Sneaky bullying at work

inaccessibleisl

Well I don't know if it would fit under the title of 'bullying' however it is sneaky and seriously rage inducing.
You know the score, someone walks by tells you to do something (with a really sharp tone in their voice), that has to be done anyway or you were about to do. And these people aren't even higher up the ladder by any means. And when you do this, you know to yourself you were going to do it, but they think you did it cause they ordered you to. Therefore you wait for the next time for them to try it again, 'go on, try it fugger, I'll rip your ears off', then you forget about it and BAM! they do it again catching you off guard. Your absolutely raging now. They think they can push you around, but you know if they would just wait around after they shouted their order you'd tear them a new rectum. They never wait to get a reaction, they always disappear, or in some situations like in front of your boss where you can't do nothing.
It happens to everyone at some point, more so when your younger but it just happened there to me, by some English B*tch on the phone. I feel the rage once again. I also feel for those young people starting jobs who have to deal with the same sh!t. Does anyone else have similar accounts of such 'sneaky bullying' or whatever the fuk it's called.

Rant over. Rage not.

Riamfada

It can actually be classed as mental bullying. I had it with some Spainish Dyke when I started my job. However I got promoted and now im HER boss.... HA ha ha hAH ha ha .

inaccessibleisl

No. But in our place there is a wanabee yank (so cringy it's sick) who always portrays himself as some sort of hot shot with newbies, until someone warns them then his plan falls apart.
I'm not talking about winding people up now. I do that, we all do that, but I mean scum who are dead serious, it's like they get a power buzz when they act like this. Thank the lord their isn't American style gun licenses here or half all my workplaces would be dead. Then again, I am moving to America courtesy of a green card in 2 months, ha ha, watch out for a crazy gun wielding Irish guy go nuts.

Rabies

do it the american way.... bring a gun to work

dod

Originally posted by Rabies
do it the american way.... bring a gun to work

This idea should be seriously scrutinised. How much of the bullshit that currently goes on in work that passes for 'political manoeuvering' or 'jockeying for position' would happen if the protagonist knew that the subject had a gun on his person?

Allowing employees to carry guns in the office would lessen an awful lot of the bullshit that happens in the workplace, and if it was rolled out in a considered, phased way, we would have less infidelity in relationships, a more tranquil city centre after club closing hours, less queue hopping... plumbers wouldn't dare overcharge, checkout assistants would never be sullen, bouncers would learn to be polite and accomodating, feuding couples would learn to tolerate each others foibles...

There is no downside to arming the populace, not least that it will assist in the eradication of workplace bullying.

RABIES FOR PRESIDENT

inaccessibleisl

I second that motion. A family armed with tasers/stun guns will soon learn to
stop their bickerin. Think about it.
dod for Vice President.
Inaccessbible Island for Minister of executions.

Borzoi

Alabama 3
. This place would be a paradise tomorrow if every department had a supervisor with a submachine gun.

I just cant agree more:D

Riamfada

well this went a BIT OFF TOPIC

SheroN

not really a surprise for around here.

rymus

**** at work... theres nothing new there. Wouldnt it just be horrid if the gob****e in question happened to trip, fall and land on your closed fist; Several times in quick succession.

Stark

Not this type of bullying in particular, but in my last job there was a lot of bullying directed towards the part-time staff (made up of students).

RicardoSmith

The best way to deal with people who do this, is to ask them to email the details to you listing everything including what needs to be done etc. Then when you get the email, who'll they'll cc to EVERYONE, you reply saying that you'd spotted it earlier and its already sorted or that you are already aware of the issue, cc'ing everyone in return.

If they ask you why you wanted in email, you can say its good to have a record of it, and then add it saved you typing it up.

Then wait for the explosion on the far end.

D!ve^Bomb!

Originally posted by inaccessibleisl
just happened there to me, by some English B*tch on the phone. I feel the rage once again.

Originally posted by grimes
I had it with some Spainish Dyke.

i fail to see the reason why the words English and 'dyke' were used in both those sentences.

TacT

PI?

Raphael

Originally posted by newband
i fail to see the reason why the words English and 'dyke' were used in both those sentences.

[sarcasm]

How very PC of you newband

[/sarcasm]

tba

just keep playing along and do your work, even do some of theirs this gets them lazy and confident, then after a while just stop doing their work and they will not know what hit them. make sure the boss sees how much you are doing. A good way to do this is send him questions on the other guys work.

DUX

"Those who stand for nothing fall for anything." -Alexander Hamilton

Oriel

Simple, use your intelligence against him.
If he's smarter than you - you lose. Simple as that. Get used to it, it's not the last time it'll happen.
I'm not trying to be smart or anything, it's just that I've found that that's the way it works.

S.

ToxicPaddy

there are a few things you need to look at first before you do anything..

Who is this person in relation to the company, is he friendly with the boss:
(a) in work
(b) socially

If so, then there is little you can so, as his boss is ur boss or so it seems and if hes
mates with the boss, then the only thing you can do is go over your boss and this
wont impress him one bit..

If hes not friendly with the boss then look a little further into it.

Has he been in his current position a few years with so sign of a promotion?
If so then it looks as if the management see no potential in him and hes too fond
of his little bully boy tactics and power trips to notice this..

If this is the case, then my approach would be to bide your time and catch him
off guard some day in a hallway/stairwell or room somewhere and give him a little
warning about his behaviour.. you dont need to lay a hand on him, just kinda act
in a threatening manner and raise the voice a little, point the finger, ya know the
way I mean.. a work night out is another good place to do this..

This usually does the trick as most of these work place bullies wont go near you
again once you stand up to them...

If not, you can always take the official approach, go to the HR dept and lodge an
official complaint against him. Bullying in the workplace is a serious offence.

If you are a valued employee there and continue ur work as normal but tell them
otherwise, as in your work is starting to suffer.. they should be able to check your
level of work, see it as good but wonder what your work rate would be if you were
happier in the work place and take the relevant steps...

Might be worth a try..

Tox

inaccessibleisl

Are you refering to me? I'm not being bullied. I refering to all the young inexperienced people who have to put up with slimy freaks on power trips.
I was caught off guard yesterday that's all. It just reminded me of those times
when I was even less experienced in my work and people who refuse to do
something for you and give you some cock & bull excuse, now I more experienced
I know that their excuse is bullsh1t. My line of work is a bit complicated. Not too much but complicated if you've no experience. Doesn't matter whether you've the IQ
of 170 or 70 , if you don't know a certain field your clueless with that subject. Of course you can learn about it but if you don't even know what it is you can't be too
learned on the subject.

luckat

This used to happen to me in a job I was in a few years ago. After a while I discovered that to pause for a moment and then say: "Is this some of your concern?" in a surprised tone worked well.

But as ToxicPaddy points out, there may be wheels within wheels. The person who was ordering me around had started the company with another person, and had been gradually edged from partner to secretary.

It was a horrid place; lots of good pay, but constant power games, set up and encouraged by the boss, who liked to watch the underlings bicker for power. </shudder>

Ronika

I had a terrible time in my old place. It was a small family run company and I worked with a Danish girl who wouldn't know what nice was unless the boss r a friend was around. The way she said things were just a bit too sharp (though the boss didnt think so)and when it suited her she'd leave work that I wasn't even gettin paid for to do. Then another women started and my god she was even worse. She had a chip in her sholder the size of the apartments we were trying to sell. To cut a really really long story short I told my boss if the're behaviour continued I would inform Health & Safety. A big meeting was held but nothing came out of it beside me being accused of acting like a child. I left shortly after and now work in an office where the people treat you like a human its so great:p