Deadlock

Grim

thanks qwertyphobia

I think I just needed someone else to tell me that.

qwertyphobia

Leaving aside the depression for a moment.

People behave in all sorts of different ways, however one of the things that under pins all of our different paterns of behaviour is quite simplely this

We behave in such a way because it gives us a certain payback.

We may have developed the pattern in the past when there was a clear pay off (young child acting out gets attention) and that pay off may not be as present now but that underlines the behaviour.

But it's amazing how fresh a light looking at things in this way can give you. Your not responible for your partners deperssion or other moods. One very clear big pay off they get of acting this way (however uncounsiciously) is that they get you taking care of them and changing yourself to try and fit what you think they need most at the present time.

How long has your partner been on anti-depresants?
In that time have they done anything else to deal with the under lieing issues?
have they other people who could support them? if not, why don't they?

Ask a diabetic if they regularly miss or overtake there medicine, you will find it's something that doesn't happen that regularly. If they are doing it and telling you are they telling this to their doctor? I douth it.

You need to look after yourself first and foremost

take care

Grim

Thanks qwertyphobia.

I think I just needed someone else to tell me that

Gordon

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