lads i need ur advice

karl

right heres the story im a 19yr old bloke and about 3 weeks ago i met this girl who is just amazing, beautiful lookin , good crack and great to be around the who i can really relate to and want be around . but the problem is that she has a kid .What do u do do u stay with the girl of ur dreams or do u run a mile

Bard

Personally, I stay.

Why should a kid be a 'problem'???

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Panda

By staying with the girl do u mean possible marriage? If so will u be able to cope with the pressure?Not that id know but, 19 is kinda young though. What age is she? The kid shouldnt be a problem if u want to be with her. But how can u not not to think about it?

UNIFLU

If this girl means that much to you dont let the fact that theres a kid there put you off. You should give her a chance as theres no use dropping things due to the kid, its not a massive thing.

Best of luck and joy.

Paladin

Dude, you are 19. Your still young!

Dont go commiting yourself to a single mother too quickly. I mean face it, after only 3 weeks it is probably a physical enfatuation, because I doubt you could get to know her that well so quickly. So leave it until you know her really well.
I would imagine that a long term relationship that involves a child takes a lot more commitment than your run of the mill relationship.

Get to know her better man. After a few *months* and if you know her really well, then you will know whats best.

Its should be obvious that if you arent sure what to do at the moment that you do need to give this more 'friendship' time.

[SN]JAG

and besides, you might like the kid................


(me leaves the las sentence open to the decerning sick joke fans )

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dendens

Love is blind but friensdhip has ts eyes closed.Build up a friendship with her first instead of diving in mate.It's what I'd do

elexes

man i know what ur at . but me personaly if the girl looks intrested you should stay just rember the kid comes first always

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what type of world will we live in when there is no world ?

Hobbes

Here's a good suggestion. Never show the woman this thread.

LegacyUser

The best thing like u have just been told!Dont ask here on the boards go with ur own self judgement choice comes from ur Heart not people on the boards.But on the other hand see bubbles he is just after gettin in to the field of counseling.

C B

What age is the girl?
what age is the kid?
Where is the father?
What are your plans if you don't stay with her?
how many girlfriends/relationships have you had in the past?

Personnally, 3 and a half years ago i was in the exact same situation. i jumped in head first and I couldn't be happier now. I'm getting married to the girl next August I have a great kid and i don't regret my decision for one second.

My advice would be to keep seeing her for a while but take things slowly (there is more than you and her to think about). Also try to get to know the kid and to accept him/her as part of the relationship (if you can't do that then things won't work out).

in the end of the day it's your own decision and your a big boy now so you'll have to do whatever you think is the right thing to do.

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Canaboid

At least you know she's putting out.

I'm going straight to hell aren't I.

Figment

Yes you are
I have also been in a simular relationship and i had no problems. As long as you know you are entering a relationship of 3. The kid will always be her first priority and if you can accept that and have no problems with it go for it. I wouldnt worry about that crap about being responsible for a kid and stuff. The relationship will have to be getting pretty serious before she'll alow you to have a major part in his life.
Course this is from my experience and may be totally different from your relationship.
Hope it works out m8.

Lord Khan

Don't ask us ... if we were any good with relationships what the hell would be be doing on these boards.

anyway we can't tell you what to do now can we.

Toulouse

I'd agree with an awful lot of what has been said...take it real slow mate. That child is a big part of her life...and what if you did get to know and love the kid? What's gonna happen if it doesn't work out? That child is gonna be just as confused and upset as both of you. You're only 19 and it may not seem like it now...but u've got an awful lot of your life to live..travel etc..so until you know for sure that you can make that kind of commitment..take it easy..there's no law against being a really good friend.

Lucutus

<voice of experience>
It's not worth it.
</voice of experience>

C B

<voice of different experience>
It might be
</voice of different experience>

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Lenny

LOL looks like he pilled the runner option
poor guy

ps. nice sig Jag

:Oj:

damo

all thats important here, my friends, is how attractive the girl is, the little ****er can be ignored....is she attractive enough to put up with the burden of ignoring a little c unt when you're around her?