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Love, Santa, Easter Bunny, all Lies

  • 05-02-2004 12:11am
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    Closed Accounts Posts: 210 ✭✭


    Is it that we in our nature feel lonely naturally and have a built in of desire to feel the need for a close companion in life when it suits? (e.g. she looks pleasent, I will convince myself I 'love' her)
    Or is it something to do with the ego in a twisted indirect fashion?

    Just curious really as to why people think we 'need' relationships??? (Or even get into them in the first place).

    Btw when I say reasons I mean for anything besides sex;) - Thats is the obvious one


    Go on, give us a few reasons..........


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,306 ✭✭✭NeMiSiS


    Drunk yeh ?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 742 ✭✭✭Senor_Fudge


    GOOD point man great point may i say but you could be a trifle polite and pass that joint you're smoking, i think ya had enough ;)


  • Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 93,567 Mod ✭✭✭✭Capt'n Midnight


    Because about two billion years ago bacteria found a defense mechanism against viruses.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,816 ✭✭✭Calibos


    Reasons? Well Romantic Love is just chemical and a product of evolution ie to keep us with a mate for the good of the offspring but tbh I don't think thats taking anything away from it. So what if its not a metaphysical or spiritual thing. So what if its all endorphines. It still feels damn good and makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Theres nothing better than feeling so much for someone that you would do anything for them even lay down your life to protect them.


  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    deimos

    what exactly is your Personal Issue with this?
    B


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,929 ✭✭✭MojoMaker


    He just got dumped..


  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    Originally posted by MojoMaker
    He just got dumped..

    most likely
    I would prefer if he had asked the question with regards to himself and the reasons behind his thinking, there are definately reasons for his comments but he’s just not saying.
    I will leave the thread open till he comes back and tells us the reasons, if he doesn’t I’m binning it
    B


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,500 ✭✭✭Mercury_Tilt


    This post has been deleted.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,875 ✭✭✭Seraphina


    humans are social in nature. we need people
    /me shrugs.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 210 ✭✭deimos


    na not stoned or even drunk, and not just dumped..............

    The personal issue behind this is that I see so many people I know in and out of relationships. All they do is nag and whine, and end up worse then they were in the begenning. I feel left most of the time because I am not going out with anyone(most likely something to do the ego I have, and as do we all), just wondering are there good reasons to go out with somebody...........
    In short, constant moaning and whining has scared me away from them, and nobody has ever shown me the good, is there any good? or is it as I previosuly said

    "Is it that we in our nature feel lonely naturally and have a built in of desire to feel the need for a close companion in life when it suits? (e.g. she looks pleasent, I will convince myself I 'love' her) "



    As most of you are thinking, if this is the greatest problem I have little or no problems at all


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,835 ✭✭✭BoB_BoT


    Originally posted by deimos

    "Is it that we in our nature feel lonely naturally and have a built in of desire to feel the need for a close companion in life when it suits? (e.g. she looks pleasent, I will convince myself I 'love' her) "

    about being lonely I'd say that's true, although being in a relationship feels good and perhaps it's a comfort thing and justifys most relationships. About the convincing yourself that you love her just because, I don't think that's true. Love is perhaps a mental state achieved by being with someone for so long, but I can only see a person reaching that level if there are a lot of positive feelings and experiences. To be honest, if you date a girl that only seems half interested, can't be bothered to make an effort with you, is constantly angry or upset with you, you're hardly going to "love" her. And by "love her" i mean be willing to do anything for her or visa versa. imo love is developed on the way a person acts and if you find them appealing i.e. interestes, thoughts, even some flaws then perhaps that's love, but love isn't built on looks, so I'd guess you can't say that you love a girl just based on her looks, etc...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,821 ✭✭✭Skud


    and nobody has ever shown me the good, is there any good?

    That's your problem... If anyone "loves" you they'll show you the good. If they don't not worth the whole process unless you horny :)


  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    Originally posted by deimos
    Is it that we in our nature feel lonely naturally and have a built in of desire to feel the need for a close companion in life when it suits?

    of course it’s in our nature, it goes right back to the cave man were we only survived in packs and women needed a man to kill the mammoth so he could feed her and their offspring, those instincts are still there

    e.g. she looks pleasent, I will convince myself I 'love' her)

    that just lust, another instinct

    eventually you will find someone to love, and it’s wonderful to have another person there to ‘watch your back’ so to speak, the world's a harsh place and it’s so wonderful to have someone else there to share that with
    also remember, people tend to b!tch and moan about their problems but don’t tend to spend hours telling you how wonderfully fantastic their partners are, why would they? you’d be bored after a while, especially if you happen to be single at the time, who needs to know that everyone else is having a wonderful relationship when you’re not, you’d tend to think they’re just rubbing it in


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,016 ✭✭✭✭vibe666


    the 'need' to be with someone is all down to natural selection. it's most likely some gene somewhere in us that is passed down from generation to generation. if you don't 'need' someone then you will vastly reduce your chances of procreation, and then sustaining that offspring.

    even with lust which can help the act of creating offspring greatly, the chances of that offspring surviving with only the mother to care for it is minimal, as the mother can't look after the child and provide food for herself and the child at the same time without leaving it at great risk.

    hence the feeling to 'need' to be with and stay with the same person. father figure goes out and hunts, mother takes care of the home, and the genes of both parents survive in the child who grows up and follows this on to the next generation.

    admittedly it's not something that holds true today, but we haven't been in this kind of society long enough for things like that to be bred out of us.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 163 ✭✭DUX


    I agree....he has just been dumped, but sometimes I wonder the same (everytime I get dumped, which happens pretty often) :p


  • Moderators, Regional East Moderators Posts: 21,504 Mod ✭✭✭✭Agent Smith


    you mean santa isnt real?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 210 ✭✭deimos


    agent smith, its hard the first time you discover, but its true, its all true......


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