kid, vagina kind of "loose". I can shag for as long as I want.

So don't take it to heart, it may not be totally "your fault".

Changing positions works well for me, as well as the usual thinking about funerals/whatever.

Also, as I get more comfortable with the girl I find I can control how long I want to last. You'll prob find this will be the case for you also.

Best of luck

Memnoch

Originally posted by Sleepy
You do know that withdrawal is no kind of contraception?

ya I do, at the time we thought it worked, and the truth is that she didn't get pregnant despite us engaging in this for several months

(lets hope we don't run into fertility problems later on ).

Anyways now having studies obs and Gynae, we know the failure rate for "withdrawl" as a method of contraception is 25%+ lol

LegacyUser

tbh me and my boyfriend have the opposite problem-he can make me orgasm no problem, but when we have sex its impossible to make him do the same. think of it like this, at least your girlfriend knows she can please you, its preferable to not being sure whether the guy is insensitive or you're just really bad at turning him on.

LegacyUser

Think of it like this- at least you don't have the opposite problem, in that she can't make you come at all. Me and boyfriend suffer from it, and its not fun, he's damn insensitive (masturbating daily for years) where as I'm the opposite. At least she knows she can please you, and that you find her sexy etc. It gets frustrating when although you're both virgins one of you is impossible to make cum.


Try masturbating daily. Proven case.

D

There are a couple of different ways for withholding ejaculation. Most widely used is when it begins to feel that you will ejaculate start clenching your spincter and prostate muscles. The equivilent of trying to stop yourself from urinating or "going number 2". Practise when not having sex, or try doing it from the very begining of sex. With your thrusting, slow it down and keep it slow for as long as possible, obviously this won't last but try. Another way is to hold your scrotum in your hand and when you start to feel the urge, pull down GENTLY. The girlfriend might have an easier time doing this than you. Just make sure she understands the maximum pull she can exert before it hurts. Sex is heavily influenced by your mental state of mind. When trying any of the above techniques picture and envision not ejaculating. If you are still worried about it take care of your girlfriend first before you enter. You could aim for her being on the edge of climax and then enter to bring her the rest of the way. Please note that a change in the momentum of stimulation for women, especially near climax can be off putting so to play it safe satisfy her before you start. Also start the stimulation gently and when she is close maintain your rythym and speed. Don't forget the obvious, plenty of foreplay, make sure she is nice and excited and relaxed. Remember don't make a big thing out of it, the key of a good healty sexual relationship revolves around trust in one another and being comfortable in one anothers presence. I'll assume you know how and where to stimulate.

Sleepy

Originally posted by so_and_so
tbh me and my boyfriend have the opposite problem-he can make me orgasm no problem, but when we have sex its impossible to make him do the same. think of it like this, at least your girlfriend knows she can please you, its preferable to not being sure whether the guy is insensitive or you're just really bad at turning him on.

Use the biggest errogenous zone in any man's body: his brain. Find out what fantasies he has and try play a few out... He'll get just as big a kick roleplaying some of your own fantasies as well. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with but I'd imagine something as simple as a nurses uniform / lingerie from Ann Summers etc would help push him over the edge. Don't let him know why you're doing it: making a big deal of any part of a guy's sexual performance is the quickest way to making matters worse. Just relax and talk about what turns you both on etc. (This can be great fun if you do it by text message/whispered into each others ears when you're in a public place etc..) Another thing could be to try some of the gossamer condoms, these are much thinner and allow for a lot more sensation...

tinkerbell

When you're doin her, go really really slow n gentle, and then you can quicken up the pace a bit, then when you think you're about to blow, slow down again or stop for a few seconds. You'll last longer that way, and after a while of practising, you'll be able to last longer in da long run!

oq4v3ht0u76kf2

When my girlfriend and I first started having intercourse it was the same... we were both 15 at the time (about 18 months ago) and to be honest I'd say the first ten times we had sex I lasted about 15 minutes between them all, she came once or twice but that was all.

I felt kinda guilty, ashamed... all the stuff you're feeling now but at the end of the day you are not intentionally ejaculating too soon so as to rob your girlfriend of pleasure. You just haven't learned to totally control yourself yet.

Even with 18 months of practice I still have some off days and I might come really quickly which can leave the better half a bit grumpy unless you take care of it quickly with some tounge action. Of course if she wants a good ****ing and nothing but then she might be a bit pissed but just deal with it and let it pass.

The biggest problems really are mental. I'm sure when you're having a **** you can last for ages but that's because you're in complete control. When you're having sex with the girlfriend you only have ab out one third control... she has another third and pure lust / passion / horniness can take over the last third of things.

Just focus on things at hand, enjoy the sights, the smells, the taste, the feeling of your dick inside her is only one part of a glorious whole. No pun intended. Sex is brilliant, it is a fun activity and should be looked at like that.

Don't be worrying about coming too soon or not pleasuring her or any of that ****e. If you two are really in love then she will just enjoy knowing she's pleasing you and with time you will learn how to control yourself more. Just have fun doing it and never forget, sex is only a small part of your relationship so don't let it come between you or anything silly like that.

Finally, from the sounds of things you're still quite young like myself so for the love of Christ use some sort of protection! No-one wants kids at our age and there's no excuse for not taking precautions. Seens as you are both virgins and have only been with each other you're more or less covered against STDs but use a condom, get her on the pill... whatever! Just make sure you are using some sort of protection!!

MojoMaker

Mods might want to intercede at this point lest that last post kick start the usual round of name calling...

LegacyUser

Originally posted by OrangeRhino
I'm sure when you're having a **** you can last for ages but that's because you're in complete control. When you're having sex with the girlfriend you only have ab out one third control... she has another third and pure lust / passion / horniness can take over the last third of things.

I am a virgin and when I have a **** I come in under a minute. So, jesus, I wonder how long i'll last during sex.

BTW, MojoMaker, what the hell are you talking about. He's only giving the man a little advise.

po0k

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MojoMaker

Read his post again alg and you should see what I'm on about. Actually the first line is all you need to read. Not something to be going around advertising, even if boards is fairly anonymous...

Beruthiel

Originally posted by MojoMaker
Not something to be going around advertising, even if boards is fairly anonymous...

well, only this week Gordie stickified a thread to the effect ‘you own your words’
B

][cEMAN**

Originally posted by alg
I am a virgin and when I have a **** I come in under a minute. So, jesus, I wonder how long i'll last during sex.

No that's just from practice. You're getting good at it :P I can blow in 1 and a half strokes now

ShriekingSheet

"hello, my name is....."

*splash!!*

Beruthiel

try to keep it on topic ladies
B

Turner

Originally posted by Beruthiel
try to keep it on topic ladies
B

Hah you find me a lady that can come in 1 minute...

kinda on topic