Is she interested??

galwaydude

Hiya,

I met this girl in england over the weekend as was in the UK for the weekend, nothing happened apart from us becoming really good friends, i had this silly notion in my head that she was too good for me so didnt bother making a move , anyways after arriving back today got the usual amount of texts from her, which one asking was she invited back to dublin in the near future? And the offer is there to come back and visit her anytime!!! So what do u think, is she interested or what?

tinkerbell

She could be, or else she's jus bein really friendly.

galwaydude

thats what i was think, prob just been friendly, only time will tell i suppose!!!!

vibe666

well, invite the girl over, and get a few drinks in you both on a night out, then ask her if she thinks you could ever be more than 'just good friends' and see what her reaction is.

don't get dwon on one knee or anything, and don't confess undying love, just say you'd thought about it and you are really good friends and does she think that maybe there could be a reason why you're such good friends. there's obviously chemisrty there if you get on so well, so why not push it a little bit. jaysus you're irish, and those english girls love that (well, all girls apart from the irish ones:rolleyes:).

if she says no, then you just be casual about it and say oh well, i wasn't sure but i thought there might have been a spark there (or similar) and then without missign a beat start telling her that in that case she needs to find you another girl to take home cos you're feeling horny and your prospects for the evening just took a nosedive (jokingly).

you'll need a bit of charisma to carry this off without sounding like a prick, but if done right, you'll know one way or the other and still be able to stay friends either way.

Beruthiel

well
there's an easy way to find out
just ask her which weekend she'd like to come over
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galwaydude

cheers i will, give it a few days or a bit longer first though as we only met this weekend, dont want to be scaring the bejesus out of her lol

DUX

Don't wait too long though....

Dr Pepper

I'm sorry, I don't see the problem. You met this girl in ENGLAND at the weekend and now she wants to come to DUBLIN to see you?? I think you'll find: YOU'RE IN THERE MATE!! What more of a signal do you want?? Sheesh, some people don't know how good they have it :rolleyes:

Go for it..

misswex

Yeah, just go for it!! It would seem to me that she is interested and you have nothing to lose anyway

Good luck!!

JessieG

girl u know how long is willin to spend how much to get on plane and come over and see u?????

emmmmmhhhh hello....is that the pungent aroma of coffee i detect?

seriously though.....i would think the odds are in your favour

SheroN

7-1, they're the odds i'd give you. I'd recomend putting a few euro on it, not you're whole life savings.

Lump

Go for it, I will warn you, every english woman I've met in three years has said they want to come and visit me in Dublin.... I live in Kilkenny. I get the idea they want to visit dublin. Oh and english women love the irish.... LOOSE AS F...K


John

Agent Smith

Originally posted by Lump
Oh and english women love the irish.... LOOSE AS F...K


John

great isnt it

peterk19

one thought "You are in there"

galwaydude

well only time will tell if i am or not, thanx for all the replies though, muchly appreciated

Winters

Originally posted by Lump
Oh and english women love the irish.... LOOSE AS F...K

Fantastic.... im going over to the UK on Thursday, though Scotland more then England.

And dude, by the seems of things she would be, well very much so interested. Its not the kind of thing good friends say to someone after just meeting them really...

And as Beruthiel pointed out. In a couple of weeks a good weekend is coming up to find out.

galwaydude

latest is that i think she is letting me doen gently as her texts are less frequent now and when i was over at the weekend, on the saturday we were in a pub and a guy she was with last month(she claims it was a drunken mistake) was all over her, pestering and stuff(ie asking her outagain), she didnt exactly fight him off.And was supposed to call her tonight at 7:30 but she cried off saying she was having an early night.

galwaydude

the lastest is i think she is letting me down gently, a few reasons why i think this
she is texting me less now, was supposed to call her tonight but she claims she is having an early night at 7:30 pm as she only got 2 hours sleep last night, and at the weekend a guy she was with once last month started pestering her to c her again, she didnt exactly fight him off!!!!

Dr Pepper

Dude, you are reading into everything too much!! If you like her, you should have just texted when she suggested coming over and said: "Yeh sure, sounds like a plan, great..blah, blah".
As for her getting an early night: Who are you to understand the strange ways and signals of the female 'race'? Greater men have failed in that task before you, and will after Go for it with enthusiasm and confidence and stop look for the negative stuff!

po0k

Concetrate on getting your end away.
If she fecks off back to England and you never see her again, it's her loss tbh

galwaydude

cheers mate for the last comment and for everyones comments so far!!!

flogen

look at it this way, ever think that she thinks YOUR not interested, so shes backing off (with the texts etc), and that ex-bf thing could have been a handy way to make you realise your jealous of other people being with her.

look, if the friendship is dying down, then why not say something? youve nothing to lose at this point

Flogen

galwaydude

just an update, u were right, her texts now are well, i would be lucky to get one a day now, have been the last two days, i asked her does she want to meet up soon but she said yeah dont know when though. oh well i suppose thats it!!!!!!

po0k

Ask her if she's free on a specific date or weekend or something to call over for a night on the tear in Dublin/Galway.
If you get a negative reply, then call it done and dusted.

ClevererThanYou

Listen, chief. People hate each other in general. If anyone wants something from you, they're nice to you. So she wants one of the following:

Money
Sex
Relationship (possible headwrecker)
Green Card
To eat your kidneys

Do you really want any of those things except sex? A one in five chance? Not worth the risk mate.

po0k

She's from England.
She doesn't ned a greencard.

Your username is ironic.

Dr Pepper

Originally posted by ClevererThanYou
Listen, chief. People hate each other in general. If anyone wants something from you, they're nice to you. So she wants one of the following:

Money
Sex
Relationship (possible headwrecker)
Green Card
To eat your kidneys

Do you really want any of those things except sex? A one in five chance? Not worth the risk mate.

You are one twisted individual I like the strange simplicity of it though..

galwaydude

too right he is lol sounds like u had a few too many bad experiences.
got a message from her today that she will be over sometime in march aparently now!!

Slaanesh

I'd say let your intentions be known. If you get rejected, at least you know and can finally have peace in your mind. Coupled with probably not seeing her very often that's a pretty good deal !

Slaan.

JessieG

TELL HER lol

hey if it backfires you never have to see her! do it man!!!!!

Agent Orange

Originally posted by SyxPak
She's from England.
She doesn't ned a greencard.

Your username is ironic.

And you have been trolled. As regards you, his username is 100% accurate.

Beruthiel

Agent Orange
if you have nothing to add to the topic
refrain from posting
B

fig

she's a slapper. Dont waste your time with her.

reasoning. she's telling you about some dude who she met in a pub. She's only stringing you along because she kinda likes ya, might shag ya if she feels like it, but utimalty there is no feelings there for you.

And I know I spelt utimatly wrong, I just couldnt be bothered fixing it.

tman

Originally posted by JessieG
TELL HER lol

hey if it backfires you never have to see her! do it man!!!!!

heh, damn straight.
go for it "dude"

galwaydude

hey guys

thanx a mill for all your support and comments, am calling her tonight after i finish work, i think all she needed was a bit of space!!!! so wish me luck, didnt expect so many replies back when i started this thread so thanx everyone well aprt from the few odd comments i got back:p
Was talking to a friend bout this and she said to play it cool with her, as to not too scare her off, so far its worked and shes coming over in march for a weekend.

Trojan

Originally posted by fig

she's telling you about some dude who she met in a pub. She's only stringing you along because she kinda likes ya, might shag ya if she feels like it, but utimalty there is no feelings there for you.

This is a woman we're talking about, not a guy - they don't think like us, remember?

Girls, for some amazing value of "logic", think that telling a guy about other guys she's interested in will make the target jealous, realise that she's sought after, and therefore make him desire her more.

Yeah, in reality we're more than likely going to think "she ain't interested", but that's male/female communication for ya.

Dude, be cool, that's good advice. And go out and chat up some other women before she comes over - just so you're not too emotionally attached and come across too heavy again.

scojones

I'm really not trying to cause any trouble here, but i've always wondered, when i see a thread like this one 'is she interested'. Why not just ask her? I'm sure she'd tell you if she is interested or not. I mean come on.. how the heck are we supposed to know? We don't know you, or her...


Beruthiel this is a genuine question.. I'm not trying to cause trouble here.

galwaydude

well fair point mate but then again this is a boards site where u get ppl's opinions am i right? your right to an extent but i was only looking for some advice, impartial view from ppl i dont know as its a bit biased when u ask your own friends as they tend to be more on your side.

Trojan

Originally posted by sjones
I'm really not trying to cause any trouble here, but i've always wondered, when i see a thread like this one 'is she interested'. Why not just ask her? I'm sure she'd tell you if she is interested or not. I mean come on.. how the heck are we supposed to know? We don't know you, or her...

Cos one way to sure fsck things up is ask her straight out if she's interested. Demonstration of lack of confidence will turn her off him quicker than anything. And she thinks he already knows she's interested (but he doesn't, cos he's a guy).

It's actually fairly easy to tell from outside a situation if one person is interested in another. But if one is within the situation, then it becomes a whole lot different as emotions become involved.

I think the poster is thinking way too much about this girl and needs to make sure he doesn't get too invested emotionally before she comes over - for some reason guys seem to do this more than girls, dunno why when they're supposed to be the emotional ones. But from experience, my own and seeing others, this does tend to be the case.

Al.

galwaydude

your right i was over thinking the situation last week till a friend told me too chill out, so im going to calm right down and just take it as it comes and play it cool.

fig

Originally posted by Trojan
This is a woman we're talking about, not a guy - they don't think like us, remember?

I dont really buy this, while women do have a different set of priorities, women still have egos. The ego of a women likes to think she is the best and the most popular and the prettiest girl who can attract any guy she so chooses. Understand that, and men can go a long way to understanding women. In this particular instance, I smell a girls ego being pampered to.

Girls, for some amazing value of "logic", think that telling a guy about other guys she's interested in will make the target jealous, realise that she's sought after, and therefore make him desire her more.

Yeah, in reality we're more than likely going to think "she ain't interested", but that's male/female communication for ya.

yeah. head wreakers.

Dude, be cool, that's good advice. And go out and chat up some other women before she comes over - just so you're not too emotionally attached and come across too heavy again.

yeap, good advice.

wild_eyed

i wudnt go for it, if i was you......


has she got a record, or a conviction, find that out first. text her now and ask her, what was prison like?,

if she says , it was ok,
assume she was in prison for murder and stay away.

if she says, i wasnt in prison,
assume she's lying, most people who have been in prison will lie about it.

ll=llannah

The ego of a women likes to think she is the best and the most popular and the prettiest girl who can attract any guy she so chooses.

yet, if you actually meet someone who really likes to think that, run the other way, screaming if you like.