[SEE MOD BOARD _ DO NOT VALIDATE YET]Controlling My Feelings for to long

LegacyUser

Need help with all this..

1stly, Ive been in school for 5 years now and during that time i saw some one that I liked alot.. another male.. unfortuanatly me thinks, I think...


Anyways, the thing is it started about 3 years ago that I knew to myself that i liked this person. All this time though (my last year now Seconday school..) nothing has happened between us.. I know that might be hard to understand.. but basicaly it was all just looks.. but thats not really the problem.

The problem is I cant figure out if he likes me or ever did at that, and what I should do. Since its been such along time, I dont think I like the person as much as I did, but im not sure. I still enjoy being in his company though we never talk directly.. hard to explain that part really. The worst part of it all is I came home this week for Christmass holidays.. and I was working in a corner shop, when in comes this girl I really really liked from primary school unexpectantly. We hadent spoken or seen each other in 5 years.. but **** me we just said hi and all that crap, but there was that 'eye contact' thing you know that thing?! ... and all these feelings came flooding back. Now im all ****ing mixed up ..

When I saw this girl again, I knew I really really liked her.. not in looks or any of that, liked realy liked her.. The thing is, yet again I cant tell if she felt the same way back, though we did catch eyes.. you know that. Anyways **** it, if some one could help me on how the hell to know, or what to do.. or even discuss more it would help a load.. cheers.

BuffyBot

1stly, Ive been in school for 5 years now and during that time i saw some one that I liked alot.. another male.. unfortuanatly me thinks, I think...

First off, don't feel to bad over this. Loads of lads, much as they might be hesitant to admit it, have experienced the same feelings. Don't read too much into it, just yet.

Anyways, the thing is it started about 3 years ago that I knew to myself that i liked this person. All this time though (my last year now Seconday school..) nothing has happened between us.. I know that might be hard to understand.. but basicaly it was all just looks.. but thats not really the problem.

The problem is I cant figure out if he likes me or ever did at that, and what I should do. Since its been such along time, I dont think I like the person as much as I did, but im not sure. I still enjoy being in his company though we never talk directly..

If I were you, I'd say nothing to be honest. A few looks isn't enough to go on, and it doesn't sound the ideal situation to ask him straight out - so doing nothing might be your best course of action. The fact that you don't talk directly makes it even less likely that something might happen

When I saw this girl again, I knew I really really liked her.. not in looks or any of that, liked realy liked her.. The thing is, yet again I cant tell if she felt the same way back, though we did catch eyes.. you know that. Anyways **** it, if some one could help me on how the hell to know, or what to do.. or even discuss more it would help a load.. cheers.

Strike up a conversation with her next time you see her. You've certainly nothing to lose there.

ferdi

isnt Controlling My Feelings for to long a line in a muse song?

anyways, just say it to her, if she likes you all is well, if not it will be horribly akward and you'll run off in tears either way you've gotta try

ferdi

isnt Controlling My Feelings for to long a line out of a muse song?


anywayz....just ask her. if she likes you then all is well. if not then it'll be really horribly akwark and you'll run off in tears.....either way you've got to find out.

dendenz

go with the flow i suppose

weemcd

im in the exact same position with a girl who i liked, i just came out with it and asked her did she feel the same, she said it wasnt the right time so that could be an excuse now its all awkward.

carbonkid

we're all afaird of rejection,thats what scares you from making a
move after getting the eye contact ...which is why most people dont
make that move.
i say if it feels right make a subtle move like "hey" and if he/she reacts
to you,you have some where to go from but dont be too let down if they
dont react to it(easier said then done)
this is the same for everyone,i dont think theres an easy solution im
afaird but stick yourself out there.

yellum

Originally posted by Pushing us in
The problem is I cant figure out if he likes me or ever did at that, and what I should do.

How about doing more than the whole eye contact thing ? Just start by talking about any old shite and then go from there. Really eye contact could just be that and means nothing without the followups. You'll need to figure him out more and what his tastes are by interacting him him more.

Be prepared for rejection though cos our first crushes rarely reciprocate, but so what. Theres another 2 billion or so guys out there.


when in comes this girl I really really liked from primary school ... and all these feelings came flooding back. Now im all ****ing mixed up ..

When I saw this girl again, I knew I really really liked her.. not in looks or any of that, liked realy liked her..


Do you like her as in attraction of are the feelings of familiarity/nostalgia just mixing you up and making you think its attraction ? Again the same advice, do more than just the eye contact thing. Get talking to her and go from there.

Now why are you just concentrating on just two people ? Get out more and chat more with people and the more people you talk to the bigger chance you'll meet someone else you are attracted to and thats also attracted to you. The more people you know the greater chance of meeting the right person.

Don't waste your life with just doing the eye contact thing. Be more chatty and outgoing. Try it, it can be very rewarding. Best of luck.

Damien.